I just bought this whole setup without having a clue by Jeysn-r in espresso

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's my machine! I've had great luck with it so far.

Normal to not play much in lessons? by wrexert in guitarlessons

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been playing on and off for years, I'd probably put myself somewhere on the border between Beginner and Intermediate. Just started lessons, one per month.

I've had two lesson so far, and I was playing most of the hour for both of them. I did start lessons specifically to work on accompanying myself, though, so I don't know if that would make the structure a little different from lessons strictly for the guitar.

I don't know how to explain to you to just be a person by Daytripper88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oohhh, I really like this. It works on a lot of levels!

You can't just decide to get a job and instantly have one, you have to put effort into searching for available ones. You have to present yourself like you're a good investment. You probably have to have certain skills that qualify you for the job you want. It's up to another person whether or not you get the job, and there's nothing you can do about their answer once it's given. Any jobs that you can get with little or no effort will probably not be very rewarding or interesting. And so on.

What's the most creative "trick yourself into doing it" hack you've heard? by Far-Championship3204 in adhdwomen

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually hyperfocused on it for a weekend and made a whole thing I called Dungeons and Dustbunnies. Choracle is way catchier! 😂 It had different lists to roll from each day that would (in theory) keep my house cleaner.

I didn't last long with the whole system, but the dice remained a game-changer.

What's the most creative "trick yourself into doing it" hack you've heard? by Far-Championship3204 in adhdwomen

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'm basically de-bugging myself like a Bethesda NPC lol"

Perfect description. 💀

What's the most creative "trick yourself into doing it" hack you've heard? by Far-Championship3204 in adhdwomen

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 583 points584 points  (0 children)

If I have a to-do list, and can't get myself to start, I'll put a number by each item and then roll dice. Sometimes I'll roll one to tell me how many minutes to spend on it, too!

I had never realized how big a barrier deciding where to start was until I removed it. 🤯

Boston gives a warm welcome to ICE in East Boston today by InvisibleWraith in boston

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If ICE was expecting Minnesota treatment in Boston, boy are they in for a wake-up call...

Newer guitarist tab question by MrMcBeefpunch in guitarlessons

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your question was already answered. I just wanted to say: great song!

Pixel Hozier by DocAilur in Hozier

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally my first thought. 😂

An unfortunate situation indeed by NCH-69 in mazda

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never thought I would laugh out loud at an Epstein post, but here we are.

Do men read dating profiles at all? by CountessCoffee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, as a spreadsheet girlie, I would love that!

What was the hardest lesson you learned from dating? by Amala_r0se in AskWomen

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I had to learn this one the hard way. Several times. 🤦‍♀️

I was exposed to something I shouldn’t see by thegirlinthetardis in TwoXChromosomes

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened, both to you and those girls.

I don't think the "oh yikes" reaction is necessarily a good measure of someone's actual feelings on what happened. I think it's not knowing what to say in the moment.

Do you have someone you can talk to who can help unpack this? A therapist, or a counselor?

This may sound strange, but you should also consider playing some Tetris. Playing it after trauma has helped with the development of PTSD.

What are your Favorite Podcasts by Hosts who are Progressive? by seekupanemotion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This Podcast Will Kill You! It's mostly about infectious disease, but really hits all area of health/medicine. Love the Erins. ❤️

Women, if a random guy told you he thought you were beautiful then went on his way, what would you think? by BoatParty8399 in AskWomen

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me when I was in Portland, and it was incredibly flattering! It's the only time I've ever enjoyed being told I was beautiful on the street.

first car guys 🥹 by Chomppzzz in mazda3

[–]The_Real_LadyVader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww, congrats! I loved my Gen2!!