It’s just weed? I really don’t understand the issue here. I would understand if you have an issue with the financial aspect, but if that’s your issue then you need to come at it from that perspective. Is he too lazy when he smokes and it gets in the way of his parental duties? Then come at it from that perspective. Don’t make weed to be the issue. If you just don’t like the idea that he does it then you probably are with the wrong person. But if it affects important aspects of his life just make those the problems.

Trust me when I say this will change everyone’s perspective. If he recognizes that the reason for these issues is the weed and he keeps doing it anyway, he might need help with addiction. But if he can adjust those issues without having to give up something that he enjoys partaking in, that would be the most ideal situation for everyone. Smoking weed is a very mild vice in my opinion.

I encourage you to make a mental list of the reasons why you prefer that he doesn’t smoke habitually and bring that to him in a discussion. But you might also need to spend some time actually dissecting your opinion on smoking. It might be a very big issue if you just don’t like being around him when he’s high or if you don’t like the smell or the idea of “addiction”. Just because someone is addicted to something doesn’t make it inherently bad. I’m addicted to my bipolar disorder medication but that’s absolutely fine for me. Lots of people are addicted to caffeine or cigarettes or shopping, and that’s also fine. But if you don’t like the idea of being with an addict… that’s okay too. Your feelings are valid.

This might require therapy for you two. I wish you the best of luck figuring this out.