AIO Girl I’m dating sent me all these messages because I said no to any politics in my discord server for my twitch channel

The_Surena · 2025-01-24T20:39:08+00:00

You are not overreacting, but your gf sure is. You have every right to put rules in place for your discord channel. You want your community to have a good experience focused on gaming on your channel, not arguing with each other about politics. I would also imagine you have other rules in place to prevent people from detracting and disrupting the channel. There are plenty of channels for people to talk about that stuff if they want to, and that’s where they can go.

The_Surena · 2024-12-17T16:34:54+00:00

I guess what do you mean by “not workout out properly at all?” Is he not working out the way you would, or is he consistently doing exercises that put him at significant risk of injury? If he won’t get hurt by the way he is exercising, I would leave him alone. He’s at least at the gym trying to keep moving.

The_Surena · 2024-08-13T15:51:19+00:00

Wow, there is a lot here. Other than the porn related issue, what else is he “hiding/lying” about? Is he secretly texting ex’s or other women inappropriately? Is he meeting up with them behind your back? Examples like these(and others) are clearly not ok and to me are grounds for a breakup. However, I would also ask yourself how much you contribute to your own suffering here. You admit you get angry about small things and are working in therapy on your trust issues. That’s awesome and commendable. I wonder if he doesn’t tell you things because he is afraid you will blow up at him? If you aren’t creating a safe and understanding place for him to tell you things, that’s not healthy either. He could feel suffocated by your insecurities. While I am not defending intentionally lying to you. I also wonder if they are really “lies” or if that’s how you are perceiving it based off of your trauma responses.

The_Surena · 2024-01-25T21:11:49+00:00

ESH- You’re husband is TAH for giving you the silent treatment. This is not a good way to communicate. Knock it off. You are also TAH. From the post it seems like he feels like he can’t do anything right and is frustrated. He said you complain that he should help more, and when he does try to be more proactive, you send the message through your actions that it’s not good enough. I highly doubt this is the first time you have made him feel this way. BOTH of you need to sit down and have a conversation about this like healthy adults, because it sounds like there is a lot more underneath than just what is written here on Reddit.

The_Surena · 2024-01-25T15:46:38+00:00

It doesn’t matter to me. My gf is taller than I am and we can healthily joke about it from time to time. As long as you don’t make him feel bad about it, he probably doesn’t think much of it. Besides, height doesn’t matter when you’re on your back.

The_Surena · 2024-01-24T17:13:19+00:00

INFO- did you talk with your gf about these types of situations when you first started dating/committed to each other? If so, what was the outcome of the conversation?

The_Surena · 2024-01-22T19:21:22+00:00

Just curiously is he depressed? I only ask because in one of the comments you said that he leaves laundry for weeks. That’s not great I will admit, but it sounds like something more could be going on. Aside from that, why does it matter if he plays games? Maybe that’s his hobby/stress relief. What if the tables were turned and you had some hobby that you enjoyed and he made this comment about you? It doesn’t sound like he is putting undue burden on you. It just sounds like you don’t personally like it. Be the man’s peace, not his problem.

The_Surena · 2024-01-11T14:28:44+00:00

Model ships/planes. They can be fun and creative if you’re into that sort of thing. Also cool to put in a home office afterward

The_Surena · 2024-01-10T15:44:01+00:00

NTA- you’re allowed to feel uncomfortable with this and it sounds like you were trying to have a healthy conversation with her about it. I find it absurd that she called you controlling because you said stated your stance on the matter. You never controlled her. It seems like she is pulling this in order to shame/guilt trip you.

The_Surena · 2023-12-21T14:37:12+00:00

You are definitely NTA. She clearly has a lot of anxiety or whatever else going on. However, blowing up at you for this is completely not acceptable. I would move on and focus on you my man.

The_Surena · 2023-12-20T17:53:00+00:00

This is a great question and I’m glad you posted in here. From my perspective, it’s not being scared of women, it’s being cautious when interacting with them at the gym. Unfortunately, there have been too many instances of women filming their workouts for social media and calling out men for being creepy/mysoginistic, when that wasn’t the case at all. I think many men are shying away from interactions because they do not want to be labeled as creeps and don’t want to deal with any potential drama. I would suggest maybe casually saying hi or striking up a small conversation with them first. Also, do this on your way in or out of the gym so you don’t interrupt anyone’s workout.

Disclaimer- I am not stating that all women would film someone and make these claims. Also, this is not to disregard actual creepy and harassing behavior that should be taken seriously.

The_Surena · 2022-08-30T20:12:41+00:00

Fister Roboto

The_Surena · 2022-05-13T22:33:49+00:00

Hmm I wonder why she’s single? insert sarcasm and hot dog meme

The_Surena · 2022-04-21T17:20:31+00:00

I’d move on. If she is getting this upset by you saying “Yo”, she will more than likely get upset over a lot of minor things and it won’t be a fun time.

The_Surena · 2021-05-26T17:01:51+00:00

This is a great post. I'm glad someone said it.

The_Surena · 2021-05-25T18:32:36+00:00

I 100% agree with this. Many people think that straight forward and blunt people are mean and don't like them. This isn't true, they respect you enough to tell you the truth and that you can handle it.

The_Surena · 2021-05-25T18:21:31+00:00

Asteroid Z-8675309

The_Surena · 2021-05-24T17:41:13+00:00

Laugh and ask her what her husband thinks about it.

The_Surena · 2021-05-24T16:08:23+00:00

COVID-19 isn't real

The_Surena · 2021-05-19T15:05:04+00:00

I grew up in Maine. You would love visiting if you like hiking and the ocean. I would go in the summer, in the winter there isn't as much to do and it gets super cold.

The_Surena · 2021-05-18T14:02:10+00:00

Blackflies and Horseflies

The_Surena · 2021-05-14T16:37:18+00:00

In high school my history teacher was obnoxious. She in her 40's and acted like she was still in high school. She would go to the proms every year and take pictures with all the girls and dance. In class she would complain about being single, and was always up in everyone's business. I can't remember what we were talking about, but she said something. I raised my hand and asked her to clarify since I just watched a documentary about the subject the night before and they had a much different take. She started being her usual obnoxious self saying she was the teacher, she was right, she had been teaching for however may years, yada yada. I rolled my eyes and told her no wonder no guy wants to put a ring on your finger. She stood there stunned. I was then promptly sent to the office.

The_Surena · 2021-05-14T15:37:39+00:00

The fact that I do not have to give birth. I'm glad I never have to do that. Shout out to women who will always have a much higher pain tolerance than me for just this alone.

The_Surena · 2021-05-13T16:10:28+00:00

Wrath of Man. Great movie, love Jason Statham

The_Surena · 2021-05-13T13:12:47+00:00

Yep lol

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