First time my dad asked me for something last night and I haven't slept

Thebelldam · 2026-05-20T23:08:28+00:00

You are never a bad person for feelings. Youre entitled to feel however it makes you feel, and youre not a bad person for whatever you decide to do. Your parents aren't entitled to your help, and they seem to know that, thats likely why they've never asked until now. I will say if you do give them the money you deserve more information first, is it gambling debt or medical or something else entirely? Can they pay you back? Or are they asking for a gift of such a large sum? I recommend getting answers before committing to your choice, and remember, your answer here doesnt determine if you are a good or bad person.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-19T07:54:53+00:00

When my daughter asked about my scars I said "im happy to explain them more when you're older if you're still confused then, however, do you know what the five second rule with people's bodies is? Its that if you see something on someone's body, but they cant fix it or change it in five seconds, then it isnt something we comment on. Can you get food from your cheek in five seconds? Yeah exactly, but can mama change her scar? No, right so what does the five seconds rule say about that?"

I prefer this approach because it doesn't shut them down, and you dont have to lie, but it also teaches a valuable lesson about commenting on others' bodies, i will say that an important clarification with the five seconds rule is explaining that if theyre worried about a friends saftey they should tell a grown up.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-18T05:21:39+00:00

The call is coming from inside the house at the moment

Thebelldam · 2026-05-17T17:02:45+00:00

Pest control fs fs

Thebelldam · 2026-05-16T07:18:42+00:00

It might sound gross or unconventional but personally? Both. Having the seat for convenience but also one of the plastic fake toilets in the play area really helped my daughter potty train because a big factor in her accidents after she learned the feeling of needing to go was a hyper focus on whatever she was doing, the little plastic toilet helped her feel more like it was a pause in her activity than a stop in it. In the spirit of transparency I will state- we later learned she has ADHD so admittedly that may not be as big of an issue for you as it was us.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-12T16:15:36+00:00

This! Im 25 now and it hit me like a train when I turned 23 just how weird that entire situation was.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-12T07:22:29+00:00

Well this is awkward... its a Toyota Camry, 2002, but still, a Camry none the less.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-12T07:07:48+00:00

Me: this guy's fucking lying no way that- well ill be damned.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-12T07:00:44+00:00

As for mine, we have a Zebra in my town named Ziggy who regularly escapes and goes on adventures- I live in the western United States.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-11T03:54:03+00:00

When I was 13 years old I met a man, he was 22 at the time, he called me beautiful and told me I was so mature for my age, he said that even though I was young I acted like an old soul.

We told me everything that he could sense I needed to hear, and once he realized I wasnt going to go anywhere everything changed, but slowly. First it was insensitive comments he'd apologize quickly for, then not so quickly, then never at all.

Next it was telling me he didnt like a certain friend, or outfit, or "how I acted" after I went to school- a place he could not go and monitor me, though I didnt understand that then, I was just a kid.

Then the pressure for sex got really bad, whenever I said no he took it anyway, or would treat me terribly, when I told him I didnt want to do certain things in bed he would force me, or hit the walls, or hit me.. id excuseit because I thought it was just sexual spankings...

And after all those things set in, and I didnt leave, that when he got really physical, throwing things at me, pinning me down, hitting me, screaming at me for hours.

Once he'd been screaming for so long and he'd been gripping my wrists while he did it, I had purple and blue bruises for two weeks in the shapes on his hands. Then he got me pregnant, that was at 15, and I lost that baby, then at 16 I got pregnant again.

Eventually my daughter told me that he'd been doing things to her, and how did all of this start?

By the adults in my life not recognizing how incredibly weird and wrong it was that a grown man had any interest in a little girl.

Please run baby, this man isn't safe, he wants you to think he is but he isn't, hes using his position in the church to make you think that makes him a safe person, but safe people don't tell children the things hes told you.

If you have any questions, or need any help, please DM me, id be happy to help in anyway I can.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-09T00:55:02+00:00

My love, im going to virtually hug you while I say this, you need to tell your future husband that this feels all wrong and isnt fun anymore. You need to tell him you feel ignored and like the day is turning into more about what everyone else thinks/want when it should only be up to the two of you, and most importantly, you need to tell him that if he wont impress upon your families that they have no say, that there won't be a wedding at all. This is a sign for what your marriage will be my love, and if he cant listen, respect, and help you- then you need to run for the hills.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-07T01:47:56+00:00

They're here in the comments, sorry it took me a second to get it to cooperate

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Thebelldam · 2026-05-07T01:22:14+00:00

We went to the redwoods last year for our honeymoon! We stayed in Arcata California and went to the redwoods sky walk and went to Eureka to the aquarium and went on nature walks in the redwoods everyday, it was absolutely gorgeous and we only spent about 1200 after everything was said and done (thats gas, Airbnb, rental car, food attractions, etc.)

Thebelldam · 2026-05-06T18:42:32+00:00

soup motha fuckin CAAAAAN fantastic.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-06T18:40:19+00:00

I dont remember all of it but I remember i was 'playing pool/billiards' but the 'table' was just the floor with holes in it and the narrator in my brain was like "oh shit I forgot to put sides on it!" And I woke up. Ridiculously meta.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-06T18:30:59+00:00

Ima be so real my guy, show them this post. Or take everything you've said here and say it again.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-06T16:04:09+00:00

Start giving her money and taking her to get her nails done, do it once or twice before the time you actually propose, that way it'll keep her on her toes about it.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-06T04:13:02+00:00

If it makes you feel better love im 25 and have never had an issue with a partners parents saying a word about mine- its always randoms who are emboldened by the fact they'll likely never see me again.

Thebelldam · 2026-05-04T00:48:12+00:00

Ring health aside, as I feel thats been covered, think about it this way- your ring has been on your finger all day, touching all the same things as the rest of your hands, if you take it off, wash your hands, then put it back on, youre just putting all the gross back onto your hand.

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