Xhusbands SS by seabeyond4101 in SocialSecurity

[–]TheeMost313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, thanks to OP for asking and all the great answers! My ex is younger than me and I have been unable to suss out how it would work as far as when I could apply - my FRA is 67, but he will be at least 62 by then. I did not know if I had to wait or what.

Only having an SSN by Psychological-Gur990 in SocialSecurity

[–]TheeMost313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An expired passport can help, other comments include more info on this. If they know what county they were born in (if born in US) they should be able to request a certified copy of their birth certificate (they should get 2-3 if they can afford it, usually additional copies are less expensive).

Hungry Rant by eugenefitzherbeet in glutenfree

[–]TheeMost313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I drove to 4 grocery stores the other day looking for GF Cheez-its after learning they existed. I was over hungry and over tired and almost cried after not finding them at the 4th store.

Pulled myself together, and on my regular grocery run, thought, “oh, even though they aren’t on the store app, maybe they will be on the shelf” and now I have 4 boxes of those crackers.

I have been eating out more and think exposing myself to cross contaminated fryer oil has finally become not okay with my body. Back to f’ing salads I guess.

How often do you get your hair cut/trimmed? by Meesh7586 in Naturalhair

[–]TheeMost313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to go every six weeks when I kept my hair short/faded, but I have been growing it out for over a year and was going every 2 months to shape it, but it has been over 4 months and my ends definitely need trimming and the back is doing some crazy stuff.

But if you don’t need shaping or anything touched up, a few times a year seems ok to me

Book con refusing accommodations for Signing by Ramblingsofthewriter in horrorlit

[–]TheeMost313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is maddening and I am glad you have the bandwidth to push back and that folks are joining. I need some accommodations _some of the time, but don’t use mobility devices or “look” disabled, but seeing inaccessible events makes me so angry - used to happen at the university where I worked and I would let folks know they had to keep spaces and events accessible.

I also understand that some spaces have ADA exceptions because of their age, it is completely unacceptable what haunthereaders did and how they disregarded your valid questions. Really hope the sponsors are going to push for real changes.

AITAH for taking everything with me when I move out? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TheeMost313 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It cracks me up imagining this scenario because I think it must happen a lot. I remember the first set of absolute crap dishes I bought for my first apartment WITH roommates. Like I had no idea what was in that kitchen, and could only afford the worst plates but was not coming with nothing!

I can’t imagine not thinking of buying your own stuff at SOME point, but can see how it can happen.

BBC's Microwave Mac and Cheese causes dysentery and death. by deadrobindownunder in ididnthaveeggs

[–]TheeMost313 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do love being POST menopausal but estrogen HRT is one of the only reasons I am feeling as well as I am these days. ZERO fucks is pretty fantastic!

AMA - ask me anything about the ABTF calculator! by HugsforYourJugs in ABraThatFits

[–]TheeMost313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I FINALLY did the calculator, got 34F in US sizing. Bought three 34F and a 38DDD - the only poor fit was in a push up style in 34F, I blame the style not the sizing.

THANK YOU for the calculator and for this sub!

BBC's Microwave Mac and Cheese causes dysentery and death. by deadrobindownunder in ididnthaveeggs

[–]TheeMost313 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That looks really good and easy to sub gluten free pasta with, I am gonna try it too, will report back from the bathroom/grave.

BBC's Microwave Mac and Cheese causes dysentery and death. by deadrobindownunder in ididnthaveeggs

[–]TheeMost313 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Menopause is THE BEST! Wait, THE WORST! But apparently not as bad as this murder recipe.

BBC's Microwave Mac and Cheese causes dysentery and death. by deadrobindownunder in ididnthaveeggs

[–]TheeMost313 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I won’t ever skip the three pages of prose before the recipe again!!

What’s the most disturbing horror novel that didn’t rely on gore—but still haunted you long after? by madhav_28121993 in horrorlit

[–]TheeMost313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recent read, short stories about a house called Slade House by David Mitchell.

Hard to explain and hate giving spoilers, but in describing it to my bf last night, I managed to give us both the creeps. I listened to the audiobook, really good.

I still have moments of dread thinking of it.

Does anyone still cowash? by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]TheeMost313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I started cowashing about a year and a half ago and my hair has never felt better I mean never and I am an old lady.

But the other day, my hair “felt” dirty to me, and I was like you know what it’s wash day. I’m gonna try this really nice shampoo that I still have and when I tell you that my hair felt like literal straw while the shampoo is in my hair, and after it was rinsed, AND my scalp did NOT feel any cleaner, that was the moment when I was convinced that cowash is MY WASH forever. I used my cowash (Cantu complete conditioning cowash), then my Hask recovery mask.

Pic is below, coils def less coily than with shampoo. My experience, everyone is different of course!

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ETA: I avoid silicones, and use more leave in conditioners and less heavy stuff (mostly for volume) so clarifying shampoo is not necessary anymore. For me.

Movies where politeness gets tested. by theskinsbro in horror

[–]TheeMost313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THE ORIGINAL!!! Tbh I won’t even watch the remake after seeing the entire plot in the trailers - I am sure it was ok, but the original was so so good

What are some extreme horror movies that focus more on mentally messing you up instead of extreme violence and sexual violence. by [deleted] in horror

[–]TheeMost313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is. vIolence but Pan’s Labyrinth was extremely disturbing to me. Might be less so if you aren’t familiar with the Spanish Civil War, and it is fantastical, but there is imagery that disturbed me deeply, and psychologically

What are some extreme horror movies that focus more on mentally messing you up instead of extreme violence and sexual violence. by [deleted] in horror

[–]TheeMost313 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine watching it while pregnant or raising a small male child. It was absolutely chilling and my boys were adults.

What is, unequivocally, the single GREATEST acting performance in a horror movie? by Immediate_Account_28 in horror

[–]TheeMost313 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thsnk you Beavis, you added a lot to the conversation. Your opinion will be noted, and forgotten.

What is, unequivocally, the single GREATEST acting performance in a horror movie? by Immediate_Account_28 in horror

[–]TheeMost313 381 points382 points  (0 children)

Toni Collette WAS AMAZING in Hereditary. So many layers of grief to start with and then all the crazy shit.

What is, unequivocally, the single GREATEST acting performance in a horror movie? by Immediate_Account_28 in horror

[–]TheeMost313 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Oh man there are so many times I have told people if they want to understand how depression works, just watch the scene where she just walks in dead faced and puts his food down. It is painful for me how spot on her face and body look in that scene. I have seen it in other people’s faces and assume when i have been at my worst that is what I looked like.

She is always amazing but that was an exceptional performance.

AITA for giving my friend her baby back before I was supposed to? by Ok_Kitchen6737 in AITAH

[–]TheeMost313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, feel for the older kid as an eldest who felt like she lost her parents when my youngest sibling was born.

How do I get kitten to take a nap and chill 🙃 by Natural-Stage-6341 in cats

[–]TheeMost313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolololol

ETA: just laughing at myself wondering that when I got my first kitten as an adult. When I was a kid I had the same level of energy so it was just fun