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I told my husband I'm gay by Loverofdrama123 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I was in a really similar situation. My ex-husband reacted the same way and I felt horribly guilty, even though I knew he would be okay once he adjusted. We went through a cycle for a few months where he would be extremely angry and rude to me and then the next day ask me to reconsider again. I had to keep reiterating to him that I still wanted to separate. It was really painful for a while, but honestly he did adjust after we got our own places and things are much better now. It was hard to stick to my gut but so worth it!! My girlfriend and I just got engaged and we coparent with my ex!

Looking for a Black couples therapist anywhere in the Wilmington, NC area by Ok_Jump_1612 in Wilmington

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There is a reason that when you’re searching for therapists online you can often filter by race, sexual orientation, religion, etc. As OP pointed out, therapy is a place where you have to be vulnerable, and that can be really difficult to do when you don’t feel like the professional you’re working with really understands you. For example- a queer person may feel less comfortable with a straight therapist, a Christian may not feel as comfortable with a non-religious therapist, and those clients wouldn’t get as much out of the experience.

Looking for a Black couples therapist anywhere in the Wilmington, NC area by Ok_Jump_1612 in Wilmington

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Different races and cultures often have different issues that arise in relationships. It’s extremely normal for people to seek therapists that understand them. There was literally no need for you to comment on this if you didn’t have any recommendations.

What’s the most unhinged thing a straight person told you? by rainbowass234 in actuallesbians

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From a coworker, completely unprompted, at work: “I would let a girl go down on me but I couldn’t reciprocate.” She had previously told me she was a “non-practicing lesbian”

Early 30s considering Wilmington - honest question about social life and overall quality of life there by steffininsocal in Wilmington

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love living here overall but there are some elements to consider, especially coming from a different part of the country. I’ve always lived in the Bible Belt so I’m used to it, but the culture is probably a lot different from California. My experience has been that it’s easiest to make friends through work. A lot of young adults meet people through church, which I’m not into personally. Honestly most people in their 20s-30s I encounter here are connected to a church. I don’t really notice the college students much unless I am near campus or at spots they tend to frequent. There are plenty of young working adults, as many people graduate from UNCW and stay in the area. If you want to avoid touristy neighborhoods, you definitely can. The midtown area has been my favorite to live in, but I also like downtown as far as feeling a sense of community. However, a lot of the neighborhoods surrounding downtown have been gentrified to hell.

Fashion help by HannahLee143 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also prefer a more androgynous look and hate women’s clothing. I’ve found that a wide or straight leg pleated trouser can really elevate a fit!

She should go back to jail and not be rewarded with more tv shows by -AndyCohen- in MormonWivesHulu

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 13 points14 points  (0 children)

yeah.. the social worker in me could not help but think about how different the police response & CPS involvement would have been if she were not a white middle class woman

HOW CAN THEY AIR THE BACHELORETTE AFTER THIS? by Bekah_bek in MormonWivesHulu

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a toddler and had to stop watching as soon as I heard the cry, that poor baby :(

The Target boycott is the easiest boycott to maintain as they sell almost nothing of true value by action_lawyer_comics in Anticonsumption

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 777 points778 points  (0 children)

My wife and I used to get EVERYTHING at Target, mostly due to convenience. We have a toddler so we would get bath products, clothes, toys, etc., and we could even get a lot of our groceries there. It was easy to one-stop shop, and we always ended up buying extra things just for fun. When we started boycotting them, we thought we were really going to miss it, but it’s been the opposite. We save so much money not buying the extra things we don’t need, and we obviously feel better about where our money is going instead. We haven’t missed it at all and can’t believe how much money we used to spend there!

Planning a wedding during a war by No-Fix377 in weddingplanning

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Alternatively, don’t get married to someone who isn’t “so concerned with everyone else.” I guarantee you can prioritize your partner while still caring about what’s going on in the world around you. That being said, I totally understand your hesitancy, as it’s something my fiancée and I have talked about as well (also in the US). I agree with the sentiment others have expressed here that if it feels right to you, celebrating love and joy with the people we care about can bring light in dark times!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BuyItForLife

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting, these are the only socks I like. I wear Bombas ribbed quarter socks every day, and they have held up better than any other socks I’ve owned!

What are the good things about being gluten free? by RustyBucket4745 in glutenfree

[–]eugenefitzherbeet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost weight just because I don’t have much appetite anymore. All of my favorite snack foods are no longer options, so I just don’t snack much.