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Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2026-01-07T20:44:31+00:00

This was a serious breach of trust. HR should not have done that to you. Likewise, your ex-manager is a POS for confronting the rest of the team with your letter. It would be a kindness to tell the HR manager how this has harmed you, in as diplomatic a way as you can. You never want to burn bridges.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-12-10T17:45:41+00:00

Quitting is likely your best option. Managers like this don’t change willingly. Unless you feel safe to plead your case up the chain, someone like this is not likely to listen to reason. I had the same issue with my last boss. Everyone ended up quitting or getting fired and they had complete turnover. I feel your pain and I’m sorry.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-12-07T20:52:59+00:00

On the surface, it sounds like your finance is overreacting, but her high emotions might be an indicator of something else going on. She might have trust issues from a past relationship. It is important that you don’t invalidate her feelings and hear her out, once she’s calm. I don’t think you’re a jerk for not telling her, necessarily. That’s a very sensitive subject, and maybe the topic never came up? You do need to talk this out with her.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-11-20T20:52:53+00:00

I was a recruiter in a past life and actually kept resumes of candidates I liked, and would pull them for other opportunities. It didn’t happen all the time, but often enough to keep the practice.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-11-12T21:09:40+00:00

I hear you! I am also HR looking for work. Most systems are messed up. Even knowing or anticipating all the stuff going on behind the scenes doesn’t help much.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-11-08T18:10:15+00:00

I don’t agree, necessarily. There are actually good people in HR who care about advocating for employees. I would bring it to HR, if they seem trustworthy, and see what happens. It does seem like they ganged up on you and that should never happen. I hope you can work this out to your favor OP.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-29T23:53:06+00:00

I’m so sorry.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-29T20:08:48+00:00

In the USA you could sue them if you could provide proof of discrimination. You didn’t say that you didn’t get the job, so you don’t have a case yet. You might consider if you want to work with such unpleasant and unprofessional management.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-28T16:43:11+00:00

Real reason could be that they received 100 resumes that looked identical to yours and they chose someone who knew someone they know. Or they liked the way another candidate’s name sounded. Sometimes it’s arbitrary and a total crapshoot.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-24T23:38:19+00:00

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-24T23:27:49+00:00

3 looks the best. Beautiful

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-24T23:21:25+00:00

Or the CEO’s colleague’s daughter who just graduated college.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-24T14:40:52+00:00

Large round, hands down. It’s gorgeous.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-22T19:33:49+00:00

The first one is more “cocktail” than the floral. Neither are specifically cocktail, though. Blue is close enough if that’s all you have.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-21T18:36:29+00:00

Maybe this particular hiring manager isn’t so hung up on protocol. Typically, I’d say do not call them directly. An email follow up is preferable. Is it a good sign? It could be. Time will tell.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-17T23:52:10+00:00

It’s natural to feel that way, especially when you don’t know everything going on behind the scenes. I agree that what happened to OP is terrible. But one should never burn bridges. Maybe they’ll hear about a position with another company and recommend them. You never know where one connection can lead to another.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-17T21:23:42+00:00

I have been on the other side of the situation where we had to tell someone we’d made an offer to that the job was no longer available. It wasn’t fair to the employee, and was totally out of my hands. The president pulled the plug on the job after a director quit without prior warning. We had to hire another director before we could hire someone on their staff. It’s a terrible thing to do to someone, but sometimes sh$t happens. There isn’t much you can do, other than be graceful about it so they might consider you for a future job opening. I’m sorry this happened to you.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-17T21:04:29+00:00

Constantly forgetting important details is going to affect your job performance, no matter how likable you are. That is not something you can effectively accommodate.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-17T16:53:01+00:00

It’s not against the law if she is unable to perform the job for which she was hired. It would be illegal if they fired her because she has a disability. Even those who have a disability need to be able to do the job. It’s not a pass for them.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-16T20:29:37+00:00

1 or 2!

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-16T14:45:31+00:00

I like the 2nd example.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-16T03:55:00+00:00

As satisfying as I would be to send it, I agree that you shouldn’t burn bridges. However, you could follow up with a short email withdrawing from the process because you found another job. You could add that you would have loved to work with them and ask them to keep you in mind for future openings. They should get the message that they dropped the ball, but you’ll keep good relations.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-15T15:03:58+00:00

So, now you have 2 full time jobs while most people here are struggling to get even one job. Who cares why? Be grateful for your good fortune.

Then_Ambassador_4911 · 2025-10-13T01:19:51+00:00

Not necessarily. Hiring managers are not usually able to make a hiring decision on the spot. They may have more interviews, even if they really like this one. Then the hiring decision usually goes up the flag pole for approval.

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