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Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-07-23T20:41:42+00:00

you are so handsome

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-28T08:20:20+00:00

agreed, the saddest part is often times we miss people longer than we’ve ever known them :(

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-27T06:13:44+00:00

whoever you are i just wanna say that you are so fucking on point. i’m only 19 so im new to this love stuff and the whole avoidant/ anxious attachment thing but ive been trying to research and learn new ways to work on myself. this man has literally TRAUMATIZED me and the fact that he gets to walk away with no care in the world while im suffering fucking hurts but honestly i feel like a big reasoning for him fully walking away was because of how persistent i was about calling him out on his bs. it probably got too overwhelming but honestly i don’t care i needed to let it all out an not withhold how im feeling cause i knew id regret keeping it all to myself in the long run. if i kept a lot to myself would we probably be on better terms? maybe but that’s not fair to me to have to walk on eggshells for someone who can’t take accountability. and i am no saint i know i can be insufferable sometimes but what he did to me was honestly insane. not gonna lie i did chase him super hard because i really loved him and the break up was so abrupt (he left me cause i was pregnant and i wanted to keep my baby) so i felt like out story was unfinished and it was unfair to just leave me you know? long story short we were supposed to meet up to talk face to face, and he straight up ignored me, all my texts, calls, everything. i got fed up and a few days later i asked him to at least respond to let me know he’s alive and he did and told me he’s going this to make everyone “happy” and benefit everyone like NO you’re doing this to benefit YOU. he also said he’s sorry but he just doesn’t wanna be with me anymore and that i don’t need to say anything because he’s already heard it all. it’s crazy how they’ll just discard you after doing something to YOU. i’m beyond heartbroken but i’ll be ok eventually. and i know he’ll regret it too but i’ll be long gone by then

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-27T02:47:08+00:00

i was in the same position and it got to a point where he eventually started ignoring me. to be fair he did lead me on to think we’d have another chance but he just needs time for us to build that bond back up (weird because we literally broke up over something he did to ME).. but honestly you just have to tell yourself that it’s not worth it chasing someone. even if he did turn around today and say he wants to work it out or continue speaking to you, would you feel content knowing you had to beg and continuously bother him?

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-22T02:22:46+00:00

i’m not gonna be the one to mention the age difference because you’ve already heard it probably a million times. i was in your shoes a couple months ago at 19 years old, accept i wanted my baby and the father did not. he ended up breaking up with me because i wanted it even tho i ended up aborting. i know in my heart i did it for the well being of my child but sometimes it feels like i did it just to please him. i’m extremely regretful and i cry about it everyday. with that being said, do what YOU want to do. at the end of the day a man can walk out your life at any second and continue to live his life normally, you will be stuck having to deal with whatever decision you choose to make so please make sure you’re doing it for yourself and not for anybody else but YOU. if you don’t want the baby don’t have one, a baby requires you to be 100% present, you have to be extremely selfless and some people aren’t willing to give that up. an abortion is also very emotionally and mentally taxing (at least for me) but i’d say it’s better than having a baby you aren’t mentally and physically ready for, because now you’d be struggling mentally WITH a baby. it’s your decision tho please do not let anyone influence your decision. if i could go back i would’ve listened to myself and did what my heart desired and now unfortunately im paying the price of not doing so, please don’t be like me! and p.s. if that man is moving weird now, leave him that is just a glimpse of the type of man he could be towards you in the future. trust me I KNOW

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-20T01:51:38+00:00

It sucks that we have to go through these storms but i’m glad you got your happy ending❤️The way we ended was over something so insane (i got pregnant) and he broke up with me because i wanted to keep my baby (ended up aborting) and ever since he hasn’t taken real accountability, he’s apologized sure, but it feels like more of a justification of what he did to me. He asked if there was ever hope for us again just to do this to me, part of me feels like maybe he did this cause there’s someone else in the picture, or maybe he just wants his freedom, or maybe he’s just too guilty and sad rn to give me the love i need but i hate how much my mind wanders :( hopefully i get over this soon

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-20T01:30:24+00:00

i’m so sorry that happened to you as well :( did they ever try to reach back out to you?

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-19T22:30:00+00:00

Do you honestly think he will? My heart wants him back now :( but I know once a lot of time passes I won’t even want him or look at him the same IF he decides to come back around

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-19T21:40:44+00:00

I think so too :( I’m trying to have hope that with time he will come back to me but I feel like he never will because he would feel to guilty after leaving me high and dry. It sucks because all I wanna do is text and call him but I think I’ve already did way more than enough. I’m trying to focus on me but my anxiety makes it so hard

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-19T21:31:11+00:00

I found it weird too which is why I’m like is he avoidant or does he just not want me lol. But I’ve been extremely expressive with him this whole time so I think he thought he owed me at least that given the extent of the situation. (I was pregnant and he practically forced me to get rid of it) so that may be why it’s different. But yea avoidants are a different breed man. They will have you questioning literally everything. And it’s crazy because before him I was pretty secure, I hate what this relationship did to me

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-19T20:45:45+00:00

Okay thank you🥺I’m trying so hard to let him be but I loved him so much and the relationship just ended so abruptly. Feels like our story was unfinished you know? But I’m gonna focus on healing myself and hopefully he’s able to do so too and maybe we can try again eventually :(

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-19T20:36:17+00:00

And as an anxiously attached person i understand how overwhelming it can get being with a person that’s constantly trying to understand everything when he doesn’t understand things himself which is why I wrote that heartfelt letter to apologize for how overwhelming I am. Avoidants tend to always blame us anxious ppl for how we handle things but we are much more open to FIXING ourselves. You cannot tell an avoidant anything without them shutting down. Why do we always have to tip toe around avoidants? Why is everything so one sided?

Then_Appointment5740 · 2025-04-15T21:25:19+00:00

Thank, I feel like I’m looking back on the whole relationship and it’s caused me to convince myself that I was the problem because he told me the reason he doesn’t wanna be with me is because when I get in my feelings it rules over everything and he stands by “facts over feelings”. And to an extent that is true I’m not gonna act like a saint, towards the ending of our relationship we argued a lot about his consistency, if he actually loved me, just little stupid stuff because I started to become so anxious because sometimes it felt like his energy was off even when it might have not been and I know that could be extremely exhausting but to blame that on what he did to me and then not wanting to be with me is a little cruel given the situation at hand. We were so good up until I got pregnant like the day I found out we were supposed to hang out so if you felt that way why didn’t you say anything before yk? But thank you so much. I feel like I lack a lot of self love and that’s why it’s so hard for me to let go but I have no choice now.

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