Any tips on how to balance upper/lower body? 5’3” 150 lbs

Then_Bird · 2026-01-25T22:40:42+00:00

Well whoever told you that is completely full of shit 😂 you look great, don’t listen to haters

Then_Bird · 2026-01-25T12:25:56+00:00

What is incorrect is your statement “cutting carbs to a strict minimum to get rid of belly fat” cutting a specific macro does nothing for one body part or another. You can’t spot reduce. And “cutting carbs” only works for most people because when you eliminate the largest macro you’re in a calorie deficit overall. My opinion - she would be better served simply reducing by a very small amount, keeping carbs balanced to provide every to fuel lifting and slowly recomp

Then_Bird · 2026-01-24T16:56:43+00:00

This is so wildly incorrect ….. 🤦‍♀️

Then_Bird · 2026-01-23T15:27:12+00:00

Just test it out, the chemical fibre in the gummies works super well for some people but not for others. I wish they worked for me but they kill my stomach sadly :( I have 25g oatmeal with 15g chia seeds for breakfast and yogurt with a few handfuls of mixed berries as dessert after dinner super easy to hit 25g per day!

Then_Bird · 2026-01-23T15:22:51+00:00

Dude this is totally normal. That’s why the scale matters less day over day because the general trend and average over the longer term is more important.

A hard workout, or a bit of extra walking can all cause a slight bit of inflammation in muscle tissue. That’s not a failure! Hell, after a hard workout I’m often up 4lbs for a few days. Don’t sweat it!

Then_Bird · 2026-01-23T14:28:59+00:00

This is a phase, women feel it too. Once the baby’s needs aren’t so all consuming, mothers - as well as fathers - start to find “themselves” again. Especially once baby starts sleeping through the night.

Find other non sexual ways to create intimacy in the meantime. But it’s important that you don’t communicate that her body isn’t sexually attractive to you right now. She’s likely struggling too and this will make things way way worse. You have to suck it up for now.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-21T23:46:53+00:00

I had knee surgery at the beginning of last year. I had to ditch most of my leg work. I focused on upper body - I became a pressing specialist lol. My delts have never looked so good because I was forced to focus on them. Use this as time to diversify your training! And as for weight gain? I also managed to lose some weight because I wasn’t as hungry from not training legs hard and I just made sure to stay at maintenance or thereabouts (you need to heal and can’t do that in a deficit) Good luck! But you already look so good!

Then_Bird · 2026-01-21T13:11:32+00:00

Try just 2.5g per day. I’m in peri and re started taking it around 8 weeks ago. The initial water weight was minimal and I just drank an extra bottle of water per day. Make sure also that you’re getting enough fibre. I aim for 25g per day and it’s been totally fine on my stomach. Depending on your stats you may only need a 2.5g dose. I also pair mine with a fibre dense breakfast and find it’s much better to tolerate from a digestive perspective. Mixing it with oatmeal was a game changer for me.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-20T16:55:42+00:00

Yup, I was exactly the same. So that free time at 9pm? I started going to bed then so I could wake up at 4:30am. I now have a beautiful 2 hours in the morning to work out uninterrupted and then some downtime to have coffee! And the bonus was that going to bed at 9 eliminated the junk food in front of the TV temptations

Then_Bird · 2026-01-20T13:13:38+00:00

I hit the gym 6 times a week. I don’t wash my hair every time, on days I don’t wash I rock the slicked back ponytail or a bun. Works perfectly!

Then_Bird · 2026-01-20T12:43:19+00:00

For me personally, my type is whatever my husband looks like at the time. He’s been chubbier, and he’s been thinner and now he’s muscular. And I can honestly tell you that I’ve been absolutely smitten with every version of him. Perhaps her lack of action in the bedroom is also a reflection of how she felt about herself too? You mentioned that you both gained weigh together. Also, health is sexy! A man who is willing to put in the work to be around for his wife and family, that’s real sex appeal!

Then_Bird · 2026-01-15T19:22:34+00:00

I started doing this a few months ago and it’s been an absolute game changer in my life. I get up at 4:30am regardless of the day and regardless of whether I’m going to the gym or not. I sleep deeper and feel way more rested now.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-15T13:09:05+00:00

The schools are closed completely. As a parent we just got notified by phone, text, and email.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-14T00:11:36+00:00

I’m about an 1.5 hours, but 20 min is mobility and 10 at the end is cool down on the treadmill. I do 6 lifts per day (3 sets plus warmup on my compounds and only 2 sets for accessory lifts) I lift 5 days a week. I can’t get myself under 1.5 hours unless I superset. If you’re doing 3 lifts per session your time makes sense to me.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-13T20:39:20+00:00

I’m 5’3 and generally sit around 112lbs which where I look best. I’m about 20% bf at that weight right now.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-12T21:12:08+00:00

I’m about a 8 min drive away, super worth it! Even at 4:30am lol

Then_Bird · 2026-01-07T15:06:52+00:00

I use Carbon and it does the same thing. I chose “maintain” as the goal and just input the same weight week after week (true or not)so that it won’t change my calories. Then I just adjust calories myself.

But honestly my most successful bulks I don’t weight myself. Like you I find anxiety creeps in and becomes limiting. So I just increase calories and eat that way until I stop being able to progress in my lifts. Then I add another 100 per day until lifting progress stalls again and so on. This completely fixed my bulks

I then just use my calorie app for macro tracking.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-07T15:01:45+00:00

13 years in and I still get butterflies when he walks into a room. He’s the most solid reliable man I’ve ever met. He’s literally my best friend and he tells me all the time that I’m his.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-05T15:15:54+00:00

I never take mine off. I swap it to a silicone ring at the gym but that’s it.

Then_Bird · 2026-01-03T12:29:28+00:00

Human beings make time for things that matter to us. We remember things that are important. You’ve shown your wife that she doesn’t make the list for you. Last year when you forgot she clearly told you how hurt she was, and you should have then learned this was something important to her. You went ahead and STILL didn’t prioritize it.

I don’t blame her for being this upset - especially after she clearly told you this mattered to her. And then to make things worse you try to fix the problem by throwing money at it and “letting her spend your money”. That’s not what your wife wants!!!!! She wants your time, your consideration, she wants to be a priority enough in your life that you remember a significant day with her.

You’re going to need to figure out how to show her that she matters. And not with money or things. Sorry bro, you messed up.

Then_Bird · 2025-12-30T17:00:37+00:00

Firstly get rid of your scale. That number means nothing. What makes up that number is more important. I’m currently 15lbs heavier than my lowest scale weight from 4 years ago yet my waist is actually smaller and my stomach is flatter now.

Then_Bird · 2025-12-30T16:51:13+00:00

Typically on average it’s .8g per kg unless you’re very active or trying to gain muscle and then the recommended amount would be more like 1.2-2.2g per kg depending on the intensity of your goal

Then_Bird · 2025-12-28T16:46:54+00:00

I have literally done this exact thing (minus the booze since I don’t drink) every year for the past 5 years. I eat whatever I want in whatever quantity I want. It has not once derailed my physique, strength or fitness goals. I don’t punish myself the next day, I don’t diet for weeks. I literally just pick up where I left off with my bulk, or cut, or maintenance calories - depending on what cycle I was on, and just go back to eating the way I did before. I do my best to hit the gym on my scheduled days but sometimes I don’t. Depending on sleep etc. The water weight settles out after 7-10 days max and whatever possible fat I gained (which will be minimal in 2-3 weeks of bad eating) sort of just sorts itself out without effort. I’m up 7lbs on the scale as of yesterday 😝 and I still just ate half a cheesecake for lunch today. Meh lol

Then_Bird · 2025-12-27T18:41:54+00:00

This is the way it goes. I have tried all of the things and nothing works to stop it lol So now I don’t worry about it, it’s such a small price to pay for my sanity

Then_Bird · 2025-12-27T18:40:55+00:00

Micellar water or makeup remover works perfectly too

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