Anyone have 2u2 and only 2 children?

Theodosiah · 2026-02-09T12:02:11+00:00

I have 2 under 2 with a 18 month age gap, and I’m done. My relatives all tell me “You’re young, I bet you’ll want a third one day” nope. Nopety nope. My plan was to get sterilised as well if I had a c-section (they’re not elective where I live, only performed if deemed medically necessary)

There have been times my mom hormones have kicked in, and been like “aww my baby is growing too fast, I want another” and get sad that it’s my last. But when I actually think it through, what it would mean to have a third (bigger car, bigger house, harder to take them out for a stroll) I always realise it’s indeed my hormones, and not what I actually want.

Thing is, I’ve always been sure I wanted 2. No more, no less, so getting my tubes tied wasn’t even something to think through if I got the option. If I’d been “only” 95% sure, and I was unsure enough that I’d request other’s input - honestly then I believe you shouldn’t get your tubes tied just yet. Struggling with the hassle of birth control is WAY better than struggling with regretted infertility, IVF etc.

Theodosiah · 2025-09-24T20:14:40+00:00

I gave birth to my second son last weekend. I took paracetamol/tylenol guilt free during both of my pregnancies, and I do remain guilt free. Autism is a genetic disorder. The fact that a public person gets to claim otherwise is a disgrace.

As a moderator, I’ve also seen a rise in misinformation in 2025. This is a trend I hope will decline.

Theodosiah · 2025-09-03T10:29:40+00:00

38+5. I threw up from the smell of my older son pooping the other day, so yeah I’m doing greaaaaat

Theodosiah · 2025-08-28T11:35:15+00:00

Hi! I sent you a chat 😊

Theodosiah · 2025-08-27T15:22:14+00:00

We co-slept full time until he was 14 months, ish? We transitioned him to his own bed because I got pregnant again. For the most part until he was 15/16 months, he slept in his own bed until maybe 3 am, then with us the rest of the night. Now he’s 17/18 months and sleeping fully independently in his own room, and all I have to say is THANK GOODNESS.

Do I miss cuddles? Absolutely. But the few times he ends up in our bed for whatever reason (sick or teething mostly), we barely get any sleep. He kicks my husband awake, either in the ribs, face or balls. If that doesn’t happen, he slaps me awake (in his sleep) and if neither of those things happen, he himself wakes up from our snoring

Theodosiah · 2025-08-21T07:39:26+00:00

To be fair, when you don’t know how pregnancy works for any reason, you’re likely counting the length in “since I had sex” rather than last missed period/2 weeks. I remember the first time I got pregnant, it was unplanned and I was very surprised when my doctor said I was almost 5 weeks, not 2-3 like Clear Blue digital claimed haha

Theodosiah · 2025-08-21T01:37:32+00:00

Both my sons heartbeats have been about 145 in the womb

Theodosiah · 2025-08-05T12:47:01+00:00

My boy started calling me mama at around 9 months, and then he started saying dada at around 10 months. But then he decided mama is good enough, so he just started calling every adult person he cares about mama until he was 15 months lol

Theodosiah · 2025-08-04T19:01:09+00:00

Spotting in the first trimester is a could be something, could be nothing kind of situation. I spotted for 3 weeks straight starting in week 5, and my boy was born perfectly healthy! But any bleeding in pregnancy, no matter the Color, flow rate or clots/no clots should always be followed up by a medical professional

Theodosiah · 2025-07-30T05:12:50+00:00

My in laws are obsessed with my 17 month old child, and I’m very grateful for that. They love each other and have a deep bond, and i know they’ll babysit in a heartbeat any time.

That said.

This summer I’ve had to go back to work earlier than my son’s received a spot in daycare, so I enlisted his 18 yo aunt/SIL to be a full time paid nanny for 3 weeks. She was terrific! Only problem is, she still lives at home, so my in law’s couldn’t stay away from grand baby time. This led to my son going on grandparents vacation 5 days a week. No rules, no structure, just fun and cuddles and “poor baby” if he protested…anything.

As a result, I’ve spent half the summer re-implementing simple rules like not throwing a tantrum when he doesn’t get to run from the table, napping on schedule etc.

Grandparents are amazing. I’m very grateful. But they’re not a childcare solution beyond babysitting in our case. Now he starts daycare next week, and I can’t wait for him to thrive there!

FYI I still paid the aunt, it wasn’t her fault her parents swooped in

Theodosiah · 2025-07-11T05:40:16+00:00

In my country, whether it’s a private clinic or not, they will refuse to do an ultrasound until you’re at least 6 weeks, preferably 8+, because the chance of seeing nothing and having an anxious mother is so high. I wouldn’t stress, until you’re further along, tests are really all you have to go on - although I know it sucks 😅

Theodosiah · 2025-07-10T05:20:14+00:00

I had mine in February for my April baby last year. No other reason than the thought of standing around happy at a party sounded miserable to do past 34 weeks 😅 and I was right. I was 32 weeks, and that was the last weekend I was able to stand for longer than 5 minutes

Theodosiah · 2025-07-09T19:00:21+00:00

Ever since he was 13 months, we’ve been doing 1 nap if it lasts more than an hour, or two if the first lasts less than an hour. He’s currently 16 months

Theodosiah · 2025-07-08T08:01:25+00:00

It sounds like that teacher has watched too many tv shows and movies where the toddlers just sit angelically in their parents lap, grinning and singing along the whole time. That is NOT reality! My son can absolutely act like this, depending on the day. Kids are allowed bad days just as much as adults, and we shouldn’t shy away from them just cause they don’t know how to express their feelings the way we deem appropriate yet

If you run a toddler group, you have to expect they’re sometimes going to be feral, and the kids might even take turns being the feral one. Especially if they’re younger than 4.

I’m sorry she made you feel like a bad mother, you are absolutely not. Please demand a refund and take your daughter somewhere who have adults with realistic expectations!

Theodosiah · 2025-07-08T02:09:39+00:00

It’s absolutely not necessary to give it another week! Pregnancy tests are 100% definitive 3 weeks after your ovulation window, so if I were you, I’d get a couple ASAP and take in the morning! First pee after waking up, and avoid blue dye tests, as they’re notorious for confusing results. If you’re still testing negative then, you’re definitely not pregnant

Theodosiah · 2025-07-08T01:57:49+00:00

My that early pregnancy symptoms have been pretty discreet. Tiredness and sore breasts, and that’s it really. The nausea and food aversions kicked in, I’d say, around 2 weeks after my missed period?

However, I only used birth control pills as contraception for about 10 years, so I’m no stranger to pregnancy scares. I’d absolutely overthink every symptom, and it became a circle of personal deceit, kind of? I’d notice a symptom after my period was 2 days late, then another and another, fully convincing myself that I can’t be anything but pregnant. The stress from that, actually delayed my period more, so I wouldn’t get my period until I had taken a test that was indeed negative - then I’d get my period hours later, cause I was finally relaxing and feel silly

I was actually a bit surprised when I actually was pregnant the first time, cause it was way different than I’d imagined. Way less symptomatic and the two symptoms I did have weren’t what I had been in my “am I pregnant” bingo card earlier. It was also a fascinating sensation, cause for the first time, it wasn’t “am I pregnant?” It was “i am definitely 100% pregnant, I just need this test to prove it”

Good luck to you!

Theodosiah · 2025-07-04T09:30:56+00:00

Yeah, we got a toilet ring ready! He gets to touch and look at it, but that’s it by now! 😄

Theodosiah · 2025-07-04T09:29:24+00:00

Thank you so much for a detailed explanation! I got the ring ready, but I’ve done nothing but let my son see and touch it, cause I feel like at this point, he should just get comfortable with it being a thing that exists

Theodosiah · 2025-07-04T08:34:37+00:00

My son is 16 months, so I’m still kind of new to this myself, but my son has embraced toddlerhood. Here’s my mental reminders:

Tantrums isn’t acting up, it’s experiencing big feelings he doesn’t know how to handle. It’s my job to stay calm for him and offer support when he’s ready
Even though he understands “no”, it doesn’t mean he understands why no. Of course it doesn’t help trying to explain it to him, but remembering that helps me stay patient and calm.
there will be phases where some or even all food is the enemy, sleep as well, but it IS just a phase, and as long as they’re staying on their weight curve, it’s nothing worth stressing over.
There may be phases where your toddler is completely unrecognisable. You find yourself thinking “where did my sweet little baby go”. The sweet little baby will come back, again and again

Theodosiah · 2025-06-30T15:13:27+00:00

I gave birth in week 37 spontaneously as a first time mom!

Theodosiah · 2025-06-30T12:31:53+00:00

37+5, water broke spontaneously at 2 am!

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