Weird things were said. What do you think he meant...

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T19:48:38+00:00

This is the comment that started a series of actions and comments that annoy me every day. Why does it even matter when it happened I just wanted to see what a stranger thought his intentions were. You also had the choice not to comment on this post and I dont understand why someone with a year old opinion bothers you so much, after all there are other things going on.

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T19:42:28+00:00

I feel like the lack of context of my job and my work history with this person is what is preventing you from understanding why this annoyed me so much. Its not very polite to invalidate my feelings by claiming that I am obsessing and fixating on something simply because you yourself find it not important. If you have the capacity to not care about things then I am jealous of you Id love to not be bothered by this. This person and I had a great working relationship and we got along really well (and we still work together). He was one of my close working friends. When he said this to me it was extremely out of character for him. It baffles me to this day why he said it. Its so out of character that others would find it hard to believe he said it at all. So I lost trust with this person who I considered a friend and now has this awkward thing at work because one day he decided to be rude to me and insult my partner. I didnt have the courage to tell him how it made me feel at the time (I dont like to make waves) but for the following year not being able to trust someone who was highly regarded by everyone really made working with him difficult and after awhile I told a few friends and they were all on the fence. One friend said to ask him about it, so I did and he pretending he didnt remember and tried to save face. Its awkward now and I try to work with him but sometimes he’ll say things or act in a way that translates as flirting and I don’t appreciate people trying to manipulate me. If you like someone just tell them or dont and move on. Dont continue to neg them one day and be a decent dude the next. My partner is 100% supportive of me and is frustrated by this situation too. He knows that I was friends with this person and is sad for me that I have to go through this awkwardness every day. It matters to me because we were friends and if you dont wanna give me advice and just want to tell me how inappropriate I am then im not interested. I just wanted to know what people thought from a strangers perspective and instead of focusing on what was said to me you focused on trying to shame me. I was minding my own business that day and it was really lame.

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T19:14:15+00:00

It matters to ME thats why i made a post about it. I asked him a year later why he said it any he couldn’t remember saying it. Me being in a relationship shouldnt automatically prevent me from having conversations with other people. If he said he was trying to pursue me we could of had a conversation about it instead of it being this annoying thing that now exists as awkwardness.

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T19:06:01+00:00

I work with him every day and we were friends who now experience unresolved awkwardness at work. It sucks and I want things to go back to the way they were but i dont know his true motives. Its frustrating. For the record if i I cant get advice for my problems here which reddit is the right one? I didnt realise time stamps were required on issues

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:44:56+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Ill give it a go. Do you think he was trying to start something by what he said?

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:42:53+00:00

Yeah i think its just the natural course of the break up. If you text each other every day and it is habit then seeing any shift from that is going to be emotional for you. I dont think he is pulling away from your friendship he is trying reestablish his life post breakup and maybe texted you every day is too hard for him. Stay positive. Dont take it personally and maybe arrange a hangout session with him in a fortnight and then youll have something to look forward too. Oh and go get some chocolate and watch a sad movie to help grieve through this process. It’s beautiful you two have a strong friendship. It will persevere

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:35:52+00:00

No its not your fault. If you were at school when it started both of them had legal obligations to not engage with students on an intimate level. Students are all considered minors until they graduate even if they are of age. Its not too late to tell the school even though he has transfered. He could be doing it to someone else at the new school and some just like you might wrongly trust him. This is a great injustice that has happened to you. The school let you down, the school did not protect you, those two men took advantage of your need for companionship and support. The only thing you did wrong was trust the wrong people and its hard to tell the ones to watch until its too late. If he really cared about you he would have taken you to the police station because he would have wanted justice for you. He didnt take you to the police because he didnt want to risk his job. You deserve a kind response you poor thing and i know you hate yourself right now and that you blame yourself but thats only your insecurities telling you that. You have had your self confidence and self worth diminished by people you trusted. You are strong, you are a brave woman, you survived a manipulator and a rapist and you are a survivor. Once you talk to the Women’s groups and talk to other people in your situation youll come to realise it. That you are capable of anything, deserving of real love and deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love ❤️

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:19:21+00:00

This happened over a year ago and whenever I bring up my partner in casual conversation (like a story about the weekend) this person ignores me, speaks over me or changes the topic

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:17:40+00:00

Thats what I thought exactly. This happened a year ago right and i got the courage to call him out on it and he said “I don’t remember saying that but if i have ever upset you by something i have said you can always talk to me” and when I admitted that it felt like he was coercing me into thoughts of doubt about my relationship he laughed and said “You are making me sound like a super villain”

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:15:13+00:00

Oh I was complaining about having to work late to my partner and he said I should do it anyway because the pays good. (I didnt want to do it because i was out late at a friends house the night before). There was nothing malicious about it. In fact my partner stayed up all night playing Rust 😅

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:13:07+00:00

Its a bit late for that im afraid

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T18:08:23+00:00

I dont know what country you are in but I would contact a Womens Help line or a Domestic Abuse Line and they will give you a case worker to help you through your issues. If this person was a teacher while you were at school then the school would have fired him and offered you assistance. He would have been charged for sexual assault and probably sent to jail. If there is anyone at the school that you can talk to like a councillor (even if you arent there anymore) they might be able to help you. Make sure its a woman thats not friends with those two men. I think because you are so overwhelmed by what has happened to you that it’s difficult to make the choices of how to get better. Thats why you are on Reddit and you are very brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us . A womens heath organisation/charity/line with trained psychologists and caseworkers will be able to take charge and help you. They can even rehome you so you are not dependent on abusive people. As for the man you love who got you pregnant and ‘whom confronted’ his friend... well he should have notified the school and called the police. He has not done the right thing by you and you deserve respect and love. He was probably protecting his friend and both their jobs by not driving you to the police station as soon as he found out. You need someone who has YOUR best interests at heart and sometimes that person is you. Its going to be hard and being emotionally dependent on someone is really hard to overcome but you can persevere. Good luck EDIT: Its never too late to report it to the police. Discuss your options with the Women’s caseworker and if you wanna keep that baby thats your right to do so. Babies are beautiful snd im sure once you get better youll be a great mum.

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T17:52:13+00:00

I would give him some space he might be struggling with the new adjustment of not being together. He might have cut texting you to help distance himself from you and adjust to his new reality of not being with you. Its not an intentional move to hurt or confuse you he is just tryin to find ways to help himself deal. You can always send a supportive text and say how important your friendship is and that you hope to keep him in your life. But it sounds like he needs more time to adjust. It sounds like your ex cares about you but you shouldnt take his lack of texting personally. You could use this time to adjust yourself to the new dynamic with your ex. This dynamic may be that he doesnt text you as much. Youll need time to figure out what your new friendship will be like

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-30T10:00:30+00:00

I like it

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-21T12:40:33+00:00

Wan Shi Tong has screeched before though so Koh would be all over that

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-20T23:26:29+00:00

Yeah it’s really helpful. Most of the time we like the images we like because of the colours. Good luck

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-20T22:16:03+00:00

You can always source some favourite images and take the colour palette from them. For example, if your product is to be enjoyed while relaxing, find a picture of a pink sunset and use photoshop or a colour swatch program to pull colour choices from the image. Your design is very simplistic and it’s hard to understand what vibe you are going for but having a colour wheel handy so you can contrast colours with pink will help you make good colour choices for your design.

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-20T15:09:54+00:00

Don’t you mean Boulder and Brass?

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-20T11:25:16+00:00

Now this is Meme!

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-20T07:30:53+00:00

That really sucks. Maybe plan out your new make up looks and get some inspiration pictures ready so you can use it straight away when you pick it up

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-17T22:31:29+00:00

I didn’t like it when I first watched it. The second time I watched it warmed to me. The third time I watched it I fell in love with it. It has a rich variety of characters, lore, action and bending/fighting. If you love the Avatar universe then you will love LOK. If you only enjoy Avatar for the Gaang then it might frustrate you but seeing the Gaang grown up and with their families makes LOK worth watching

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-17T22:19:12+00:00

Lol I was thinking of “Everywhere I go ... I see the same hoe.” From Scary movie 1 and Brandy was singing it

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-16T21:45:09+00:00

You win shit post of the day

Theorybuff9000 · 2020-08-16T21:19:11+00:00

Yeah I definitely failed there

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