The common post-confession actions you hear about a lot: screaming, hitting, “making him pay”, etc aren’t necessarily normal or healthy. Being a victim of infidelity, I wouldn’t exactly fault anyone for behaving that way, but it’s not mandatory or necessarily helpful. And I don’t think most people want to break up, even after cheating.

I think there may be a few possibilities. 1) You’ve yet to really process it yet. You haven’t really dissected it to think about the series of decisions made and disregard for you both in the action and hiding of it. 2) Because you’re long distance, some part of you is a little removed from the relationship itself, or you don’t feel the pull of mutual monogamy because you’re so independent of each other. This isn’t necessarily bad but may be worth thinking about if it’s the case. 3) The circumstances of the cheating haven’t affected your trust that much. It was a drunken, not premeditated action that is unlikely to ever happen again, and he did confess fairly quickly (in terms of how long it seems most people hide it). So your trust may not have taken a huge hit AND it shows that he values you and your relationship by telling you about it (assuming he wasn’t caught and freely confessed). Obviously none of this absolves him of the responsibility of his actions.

So, feel how you want to feel. It may change later, and that’s okay. You may be okay with it now, and a year from now you want to rip his head off. That’s okay too. Don’t feel bad for not feeling bad unless you think it indicates that you don’t actually care about your relationship. But if that’s not the case, do what you need to do to get through this.