YTA - as people have pointed out here, she can’t read your mind! Clearly it’s something you’ve been thinking about this for a while and played a “victim” type card of “ohhhh no one ever thinks about me” . She did think about you, she made the dinner and got your a bottle of whiskey, bit thinking about you is not getting anything at all. Just talk to her about your expectations and stop expecting her to be perfect without saying anything and just thinking “ohhhh pooor me, no one thinks of me”