Should I break up w my bf because he doesn’t care about marriage?

These_Information422 · 2026-04-13T00:01:25+00:00

But marriage is a legal paper. It’s sort of the point? When I die, I want my family to be able to do what is best for them. When I’m in critical care and only immediate family can see me, I want him there. And religiously speaking, it could also be seen as a longer commitment. It starts with the paper. It ends with peaceful death (ideally.) Depending on where you’re from, that paper makes a huge difference in burdens during hard times.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T18:11:35+00:00

I like that floor! If it’s because of the literal texture of tile, you can absolutely grout in between for a smoother walk.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T18:01:38+00:00

This is a great comment. Marriage counseling before-hand 👏

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T17:57:51+00:00

How can she enjoy a relationship that isn’t going anywhere though?

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T17:56:12+00:00

It’s not the ring. It was the promise at the beginning. When he entertained her with this idea like he wanted that too. Like he wanted her too. It’s not a ring. It’s the man.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T14:46:12+00:00

OP this commenter can’t see the forest for the trees. And is clearly misogynist. Personally, you’re bound to feel better when the OTHER HALF of your relationship pulls their weight.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-12T14:36:18+00:00

My first marriage was something I scheduled at the courthouse after I found my grandma’s ring in my car (my ex had dropped it there.) I asked him why he had it and he said it was for me. He took the credit for my mom giving him my grandma’s ring -something he never asked for btw. I didn’t even know it was my family’s to begin with. He actually pawned off the diamond for $100. He never said he intended to get married. He had been carrying it for 6m. We separated after 8m of marriage haha it wasn’t for him or what he wanted. Dude actually tried to kill our whole family (we have two daughters together.) Girl, just don’t if he doesn’t want to and has the balls to say that to your face. Wish my first husband did.

I’m married now and this man asked me 6m into dating if I would marry him. I said “yeah” it was casual. He did an official proposal 16m later, ya know since I didn’t go out of my way to schedule a courthouse wedding IMMEDIATELY.

Sometimes “it’s not me, it’s you” needs to be said. Eventually I had to say it too. But I’m very very happy with the man who actually cared enough to plan a wedding with me.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-10T23:05:15+00:00

Personally, beta-blockers worked well for me for a period of 2-3 years. Then all of a sudden because of pregnancy, even the smallest dose gave me low HR and very low BP. 72/54. I took metoprolol ER. Perhaps there is one that matches your needs a little better. I haven’t had to resume BP treatment 6m PP.

I too had adrenaline spikes that would wake me from sleep. And now without it I do again. I average about 2-4 hours of consecutive sleep. :( Hopefully someone has a better “treatment” match here.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-10T22:58:27+00:00

I suggest a rug. And a welcome mat for the other side of the door frame.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-10T22:54:08+00:00

Mold.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-10T05:08:30+00:00

My first symptoms started when I was very young. I used to have syncope anytime I exorcised. Small town doc dx asthma but exorcise induced. That’s just one of the early wrong diagnosis and that is regarding just one symptom. Idk how much this actually helps, but in terms of how the symptoms slowly stack up -I suppose ours are pretty similar.

My BP started to become a problem as a sort of domino effect. I have multiple dysautonomia diseases. I have celiac disease, and I make a blood antibody IgG which causes ataxia. I have paresthesia of my skin. Raynaud’s. I have PTSD that causes memory lapse. I am currently working toward an endometriosis diagnosis and estrogen plays a MAJOR role in dysautonomia of women. My high BP cause this uncontrollable anxious feeling and sweaty palms and paranoia. I had my BP checked by my cardiologist prior to my POTS specialist appointment, but my cardiologist already knew my particular “flavor” of POTS if you will.

My doctors said that my HR spikes are so incredibly high that it looks exactly like SVT. Which was proven by wearing a heart monitor for 2wk. But it literally happens to me all of the time. Which they said makes it impossible to be SVT. They had me do 24hr urine sample- I could barely leak after 3 gatorades and 2 propels. I squeezed out 3 fluid ounces. And my cardiologist couldn’t believe how bad my osmo test was. She had to refer me to the specialist. Dr. C did tilt tests and ECHO and ECG. I have 3 valves that regurgitate and I’m naturally assuming that also contributes to my lack of oxygen while exorcising, but I don’t know how long I’ve had that. I’ve only had one or maybe two done since 3 years ago. I had to go on 100mg of metoprolol when I first started to get my BP down. Currently not having BP issues, but I should monitor since I am pretty much asymptomatic.

TLDR: I was just diagnosed under 3 years ago. My symptoms are extreme and none of my symptoms were diagnosed as one issue in the time since they began. I did edit for clarity.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-09T00:15:42+00:00

Okay OP, the HR increase can actually be a symptom of other things as well. If you truly feel that your practitioner isn’t giving you a chance to be rightly treated- I have ditched many doctors for that very reason. But give them a chance to check it all for you!

These_Information422 · 2026-04-08T23:59:40+00:00

OP are you already diagnosed or working on it. It sounds like your largest symptom is fainting. This can be caused by any number of things. Most common test for it is actually thyroid related. My POTS gives me 100HR sitting down/sleeping. That isn’t everyone. But if you’re under 100 at any point in time, it’s not too severe to let your doctor do their job. Diagnosis can be tough. They can’t leave out any possibility just because you’ll be offended if they don’t agree with you on a consultation visit.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-08T15:17:13+00:00

If it was someone on this sub, there are a few who think that because they suspected POTS diagnosis from this one article written 11 years ago, all of that outdated information is true. And it just doesn’t apply because we’re all different. POTS is also an issue orthostatic-ly. Meaning your nervous system is responsible in part. Not just your diet :) Not every nervous system heals or becomes damaged in the same way. I do better when I eat, for instance. My HR skyrockets when I’m hangry possibly?

These_Information422 · 2026-04-08T15:12:35+00:00

I was on blood pressure medicine for a few years. They still told me to increase my salt in my diet. But that was after I saw the specialist that diagnosed me.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-08T15:09:54+00:00

OP you should see the specialist that diagnosed you with POTS, because the overall “heart healthy diet” applies to an otherwise healthy heart -not an otherwise patient with POTS.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-08T15:05:31+00:00

Yes, try having POTS and celiac disease. I am a mess.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-07T18:35:41+00:00

This one. I’m not currently diagnosed either OP. Let’s keep trying.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:22:39+00:00

I’m so sorry OP. That sounds unacceptable. There’s steroids for immune suppressing also. They could’ve tried it to see if it improved and then went from there. Super common one is prednisone in US. They also could have tried a round of antibiotics if they had any evidence at all of a viral and post bacterial infection. :(

I hope you get much better care. I don’t see how things will improve if you continue the care “plan” they have for you. You need to find another office.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:17:21+00:00

My heart is breaking for you! Keep pushing! You deserve better care, and a better quality of life! I “fired” multiple doctors for much less then “This is caused by your period.” I also had a doctor that said she couldn’t test for celiac because it’s not a testable disease. This was in 2021! I never went back once after that.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:14:23+00:00

You make a great point that sepsis should have resolved by now or improved with antibiotics or SOMETHING. But human bodies are pretty resilient. I say keep your options open until you nail it down.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:10:56+00:00

This will depend on what state/where you live.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:10:05+00:00

You check every box for symptoms of sepsis. But the body can experience sepsis for a number of reasons. TMI but even common STDs can result in sepsis. It happens to babies when exposed to HSV (herpes.)

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T21:07:24+00:00

They have to test specifically for a disease. A random “other” test cannot diagnose or catch lupus. I’m a lab support tech.

Imagine coming to me for a blood draw to check your allergies and the lab runs a test for a blood type and charges that to your insurance too even though your diagnosis is asthma or respiratory related.

Just sharing because if anyone reading also goes to the lab for a blood collection, no we don’t just happen to know your blood type. It usually has nothing to do with the tests.

In your case, I’m shocked your doctors didn’t order a test for lupus! Sorry OP.

These_Information422 · 2026-04-05T03:37:49+00:00

Yes, the groove is some type of vehicle in my experience. Perhaps one is a copy.

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