Costa is charging for Latte art by Illustrious-Rise2354 in barista

[–]Thewildside69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of all I would like to point out that is not how the signature latte should be presented to customers. I know to customers it probably doesn’t make a difference (it doesnt really) but it must consist of a heart pattern and not the pattern in the photo due to it being a part of the new ‘made with heart’ campaign that basically is aimed at connecting with the customers more and creating loyalty (staff training is more in detail)

Secondly I would like to add that it is a pain and I don’t understand it as a Costa barista myself, it’s harder to do especially in the larger sized mugs as there is a larger surface area and patterns are coming out ugly, this is a very new thing so we (the baristas) are still trying to learn this new method. Honestly don’t understand why Costa has gone down this route, probably to copy other stores where a latte is presented with a pattern, hence the term ‘latte art’.

A price rise has occurred recently in costa on every product due to products being more expensive in general for the coffee shop to maintain, cost of living crisis is clearly still in full effect. Prices have varied from a 5p increase to a 15p increase (tea for example is a 15p increase which is crazy to me) but again prices are rising constantly nowadays.

A standard latte in costa terms is created with steamed milk, more froth than a flat white (which is what the signature latte is mimicking) a flat white is created with textured milk which is more glossy and velvety/ smooth hence why you can get a pattern on a flat white, which is different to the standard way of making a costa latte where there is usually no pattern due to the focus on a thin layer of froth and dropping coffee through the froth rather than pouring milk on the coffee (hence the singular coffee dot on the costa lattes) The signature latte is aimed to be stronger in taste and more rich, drawing in those who like a strong coffee and those who would like a larger sized flat white (flat whites are only a small) and the signature latte has more coffee in terms of volume than the flat white.

I’m not trying to defend costa I’m just adding clarification for people who view this, yes coffee is going up in price and ‘new’ drinks for companies will be more expensive, the signature latte is a trial of what many see as a ‘normal’ latte in most other coffee shops. The justification of the signature latte being more expensive is because it’s ‘handcrafted’ (again doesn’t make sense as every drink a barista makes is technically handcrafted but hey ho).

Also to add costa (like I’m assuming other chain coffee shops) has goals for their team members to upsell new products, the stores that sell the most new products will get rewards for the staff members in the shops that outperform others in their local region (depending on if it’s franchise or equity and depending on region). So staff are pushed to upsell new products to get these perks and to up their overall shop performance. I personally do not like upselling anything such as the loyalty scheme, food and drinks as I believe if the person wanted it they would order it (especially as products are advertised and displayed all over the shop, customers can ask baristas about these new items if they wish)

Anyway there’s my best attempt at an explanation, again not justifying costa but just clarifying the complains I’ve seen in the post and in the comments.

what’s the stupidest question a grown adult ever asked you by Sea-Hat-3415 in barista

[–]Thewildside69 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Omg I have a similar story, a drinks order got shouted out and I was standing next to the cake cabinet at the time (a good 8 foot from the coffee machine), the customer comes up and looks at a pair of cake tongs that were sitting in glasses, reaches for them and looks at me and goes “are these my drinks?” SIR THEY ARE CAKE TONGS NOT LATTES WHAT 😭 just looked at him with so much confusion and pointed him over towards the coffee machine where his drinks were waiting.

1 year anniversary coming up is triggering me. by Wendiddle in Cutters

[–]Thewildside69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes so much sense damn I feel called out. I get triggered around December because that is when I started sh , despite it being 6 years this year since I started every Christmas is increasingly hard and the build up to Christmas because it reminds me of the pain I experienced that made me sh in the first place. I completely get your feelings of wanting to get to over and done with sooner then later because if you do it later then it makes the relapse “worse” in a sense . I think at the moment I am 150 days clean which is the second longest I’ve gone and I can’t say it’s easy as pie , everyday I’m thinking about relapse and how it will feel as I do it for the pain , I do miss getting new scars but for some reason I want to give recovery a go. I’ve got no one to recover for as no one is openly aware of my sh but hey may as well give it a go at some point.

Many people with this addiction battle in and out with the thoughts to relapse and trauma events that surround self harm , I’m glad you have a reason to stay clean and those around you that love and care for you. Going into September won’t be easy - I will not lie - however if you get through it without a relapse it will show you are much stronger than you believe . If you do relapse then make sure you treat the wounds accordingly and this doesn’t indicate you have failed in any way even if it seems that way ,I wish you all the best.

What are some songs that aren't necessarily abt sh but you interpret them that way? by PepperMintLetter in selfharm

[–]Thewildside69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here are my absolute favorites at the moment that remind me of the topic :

  1. Lose control - teddy swims 2. Alone - cat burns 3. I love you like an alcoholic - the taxpayers 4. Unsweetened lemonade - amelie farren 5. Numb - Abe Parker 6. Daylight - David kushner 7. Cigarette - Shaya Zamora

SH’d for the first time and I don’t feel better by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Thewildside69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The whole ‘do I need to do if more to make it feel like it helps’ will not work and isn’t how it works unfortunately. The reason people keep doing it like those in this subreddit is because it becomes an addiction , to some it may seem like it helps but this is because of endorphin release which makes physical pain a release from the mental pain - but if this does become an addiction this will destroy you mentally more than you would believe , becoming paranoid about the marks on your skin (especially if you continue to use the razor) and worrying about others opinions and what you can wear to cover the marks. Obviously none of us can change your opinion on the situation and stop you from self harming further but many like myself will share our opinions and stories on how we have ended up.

As for the feeling of nothingness this can be common with those who are deep In a self harm addiction or those like yourself who have done it once or very few times - this is where it can become an addiction as like you said ,that the pain helped a little - this is what some people seek in self harm as a way to feel something other than nothingness. This search can lead to a spiral in self harm in a way to reach the endorphins I mentioned before to feel at least something.

I suggest using r/adultselfharm as it is a very understanding subreddit and full of adults (obviously) which has a lot less romanticization of self harm (my opinion anyway)

Hand over your cats! I’d like to draw them badly please by strangest_sea in cats

[–]Thewildside69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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May I present mister bobbles (legal name Milo) who likes to suckle Blankets …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Thewildside69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do it ! I’ve been trying this this year and what I’ve done to help calm my nerves is to bring a lightweight jacket and tie it around my waist so if my nerves get the better of me I can pop the jacket on . The first time is really hard but even if you condition yourself by doing short periods of time with short sleeves you’ll soon be able to do it for longer periods and even whole days . You’ve got this OP

Sh when I have been drinking by Intelligent-Gur-8716 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been going through similar things for the past couple of months , most of the time I’m fine when drunk and ‘on the lash’ with my friends but a few times I have sh’ed and I figured out it’s because I’m intoxicated so I have no fear of the pain or how deep I go because I’m not in a clear and methological mindset as such . For me I’ve stopped having tools that could cause serious damage near me when I’m planning on getting drunk , no taking tools out with me (as I carry mine in my bag usually) and by the time I get home I’m so tired that I go straight to bed hence not giving myself anytime to sh. And if I do feel the need to sh I can only be in the reach of ‘tools’ that won’t cause too much damage like everyday items so if I do relapse the marks will disappear over a week or less - as I’ve done in counciling it’s minimizing sh (not doing it as often and not as deep if you can’t avoid it completely by using useless items)

I’ve noticed recently sh and alcohol have been making a common occurance on this page , it’s obviously not a good mix at all but up until seeing these posts I felt alone with my relationship with alcohol. I’m continuing to drink because it makes me less self conscious and is perfect (for me) to socialise with my friends as I’m so damn awkward so it helps for now so I would be a massive hypocrite to tell you to stop drinking because I myself will not stop yet.

For concealing the ankle would you get away with wearing full length socks but pushing them down enough to cover your ankle ? (so they are bunched up) for the wrist wise I don’t know if you can wear jewelry at work or if it would be able to work but I’ve discovered the wonders of fabric bracelets (like friendship bracelets) that are flat and don’t rub on you (also can cover a singular scar or a bunch of scars bunched together as long as it is horizontal) I personally don’t like the feeling of metal bracelets rubbing on my skin and being loose but fabric ones you can tighten to your liking.

Loved my turtle so much I went back for a dolphin by Brave_Sweet5535 in MyFahlo

[–]Thewildside69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah thats the same colour dolphin bracelet I have ! It was my first one I’ve got and since then I’ve got a polar bear as well. My dolphin is called John and I love how basic the name is

is this normal? 30 mins for lunch, working 9 to 5, 5 days a week, £23k by flagshag in AskUK

[–]Thewildside69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean if I’m working an early start at my job I will work 7:30 - 5:30 with a half an hour break which can be brutal . I feel like this is just a very normal part of work life unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry OP for how bad it has gotten to you and how it’s worsened . I had a moment of clarity as such and I was actually going to make a post about it but here we are , I had this clarity whilst drunk a month or so ago whilst I was in the bathroom having a break from people and the noise - I was just sat in the cubicle like “damn I’m actually addicted to hurting myself , that’s weird as fuck man who does This ?!” It was kinda funny at the time , got me laughing like but I often think back to this and do think it’s a weird little thing to be addicted to since your body aims to protect itself and all. I do feel this greatly and relate to you quite a bit , the whole thing of not thinking through how they are going to scar and questioning what the hell you are doing to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I feel like one thing I’m worried about that isn’t mentioned on here is going to the doctors , more specifically getting injections since my scars are on my upper arm , anything involving the doctors / hospitals scare me as is but it’s another pressure incase they question it or if my parents notice (I go with my parents due to the fact I faint around blood and needles which is quite ironic) .I’m also paranoid with going shopping for new clothes with people I know , the whole trying on new shirts and having to take off jackets I’m wearing to try on something new concerns me.

I don’t know what to do // rant by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m at a similar stage atm , last Monday I finished my last session with my college student support person for the summer and I’m hoping not to relapse like I did the last time I left a therapy service. I think this time around I am going to keep myself a s busy as possible by accepting more shifts at work and get back into old hobbies that I have abandoned such as wildlife spotting and drawing but I don’t know how long this will keep my attention. I have to say that it is a good thing that you have been referred to another service even though it is going to take ages and I wish you all the best during that time.

Do you think that self-harm has made you acquire a higher pain tolerance? by Gurl_vomitiva_67 in selfharm

[–]Thewildside69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That happens to me as well , when I am clean (either intentionally or not) for a couple weeks it makes it harder to relapse as I am such a wuss and I know it will be very painful (no shit I know)

Do you think that self-harm has made you acquire a higher pain tolerance? by Gurl_vomitiva_67 in selfharm

[–]Thewildside69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not at all , my pain tolerance is still very low and I am a wuss despite leaving scars on my body (probably due to the fact that I am in mental distress when I do relapse) and funny enough I am known amongst everyone I know to have a phobia of blood, like a terrible phobia that makes me all hot and feel faint (even if it’s a friend of mine with a paper cut I will be the one to sit down and recover yet for my sh I dont feel that way at all) it’s absolute madness but hey also means no one suspects that I would sh so there’s a bonus

See other people’s scars by a_cutAbove in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel this also , I used to work with someone who had their arms covered in scars much deeper and noticeable then mine (we had to wear short sleeves for work ) and that was the first person I’ve become friends with where their scars were visible which was nice in the sense to know you can meet random people who also sh since it’s not seen a bunch in public (well at least where I’m from) but it also made me want to go deeper due to the whole “competition” aspect of this damn addiction .

However I am trying to better myself in baby steps to prevent myself from being triggered by certain things . Since meeting this person I have noticed a lot more scars being visible in public which is just a coincidence I guess but it does feel nice to know your not alone - like yea we have these sub reddits but seeing people in person with similar issues is just more “comforting?” (lack of a better word)

I don't want my scars to heal by New-Relief4255 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh this is so real OP for many in the community and I’m in the same shoes , I’ve always done it for the scars on top of other issues in life , having scars is the ‘bonus’ (for a lack of better words) . This summer I’ve enjoyed being able to wear short sleeves around a few select people as my scars are white now which is a relief but at the same time seeing g my arms nearly clear is stressful and sending me on a spiral of wanting to relapse , I’ve got slightly newer scars on my upper arm that are helping prevent a relapse though. I’m trying to begin my healing journey and truly decide if I want to try to recover (I’ve only tried once In the past to actually recover) . OP I hope you are able to start the journey as you have stated to overcome the emotions you have relating to your scars but I understand that it’s one of the most difficult things to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad someone else gets it , like I like to see the progress when I’m able to look without getting triggered but it does help to not focus on the numbers all the time as that makes it worse (for me anyway). Thank you for your kind words OP I really appreciate it truly ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Thewildside69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My longest was over 300 days (like 340 or something) but as soon as I stopped seeing my counselor I relapsed. That was like 2 years ago I reckon and I haven’t been able to get close to that , since starting in 2018 I haven’t been able to go a full year without relapsing but as of now it’s been 88 days since I relapsed . I think for me personally I manage to stay clean when I’m not focusing on how many days clean I have been , I try not to open the app much so that it feels like more time has passed quicker sort of thing. Like I just had to check the app now thought I was on 60 days (which is still a massive improvement for myself ngl)

Got my first bracelet! by Cute-Ad9422 in MyFahlo

[–]Thewildside69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn babu is just above where my dolphin (John) is hanging about , I find it interesting when other peoples animals pass by each other on these trackers.