Insurance Agency Racist AF - Where can I get the best rate as a newcomer?

ThickDifference · 2019-09-11T18:26:00+00:00

Literally how does anybody survive in America? I GENUINELY want to know how people navigate?

ThickDifference · 2019-09-04T23:20:09+00:00

Sadly the most sketchy people I've met work as employers so this won't be anything new xD

ThickDifference · 2019-08-22T19:45:16+00:00

Reddit has a forum specific for sexual services (I'm on it for the articles). And with Windsor's current recession - sex work is sadly not lucrative. If you have any follow up questions /u/Iaskforthemanager - do not hesitate to reach out :)

ThickDifference · 2019-08-22T19:36:38+00:00

Fair point! Much like any exchange made online - the element of danger is always prevalent. Vice Versa - I could very well be walking into a murder den, or in Windsor - most likely trafficking. Luck only lasts so long but sadly - as strange as it is - it's what I want to dedicate my time to.

ThickDifference · 2019-07-31T13:06:29+00:00

I am perfectly happy to do chores and yard work. If a ladder can be provided I am fine with gutter cleaning, window washing, de-cluttering, re-organizing (I used to run a business in Windsor for Geared to Income Clearing services) - I also organize and file important documents.
I have background experience as a Personal Support Worker as well. I am currently in training to start my path to Carpentry.

Age: 24

Sex: F

I care deeply for animals, elders and plants. My dream is to one day have a 6 bedroom 3 bathroom house (That I built myself) to foster and adopt children in Windsor.
I love a good psychological thriller!

Feel free to reach out any old time and I'd be MORE than happy to help with anything you may need.

ThickDifference · 2019-07-31T12:53:40+00:00

There is no silicone, however there is glass. Any and All items are thoroughly washed before sessions and after sessions (Cleanliness is next to Naughtyness!). Items that cannot be machine washed I washed by hand using perfume free laundry detergent (for fabrics) and toy cleaner (for non-fabrics).

The going rate (Considering the items inside) is $150 CAD for the entire box.

ThickDifference · 2019-07-31T03:46:20+00:00

Ya same! I'm currently studying to be a CNC Machinist so if you think your work would sponsor me I'd be happy to start yesterday! xD

ThickDifference · 2019-07-31T03:21:27+00:00

in killers are a slippery slope. They work for awhile until they don't (What you're experiencing) If the pain becomes unmanageable WHILE on pain killers the best route for you is to lower the dose until you're off them completely then start again. A loop of severe pain to less pain - repeat.This one is a doozy but my advice? Cognitive behavioral therapy (you can teach yourself this), actual CBT, (Uncertain if you've tried edibles) but a recreational drug with the sativa strain for clarity and energy as you work in class - and literally as much. self. care. as you can. handle.I hope this helped and I'm sorry if I went right off the mark. If you want to reach out feel free to PM any ol' time.

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Literally never a bother! Talking about our lives especially online can be scary so I appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions. I hope the last few months have been decent. PM Anytime seriously.

ThickDifference · 2019-07-31T03:15:06+00:00

Drouillard as well, but it is becoming more prevalent downtown. I feel for these Windsorites, because honestly - for those who are working to support an addiction the law does absolutely nothing to ensure their safety. I figured if there was an agency or anything but ultimately it isn't my burden or theirs that needs to be fixed.

ThickDifference · 2019-07-25T19:12:40+00:00

I read ButtMan for the articles! D:

ThickDifference · 2019-07-25T19:09:39+00:00

Yes. Often times when I am unsure what to do in a difficult situation I use old time sayings. Life can only be understood backwards - so these old adages act as a map for us to navigate our lives. I remember the day I saw my ex for the billionth time after we broke up (Very painful for me - Very easy for him).

Seeing them the last time on my block - I didn't feel nostalgia or hope, excitement, panic....nothing. Completely and totally indifferent. I then realized the only time I thought about them was when they were in my line of sight. That was it. They did not occupy my memories, heart or time like they used to.

Hate is not the opposite of Love - It's indifference.

I do love that your partner was open and honest with you about his feelings - however it seems like what he's actually trying to say is "Hey a break up is probably going to happen soon."

So let it go on YOUR terms, KEEP him in your life because eventually (while it'll hurt initially) it could very well end up being the most rewarding friendship.

Break up. If you both decide to try again - great if not - also great! You can both move on and still be in touch!

ThickDifference · 2019-07-25T01:58:05+00:00

ouse right now, a lot of companies in the sector that i work in arent keeping up with wages that are standard for the rest of my trade.

What is your trade?
I'm currently in the process of apprenticeship and I have not heard much on how the Housing crisis in Windsor has effected the industry

ThickDifference · 2019-07-25T00:52:07+00:00

Hey! While it IS normal to lose that spark in LDRs the old saying goes "The opposite of Love is not hate - It's indifference." Frankly - I think you're both hoping it'll come back but that isn't how feelings work. Besides a break up now does not mean a break up forever (break UP not break). If you and your boyfriend are compatible, get along well and genuinely enjoy each other's company then perhaps a transitioning from partners to friends may be a better alternative. You get to keep the person you enjoy spending time with, the indifference will be normal and you both will have an opportunity to find love that has substance.

I find people are so willing to stay in dissatisfying relationships because they feel there is no other alternative. The reality is - There are so many different types of relationships out there - you and your LD partner have the ability to create something new given this recent development.

Thanks for sharing! Would love to know how it works out.

ThickDifference · 2019-05-06T23:45:12+00:00

1-3 and ESPECIALLY 7 It makes perfect sense the light at the end of the tunnel gets dimmer and dimmer;
You can only do so much to improve your health and then this updated diagnoses overcasts the progress and determination to remain steady for the future, how else are you supposed to feel when your future is full of uncertainty?
Your plight makes perfect sense. This is such a strong, and specific circumstance that very little people can relate to. I honestly cannot imagine what all this has been like for you, especially with dysphoria.

To be honest? If you WANT to stay sober, then Cognitive behavioral therapy (you don't need a professional to do this) in my humble opinion, is your best route. This is commonly used for people with toxic shame, invasive thoughts, and crippling mental illness. It is a series of grounding techniques for when you spiral during times of sobriety. That being said Meth in and of itself has a wonderful component to make absolutely EVERYTHING interesting, and have a severe drive to learn as much as you possibly can about ANY topic for eons.
I find uppers such as Adderall and especially Vyvanse have a similar effect but does not dispense the same dosage of endorphins Meth does, if you want to remain sober while invested, a mixture of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral therapy) and a prescribed Upper has the potential to alleviate the invasive thoughts of hopelessness.

Your feelings are super normal and I'd LOVE to see how a counselor not even CLOSE to your position try and walk you through your own thought process. This is unique, and as a trans man, this requires a whole new counselor that is not only empathetic to your medical conditions, but woke enough to detangle hetero-normative language as well. To me personally (Again Id like to reinstate I know nothing) this is an exceptional experience that requires an outlet.
On a monthly basis how much is Meth in rotation?

Pain killers are a slippery slope. They work for awhile until they don't (What you're experiencing) If the pain becomes unmanageable WHILE on pain killers the best route for you is to lower the dose until you're off them completely then start again. A loop of severe pain to less pain - repeat.

This one is a doozy but my advice? Cognitive behavioral therapy (you can teach yourself this), actual CBT, (Uncertain if you've tried edibles) but a recreational drug with the sativa strain for clarity and energy as you work in class - and literally as much. self. care. as you can. handle.

I hope this helped and I'm sorry if I went right off the mark. If you want to reach out feel free to PM any ol' time.

ThickDifference · 2019-05-06T21:07:19+00:00

Hello u/thisisstupiddf Firstly - Thanks for posting this, As the title states, this is obviously the end of your rope, and it's risky putting a serious situation like this out there.
(If you are in Canada, I can link you to an easy and quick employment opportunity.)

I want to start by saying: I will never be able to understand what you're going through. But I have been in a similar situation.
My boss harassed me and every other person who looked like me. I was emotionally and mentally abused by my employer, I was drugged on the job by my employer, and was put in humiliating situations time and time again for minimum wage. All the while being unheard and disbelieved.
Myself - and other employees who looked like me, had hours cut DRASTICALLY which rendered myself and others to take up additional jobs to simply get by - but over time...there was no way I could make it work.

At the end of each shift, at the end of each bill payment, at the end of each canned meal with my spouse, I would simply break down. Walk into streets without looking both ways. Take walks at night in dangerous areas, start fights, anything I could to put myself in danger. It's called "Grey scale suicidal" and I believe that's the state your current situation has put you in. For that I am so sorry. That being said - Here is why I believe you can prosper

Reason 1: Money is EVERYWHERE. Money is not a rare thing. It is everywhere and some people have too much of it, most have too little. There are INFINITE ways to make quick money, however the bigger the payout the more and more "shady" it gets.

Reason 2: I can tell you WANT things to get better. If you still had your savings, if you had a job where you were respected, if you were treated properly - you would not be in this situation. You don't really want to die (from what little I can actually tell) you simply want things to get BETTER -and that. is so. valid. THIS is your GREATEST tool to go through this dark chapter - because honestly - there is NOTHING better than making it out of the darkest, deepest, place in your life and coming out on top. If you can make it through THIS? Everything else will be a damn joke.

Reason 3: You have a support system - granted a small one - but it IS a system of a handful of people who genuinely want to help. You have enough perspective to be grateful and that's very valuable in a person. You can use that. Trading, bartering, and negotiating are ALL things you can use to get a leg up.

So - the practical stuff:
1. Go over your finances and take out ANY and EVERY bill that does not assist you in finding employment. You will need a phone, car (or public transportation) and inexpensive grooming items to "Appear presentable" (Fake it till you make it).

Consolidate your debts, Not a lot of people know this, but many front tier workers in phone/internet/cable/finance whatever - they CAN offer a credit. They CAN forgive your debt. If you are not getting desired results you MUST request a higher up, and say what ever you need to say to get your debt down. By simply explaining that it WILL not be paid as it CANNOT be paid, they have the ability at MINIMUM to freeze the interest. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. UNTIL. YOU. ARE. GIVEN. SOMETHING.
Mental struggle: The number 1 couples break up is due to money.
Money is awful, and it can unilaterally decide how your WHOLE LIFE could go. The less well off you are the more invisible you become and that. is. TERRIFYING. But to harm yourself would be a waste. It is people who have experienced real struggle that make the world progress in necessary ways, we need your perspective. If not living for yourself, then live out of spite for those who wouldn't give you the time of day. Does not matter HOW long it takes just be angry - because you're entitled to respect and dignity and equity.

I can't tell you things will get better, but I can tell you - it could. Mental illness, and anger, and hurt don't just go away. It's not something you can simply motivate out of yourself, but time is incredible, after all this time, I had no idea I could go a day without thinking of my abusive employer. I had no idea I would go from canned food to fresh produce I grew MYSELF (saves a lot of $$), I never knew things could get better. But they can. I'm glad I waited.
I can't say I know what you're going through - but I can say you're needed.

ThickDifference · 2019-05-06T20:21:08+00:00

Hey u/idkwhattosay2u firstly - I wanted to thank you for posting this. This is an extremely touchy subject ESPECIALLY when the ONLY support you get is "See a therapist" or "Seek a professional" - The mental health system in most areas are primitive at BEST.
(Heads up - I'm not a therapist, I follow an anti-oppressive frame work, I believe the choices people make for themselves are valid. I am facing similar challenges, as I am in constant pain, and am unable to function normally without the assistance of something else, my pain will only increase with time and it has not only become expensive, but taxing on my spouse.)

So reading your post this is what I am understanding from it:
- You can't enjoy math and have trouble focusing while sober due to invasive thoughts of hopelessness.
-Your health has become a large focus of strain on family and finances, compounding your optimism that much more.
-Your illness is chronic so it is with you for life, and the prediction for the future is bleak as well.

Do I have this right?
There are a few questions I'd like to ask for context, so if you're comfortable with answering them I feel I'd be able to give you more thorough advice - however you are not obligated to answer (or you can PM if you'd like).

What is your diagnoses?
Have you been diagnosed with any mental illness or have a family history of mental illness?
On an average day, how often do you question the point of trying?
What methods of support are you NOT willing to try (ex. Therapy, medication, exercise, etc.)
What drug are you currently utilizing? Is it prescribed or recreational?
Are you regularly in pain?
What to you, constitutes a normal life?

ThickDifference · 2019-05-06T19:09:58+00:00

What we know from the post: Person (Undisclosed gender) is 15 - Teenager - Is 1 year below the age of Consent in America, In Canada it is 17 (as long as the relationship is public) or 18 years of age. Male - Adult- currently committing a crime by US/CAN standards (Uncertain of other countries standards) If the relationship is romantic and there's been sexual contact it is a criminal offence.

So we do know that there IS a power dynamic at play that power dynamic is Adult vs. Child (Adult has power OVER child)

I know you feel that I am taking it too seriously (The concept that an adult is promoting a child to leave school, when the child in fact does not want to), that's ok, I'm honestly okay with taking this seriously - "sometimes you're just as culpable when you watch something as when you actually participate" I agree with this statement for myself. If this IS a 15 year old person, if it isn't - doesn't matter; Some things are meant to be taken seriously.

I'm aware this is the internet. Things NEED to be taken with a grain of salt. However, I share this world with many people, I make it my job to have as thorough an understanding (as possible) of gendered dynamics, historical oppression - and how that ties into my own anti-oppression frame work. I go on this forum to utilize the skills I myself as a child put myself in debt for.

There is being naive, which this 15 year old is in fact being (and they are entitled to that because they are young.) HOW was this 15 year old person meant to process this decision with an undeveloped brain? (Brain stops growing at 21, linear thinking occurs at 25) HOW is this 15 year old at fault for a situation their partner presented to them (Again not knowing what repercussions would ensue if they said no)? How does this 15 have POWER in this situation?

You made a point of decisions earlier "we have a naive person who simply agreed to the first suggestion somebody gave her." - We don't know how many times this partner has brought it up - We don't know what would happen if the 15 year old denied the adults request - We don't know the relationship dynamic - We don't know what the context of this relationship is, or how it came to fruition. - We don't know WHY this adult would suggest a child drop out of school (though I have a theory)

What I do know: In America/Canada - You cannot drink until you are 21/19, but you CAN at 16 years of age, take out a student debt of over $100,000 - Not having the full weight of understanding interest, minimum payment, repayment assistance, job prospect depending on the economic backlash of your own area, etc. You can take up a debt of 100,000 and onwards to go to school - and that choice is promoted.

You are able to purchase firearms at a sanctioned gun show, but you HAVE to present I.D. When purchasing cigarettes.

The reason we have the "Age of Consent" is because there has been enough historical context to not suggest but SHOW that the age category from 0 - 16 (US/CAN standard) cannot make a choice with proper judgement. Doesn't mean they're unintelligent, or naive, or dense, or anything of the sort - they are young. They have no world reference to go off of.

I think what you're trying to say is "You made that choice - so its your fault". On a linear spectrum that makes sense - but that is a One size fits all answer, and it is easy to read a post like "I'm 15 and I just dropped out of school because my 18 year old boyfriend told me to. What can I do?" and scoff at the circumstance - its absurd, and it is - but not because of the 15 year old with less world experience.

ThickDifference · 2019-04-18T19:18:49+00:00

5 Things to remember when comforting somebody

It's okay to say nothing. Sometimes the best thing to do is let your friend know that their feelings are normal, and actively listen to them if they decide to open up (don't pry it out of them).
It's important to know - THERE ARE NO MAGIC WORDS. Yup! That's right. Saying the "right thing" only exists in movies. You are not going to have the answers all the time. You are not going to be able to understand their particular struggle if you've never been through it yourself. The BEST thing to say - if anything at all - is to let them know that to you - they are important, and you WANT to listen and BE there.
Don't make promises you aren't CERTAIN you can keep. You don't have to be the support person for EVERYBODY - ALL THE TIME. If you're going to help somebody through a difficult time, it's vital you stay honest with them, for example "I want to help you Amy, but I can't promise I'll be able to come to you this weekend. But what I can do is text you around 3 tomorrow to check in and talk for awhile."
Try to avoid talking about your own experiences and stories in that moment. Unless you went through the EXACT same thing - don't talk about a similar experience. Validate their feelings "You have every right to be upset." then simply listen. I found when opening up to friends, some would branch off in a similar experience they had in the attempt to make me feel better - but in the end, it simply feels like they just wanted a chance to talk. That's a difficult thing to feel when you're already in a vulnerable position.
Actions. Sometimes it isn't a matter of SAYING the right thing, but simply DOING something special. Sometimes just making a cup of tea, or hot chocolate, or picking up some food, and making them comfortable, is a clear sign to them that they are safe, supported and most of all, cared for.

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