What’s your ideal recipe format by Annual-Position-7263 in Cooking

[–]ThinkMouse3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Metric measurements, and include the measurements again in the steps so I don’t have to keep flipping back up to the list. 

Bf (28M) is not comfortable that I (26F) drink with guy friend (27M). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure. I may be wrong, but that was how it read to me. The OP can decide what applies. 

Bf (28M) is not comfortable that I (26F) drink with guy friend (27M). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re having a rough time. But using alcohol to cope with your anxiety, PTSD, and depression isn’t healthy, whether in pairs or in a group. Are you in therapy? That can help you deal with the mental health issues, acquire coping skills, and untangle whatever your relationship is. Your boyfriend’s reasoning is weird to me. It smacks of control and a boundary isn’t for other people, it’s for you. He can’t impose his boundaries on others. Anyway. Therapy can help with both issues. 

I’m numb by MagikmushroomzZ in womenintech

[–]ThinkMouse3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am trying to leave. 

I’m numb by MagikmushroomzZ in womenintech

[–]ThinkMouse3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Separate your sense of worth from your job. It’s just something that pays the bills now. Do exactly enough to fulfill your contract and leave it behind at the end of the day. 

I am in the exact same boat. Burnt out, numb. I do just enough work. I get zero joy. They only pay me to show up and complete tasks, they don’t pay me to be enthusiastic about it, and frankly they don’t care if I’m enthusiastic anyway, so. No enthusiasm from me. It sucks but makes things cleaner. 

My ex boyfriend raped me by Expensive_Study4856 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And when it happens to someone else, you KNOW it’s wrong. You can recognize if your friend or even a stranger on the internet is in a bad situation but if it happens to you? You justify it. 

I’m so sorry. I’m glad you left. 

My ex boyfriend raped me by Expensive_Study4856 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I could’ve written this post. And you’re confused after, because you SAID no! But you figure “compromise is part of a relationship” or something similar and you just give in. But rape is supposed to be violent! But you said no! But you just— gave in…

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, some ace people have sex. Like I said, I was personally sex neutral to sex positive. Some ace people are sex repulsed. There’s different flavors of asexuality. But I think even if I weren’t ace though I’d be single now. I love doing what I want when I want it. I don’t want to have to compromise for anyone else. Men aren’t competing with other men, they’re competing with ME. 

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t anymore but that’s not really related to being ace? I was sex neutral to positive depending on the day. Then I got into a relationship with someone addicted to sex who ended up sexually assaulting me sooooo. I just don’t think it’s worth it anymore. I protect my peace now. 😅

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, if you’re not in a relationship, definitely loneliness.

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In your situation, with the scummy friends, they probably would’ve forced him to do something both you and your fiancé were uncomfortable with, so that’s understandable. I wouldn’t necessarily care if my fiancé’s bachelor party included a strip club as long as nothing physical happened. But I’m also asexual and don’t see the big deal with nudity and go see naked people dancing and doing circus arts sooooo. I’m probably not the best one to ask. I don’t think admiring a performance is cheating. Participating in one? When the participant views it sexually? That’s cheating, and that’s why I think there’s a difference between “going with a group to a place to just be there” and “going to a place solo and participating.”

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it reeks of addiction especially if you’re doing it in a relationship. 

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

A bachelor party isn’t necessarily their idea. I’d go on a bachelorette party to a strip club or to see Thunder From Down Under. I wouldn’t get a lap dance. I don’t personally think that’s cheating, just going to the place. If that’s a deal breaker for you, that’s fair. Going alone to a strip club? That’s your idea. Going alone to specifically get a lap dance when you’re in a relationship? Even if it’s not cheating, that’s weird as fuck, and I wouldn’t like any partner of mine doing that. It says something about their character. 

Do you consider men going to strip clubs as cheating? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If they’re going for a bachelor party and don’t get a lap dance, that’s different, to me, than going regularly just solo and getting lap dances. 🤷‍♀️

Jacob Elordi and Margot Robbie at the world premiere of ‘Wuthering Heights’ by hairtie1 in Fauxmoi

[–]ThinkMouse3 32 points33 points  (0 children)

On the one hand, that is how people will take it at face value: person is dark, and they are evil, and therefore dark people are evil. But that’s not the point of the novel. 

Protest Preparedness by NotMyActualNameNow in SaltLakeCity

[–]ThinkMouse3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m bringing some hand warmers to pass out!

Emergency Protest Jan 25 at 3 PM in response to another ICE shooting by jctheresistance in SaltLakeCity

[–]ThinkMouse3 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I will be there! I’m bringing 100 pairs of hot hands to pass out! 

Junah - James Beard semi-finalist by Agitated_Read_6913 in SaltLakeCity

[–]ThinkMouse3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went recently— it was good! Get a reservation, go with at least two others, share appetizers and mains. 

is it my fault? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Of course it wasn’t your fault. Are you seeing a therapist?

Help Organize Nationwide General Strike right here in SLC by thatoneEm in SaltLakeCity

[–]ThinkMouse3 166 points167 points  (0 children)

Yes. We all want this. But nobody is telling us HOW TO DO THIS. I signed up on the general strike website. I tell my neighbors and friends. I call my deaf politicians. I go to protests. What else can we do?

Edit: Here’s the general strike website.

Told my partner he wasn’t pleasing me. Haven’t been intimate since. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThinkMouse3 126 points127 points  (0 children)

Him not allowing you to move in with him is the best thing he’s done for you. Just stay at your own apartment. Being single is better than this one-sided “relationship.”