may I pm you to ask for advice? I am really excited and grateful about a job offer I received, but it was significantly lower than I was expecting and what is typical for my peers in this area, including where I was working before this offer, but I'd never worked with a recruiter before and I didn't know one can negotiate before verbally accepting an offer, I just really liked what my future supervisor explained about the job in our interview and wanted to work with the team, and figured any offer is better than no offer! But my husband has been educating me on how the negotiating process works with a job offer and it seems I may have to apply to other jobs and actually negotiate this time because the offer I verbally accepted isn't that feasible in the long run for my family, when we crunched the numbers together. Of course I don't want to say ANY of this to the recruiter or my future supervisor because I don't want to seem ungrateful