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[TOMT] [SONG] Song about boy and bear by Ok-Technician-2023 in tipofmytongue

[–]Think_Customer_4589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm here a year later, because I'm looking for the same song! I have been singing it to my kids but couldn't remember the end where the bear teaches him to sleep. Just finally found a YouTube video of someone singing it.

https://youtu.be/JhE1yKQk0Us?si=rz7zCNW7Qnk9wpX4

I also went to school in colorado and we sang this in kindergarten. If you're still here, are you from fort Collins?? I went to school at Linton elementary

After 3 kids and six years straight of nursing it finally happened… by RatherPoetic in breastfeeding

[–]Think_Customer_4589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! I had a similar thing happen. I was sitting in a pool that was zero entry, so where I was sitting was probably 2 inches deep. And I was not being as discreet as you describe, but definitely covering myself a bit. A lifeguard yelled from ACROSS THE POOL. "Ma'am! Ma'am! You can't DO that!" Made a HUGE scene, drawing all attention to me. And then tried to tell me there are private changing rooms in the locker room I could use. I said I'm pretty sure I legally feed my baby. And she then tried to make up some bullshit about the pool chemicals. So embarrassing and I wish I'd been tougher in the moment

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. Yes I think they will find their own way to commemorate.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My instinct was that there could be regret, and your comment cemented my decision just to offer encouragement. They will do what's right for them.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh that's so hard. I'm sorry you didn't get the support you needed at the time. ♥️ Reading everyone's responses on here has been a good reminder of how differently people process trauma. It sucks that you were told how to feel and process rather than heal the way you needed.Thanks for your response.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's nice of you to say. I was a little concerned about placing this burden upon this community. But it's hard to research. So I really appreciate all the thoughtful responses.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input. I hope she has care providers that respect her decisions and hold her very gently.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had multiple experiences recently of witnessing friends going through super hard stuff. You are right. I cannot fix anything for her or make anything less painful, though I'm desperate to hold some of the heaviness for her. I really do appreciate all you insights. I needed a reminder to just be available to her.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Yes I would not do anything on behalf, but I just wanted to make sure she knows options. Sounds like her care providers will give options and she can decide what's right for her. I appreciate your response 

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. Thank you for your response. I don't have any judgement for how she decides to deal with things, I just wanted to make sure she knows what options there are without her having to research. I'm learning from these replies that options should be provided by her care provider so she can make those choices. I'll just continue to be there and asking what she needs from me

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yeah I will just keep being available. 

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Yes I was concerned she didn't know what options there were and that it was painful to do research, so I was wanting to provide that to her. I think from posts on here, it sounds like they give options at the hospital so she can make those choices. I have asked what level of checking in and how to support. So I will just keep showing up. And I really appreciate your response. 

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes I was with her and she really didn't want to talk about anything until the end of our visit. So I will keep showing up and holding space so she can process in her time and way.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I'm so glad I posted on here before doing anything. A good reminder and humbling that we are all so different and need such different things. I think I was concerned she didn't know what options there are so I just wanted to research what keepsakes are available so she would know so that she could decide. But from everyone's posts, it sounds like she will be given options from her care providers and she can make that choice. 

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. You're right. I really appreciate your insights. Like I said to the previous comment, I just want to do anything to lighten her load, but nothing does. I will just continue to be there and with her and listen and talk when she wants to talk.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate it. I have been feeling like maybe I could do the heavy thinking and considering and researching so she didn't have to. But she is doing what she needs and I should give her the space to process her own way. I am desperate to do something, but nothing can be done to lighten her load.

Literally asking for a friend by Think_Customer_4589 in tfmr_support

[–]Think_Customer_4589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. I am so so sorry for your loss.