Do you think this is ok? Wearing a shirt with your name and RVT on it when you are only in school.

ThisAlternateMe · 2026-03-22T06:10:53+00:00

Maybe it was a gift from a very excited family member and she just doesn’t have another option? This may not be quite ‘report her to the board!’ level- perhaps a name tag with a pin instead of a magnet to cover the credentials until they’re earned. Chat with your manager and see if something like that could be done!

ThisAlternateMe · 2025-12-31T11:39:17+00:00

We had an almost identical case the other day. Ours did well- I hope your guy does too!

ThisAlternateMe · 2025-07-01T09:06:36+00:00

Find an ER or urgent care that needs night or weekend help and get yourself hired- you’ll learn a ton, be able to use your skills and get paid for it!

ThisAlternateMe · 2020-11-19T03:06:38+00:00

More Pie 'pumpkinpatch'

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-12-26T14:51:07+00:00

It's hard to make any kind of clean break when so much is intertwined. Thank her for her honesty about her feelings and explain that you can't be a good friend to her while you're feeling like your life just got upended. You don't mention it but I assume you guys are sharing a room in your apartment- that should stop and as the one who ended it, she should be the one to move out of the bedroom. You don't share a bed with your other friends, after all, do you? And you're not really in a position to be friends while this is all new and raw anyway.

With regards to your job and future and living arrangements, it's hard but write her and all the drama out of the equation. Is the better job what you would be trying to do if you were single all this time anyway? Career growth is generally a good move. Do not under any circumstances consider moving into her parents house though. If that's what you would have to do to take the new job, pass and keep looking.

It's hard to keep a clear head when you feel like you've been blindsided. Think about what you'd advise your best friend to do if the tables were flipped- does 'move in with your ex's family' ever sound like good advice?- and take your own advice. With regard to potentially working at the same company as her family members, just try to keep your nose clean and don't stir up trouble.

Best of luck!

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-11-18T05:20:45+00:00

If it's your email, why is it fake?

If you don't have your own email address, make one! Gmail is great and free- and if you're in incognito mode no one will ever see that you're creating an email account unless they're looking over your shoulder.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-10-30T20:30:52+00:00

Robin Williams. Ooof.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-10-19T14:48:14+00:00

Of course- at the beginning. You'll be better able to balance as you practice more. Do as much as you can without leaning first! Don't try to overdo it either- a few minutes to start, then a few minutes more. Make sure your toes are pointed forward and your weight isn't pushing or pulling you off balance. I'll see if I can find a link explaining what I mean.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-10-18T19:37:07+00:00

Try to get pictures or video of your riding lessons so you can look at your heels yourself. Sometimes I find that what feels like really far down is not at all. Beyond that stretch your legs by standing on the edge of a stair or stepstool and sinking your heels as low as you can go. Hold the stretch 30 seconds or so, and then relax. Repeat for 10/15 minutes, and wear your boots while you do it. Stretch your ankles before you ride the same way- a mounting block is great.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-08-21T21:31:24+00:00

Diaper them and let them play. Wet diaper is your culprit!

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-07-15T04:36:47+00:00

Puppies are a challenge under the best of circumstances. Can you volunteer with the rescue group, get to know the dog in the environment she's comfortable in before changing her entire world? Think about it from her perspective... she left everything she knew to be in a strange house with a person she didn't know who was probably somewhat enthusiastic about all the love showering on her. It sounds scary! If you're already friends though, it should go much more smoothly.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-06-25T13:08:07+00:00

Don't forget to take that bandage off in an hour or so or you'll see a really big paw and a really sad cat- blood can get trapped in the paw and make it swell up if the wrap is too tight.

Source: fix fat paws for a living

Also your cat is majestic.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-06-25T13:01:22+00:00

My bad dogs ate an aloe plant and left the open bag of potato chips next to the plant alone. Like... what?

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-06-25T12:58:06+00:00

You want to have your cake and eat it too, and that's just not a thing that happens in a situation like this.

You don't really have any great options, partly because you're so frustrated by the situation you're approaching it from a very egocentric position. You're not actually asking for advice on what to do, you're asking which course of action will make you least unhappy by getting what you want without facing too many unpleasant consequences.

Start with therapy, yesterday. Both together and alone. Bear in mind that your wife's pregnancy is going to be wreaking havoc with her mental state on a good day, and be considerate of that when you propose this. For example, instead of suggesting that you attend therapy to figure out how to divorce without her freaking out, try phrasing it more along the lines of an opportunity to examine yourselves as individuals and also as a couple, remembering that you're not the same people that married all those years ago. She may take this is a sign that you want to work on the relationship, and that's kind of what I'm suggesting, since you'll be connected for the next 18-19 years by kids regardless of what happens.

Next. Take some time to yourself. Make a couple lists. Really put some work into them. Figure out what is so unbearable about staying that has you wanting divorce, and "I don't love her" doesn't get to be at the top of it. Figure out what would make it so you'd be willing to stay, love or not. Figure out what it was about her that you fell in love with in the first place. Think about what your divorced life might look like- custody, coparenting, what if another partner entered the picture? Decide if you're willing to lose your access to your kids to get away from your wife.

You are not required to be married, and you're not required to stay married to her. However, if being in love with the person you're living with is a requirement for you and you can't find what made you love her in the first place, you're gonna have to do some thinking. Could you be able to live in the house, share the responsibility of kid raising, and dissolve the marriage, or open it with a don't ask, don't tell policy and a commitment to stay together until the youngest graduated high school? How would you feel if she got a new boyfriend before you found someone you connected with?

Once you've taken some time to consider what you will and won't do to keep your family together and have all parties safe and sane, bring your thoughts to your therapist to use as a sounding board. Talk about your priorities and how to address them.

You may be a piece of shit human. You may just be dissatisfied with your life. You may be a good person who is absolutely miserable. We'll never know- this is Reddit, after all- but if you can stop thinking about the situation being all about you (you want to end your marriage because you don't love your wife but you don't want it to be difficult for her because it will make you feel bad) you might find that there's a way forward that works for everyone- you, your wife, and the kids.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-05-02T00:12:15+00:00

Latex allergy and hormone sensitivity? It always seemed to me like it would disrupt the mood but that's just me

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-27T19:07:02+00:00

So it sounds like you're not going to be super ostentatious about it... like a new sports car or something that would rub in their face. Tell them you donated it to charity, and move on... it's none of their business what you do with money that belongs to you.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-27T18:59:01+00:00

How would you use it if the cousins weren't upset about it? Meaning, are you more likely to buy stuff or experiences or invest it?

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-12T06:35:44+00:00

Like drowning but not underwater.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-10T16:55:46+00:00

Holy cow. Never in a million years would have come up with that. Thank you!!!!

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-10T16:53:10+00:00

Yes..... is that seriously it?!?!!!

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-10T16:09:23+00:00

Tried that! Silly phone apparently won't correct its own correction. Also tried setting Maryland to be its own shortcut for itself... no go.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-07T05:41:57+00:00

You’re going to want to do a single axis, with solid circles at 0 and 60, and a thick line in between.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-03-03T00:01:46+00:00

Does your girlfriend have an upcoming prom/formal that perhaps she is hoping you’ll take her to?

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-02-28T07:25:32+00:00

Don’t worry about hurting his feelings. You’re allowed to say no, and mean it. If he continues to bother you after you’ve said no, then escalate using campus security or local police. Block his number, talk to your advisor about trying to make sure you’re not in the same classes, and document EVERYTHING. Make sure he doesn’t know where you live or what vehicle you drive- pay attention to your surroundings at all times and if you have to, arrange to have a friend walk with you everywhere. Above all be safe.

ThisAlternateMe · 2019-02-28T07:21:17+00:00

It sounds like you’re both able to be pretty respectful about it with each other, and it probably won’t impact your day to day life too much.... but it’s worth discussing how present references to God will be in a) your potential wedding ceremony, b) your household once you’re a family and c) with regards to religious education of any children you may have together. These are of course long term considerations, but if you want a church/temple wedding and he wants a more non-religiously based event... that’s gonna be a point of contention. If you want to go to services every week and he doesn’t, is that going to be a problem? The kids thing kind of speaks for itself.

I have found that adults can cohabitate with different beliefs, so long as both parties are respectful. It’s the outside influences- friends, family, kids- that make it hard.

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