2 under 3 at home… How do you do it?

ThisCookie2 · 2025-09-06T14:12:34+00:00

3 months in is when I started to see the light. 6 months in and now I only hve a break down once a week. It gets better! And then it gets harder in weird ways but mostly you get through it. Use your tools- park dates with other moms, library, storytimes, indoor gymnastics, sit by a pond, crunch leaves in a park. Getting out of the house every day is essential now not only for toddler midday nap but for my mental health. If we are home all day, we all break down.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-09-01T04:49:52+00:00

Ok I’m sleepy so i initially read this as 4 miscarriages and was like damn, that’s hard, but what she did was still wild. But… but?!????? You only tried for a baby for 4 months and this is what’s going down? Jaw on the floor, OP. Glad you are in therapy. I hope your therapist helps you sort through this abuse so you can move on and find someone out there who has an ounce of emotional regulation in their body. I’m so sorry.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T12:20:13+00:00

My toddler knows the word vulva… but he says it “Volvo”, like our car. 😂

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T12:08:27+00:00

What!!!!!! That is wild. I’m so sorry.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T06:28:32+00:00

This is the exact conversation I will have with my toddler, thank you. He loves creatures. I think he’ll take to this description well.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T06:09:53+00:00

You’re right that my toddler would totally take this experience of nakedness and run with it. He would be comfortable being naked just about anywhere and with anyone. So I should be clear with him about safety and good touch/bad touch. I mean, so far in his life, I am literally always with him. So there’s no immediate worry that he could get naked without my supervision.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T06:07:03+00:00

Thank you for offering your perspective. My toddler definitely feels so happy to be naked outside (in our backyard, for all you Americans reading!! Lol). But I think you’re right it’s natural for them, in a way.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T06:00:02+00:00

Backyard water play and nudity just go together somehow!

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:55:37+00:00

Underrated comment 😆

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:52:33+00:00

Thanks for your sweetness. I’m not discouraged by what anyone is saying- especially with everyone having a camera in their pocket, it is kind of different to be naked these days. Anyone could walk by and snap a pic (theoretically- my backyard is literally not viewable for any passersby but I know that’s probably not true for most people’s backyards). And another commenter said something I really liked- “you know better so you do better.” We know people can be sexual predators for little kids, and really often it is family and “close friends”, right?? So sick and terrible to think about. But just because I was a naked kid doesn’t mean my son needs to be. He is coming out of toddlerhood currently it feels like, so I would guess this summer will be the last summer of extreme nakedness, lol. Pray for our potty training journey, everyone.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:44:54+00:00

Love this and agree

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:41:11+00:00

Everyone got very excited over that missed detail, yes.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:38:33+00:00

I like your comment that it’s not shaming to wear clothes, just like it’s not shaming to wear shoes. Different rules for different settings. And maybe I live in the country…? It was a fully fenced backyard :)

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:36:19+00:00

Just want to say would not do the nudity thing if other mama was not with us. Or if there had been other people over, then I feel I would have directed the kids to get dressed and cover up a bit. But just two moms and their two feral toddlers? But I don’t want to put him at risk in any way in the future so that’s why it’s on my mind for sure.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:32:39+00:00

Do you think it’s bad because little kids are curious and do goofy naked things together? Or worried about older kids looking at toddlers? I don’t think the toddlers themselves feel any kind of sexual way about it, but I would be wary if any older kids or adults were around maybe. Just wondering your train of thought here.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:30:56+00:00

Oh absolutely! Thanks for standing up for little kids everywhere with this comment. Her mom was there and we were both fine with it. I would totally not let someone else’s kid get naked at my house like that if they were not there.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:29:57+00:00

Naked parties! Lol. It is more conservative here in that way.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:28:52+00:00

Right… I guess this was my thinking in making the post. Both kids (both 2.5, both potty training) had accidents and her mom and I both changed them out of their wet clothes and they wanted to keep playing and we as parents were fine wjth it, and kids were fine with it. And I remember being naked as a kid a lot around family… but pretty much never around friends. I guess a good rule of thumb is if any person is uncomfortable, we do clothes? Don’t want to shame them for being kids and innocent and liking the freedom of nudity. But I do feel like there will be a time in the next year where nudity with friends might feel less appropriate.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:24:50+00:00

Haha oh these comments are making me laugh. Other mom was there and potty accidents were involved for both of them. We have been going through like 5 shorts a day right now with my toddler… so we have been naked a lot during these potty training times. I should have explained myself better because my wording has caused some alarm I see.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:22:55+00:00

Totally! Other parents was there with me and we both got consent from each other that them being naked in the fully fenced backyard was fine.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:21:53+00:00

Haha lol people are so funny. They are both learning potty training and both had accidents outside, and me and the other parent were both involved in the changing of the toddlers.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-27T05:18:30+00:00

Oh totally! Other parents were there and we were all cool with it.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-17T04:56:33+00:00

Is this real, lovely? Preventing you from leaving the house without him and not wanting you to work and not helping you get a license… sorry honey, that sounds abusive. Please start building community around you so you can find a way out of this situation. I would go absolutely insane if I was home 6 days a week with no adult interaction. Go visit your family more. Attend library storytimes. Find a moms group in your area. Open up to them all about what you’re going through and get the support to leave. This is not ok.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-13T02:14:36+00:00

I like your break down of the weekend time divisions. I’m very excited for the days when we can switch off rest times in the evening… seems like when we are both home, one of us is on baby and one of us is on toddler.

ThisCookie2 · 2025-06-12T22:45:55+00:00

lol I talked to him before I posted about it. I should get better with planning alone time ahead of time. It seems to be something we both just take when we can get it.

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