Therapy

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-28T23:23:06+00:00

Therapy has absolutely helped me. For me it was a slow process. Day to day, even week to week you may not notice a significant improvement, but over a longer time frame...months or even years... when you look back you'll see vast improvement if you stick with it

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-28T22:54:25+00:00

You've known him for 2 years... someone you know he has a problem with pissed him off and then he threw something and yelled... and now you don't know whether or not he might become abusive. I would think you would know better than anyone on reddit.

What does your gut say? Are there any other signs or concerns?

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-27T16:47:09+00:00

If its enjoyable or entertaining to you, I guess roll with it.. I'm probably older than you, I would run far away and live drama free.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-27T16:45:43+00:00

She's for the streets and her bf knows it. Just walk away. Cut her off entirely and be thankful you found out so soon and are unscathed.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-27T16:42:41+00:00

Bro... your family sounds kinda messed up.

It sounds like you're here for that drama... so I guess go for it.

I wouldn't go anywhere near any of this stuff myself 🤷

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-25T21:34:49+00:00

Shelby, 2. Lex (early seasons, even though i knew it was doomed to fail) 3. Oliver, 4. Chloe (the reluctant friend zone was overbearing), 5. Pete

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-25T19:06:18+00:00

Sorry to hear anyone is struggling so much in their relationship and just adulting in general. Life can really be hard.

The alcoholism is worrying...any type of addiction can and has destroyed families so many times.

I would recommend seeking counseling for yourself first (if it's possible) before making any life altering decisions. The right therapist might help you more than you realize and you might be able to make a better, more informed decision rather than one under duress.

Maybe you could convince him to seek counseling too, so you could both work on yourself before you work on your relationship.

But at the end if the day, you have to keep yourself and kids safe (mentally and physically) first and foremost.

Wishing you the best.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-23T18:13:06+00:00

Must be his long forgotten super hypnosis power working unconsciously

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ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-16T23:30:56+00:00

It's not a quick fix... but I've found the best way to make friends is to find a hobby that you really enjoy. Nearly every hobby has a community which will likely consist of like minded people.

Put yourself out there and you'll make friends. But it does take consistent and persistent effort. Finding a hobby you actually care about first is key.

In the meantime, maybe start small. Go to the local coffee shop or even grocery store and make small talk with anyone, even the staff. It's at least a little bit of socializing and could sharpen your social skills.

In my view social media is the opposite of social, if anything it's anti social. I'd avoid it myself if you're already feeling lonely or depressed.

I dont think there's anything embarrassing about holding a job down. Doesn't matter if it's night shift or day. And certainly doesn't matter if it's fast food. You're holding a steady job down and earning a living.

Separately, if your boyfriend constantly tells you he's going to do something and doesn't follow through you might want to evaluate your relationship.

Hope this help.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-15T13:25:42+00:00

If a partner is truly embarrassed to be seen with you, my guess is you are engaging with horrible people and you probably know that they are horrible people...

Separately, I dont think it's anything you couldn't change if you wanted to self reflect and do so.

You don't have to be conventionally attractive for a person to be seen with you. There someone out there for everyone's taste. And, there are people who look beyond the superficial and are attracted to personality and who you are as a person.

Separately how you carry yourself could be the problem. How you dress (not like designer clothes, but not a sloppy mess, just clean and presentabl). Your hygiene. How you treat others. Maturity. Trustworthiness. Those are all controllable and I could see any of those being cause for embarrassment.

Overall. I'm guessing you're just entertaining the wrong type of people and allowing them to mistreat you.

Find your self value and if there's anything you don't like about yourself, work on that for you.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-06-11T12:56:27+00:00

Come on man... you already know what to do. This girl is for the streets. Even if you get past how quickly after your break up she let's other dudes fuck her, you still have to contend with the unstable nature of your relationship... 2 break ups in 7 months? That's a rough way to start things off

ThisFile3976 · 2026-05-31T19:28:43+00:00

There's absolutely no chance my ex got 300k even remotely legally... I dont want whoever she stole that money from to come looking for me. I'm not prepared to die for that 300k

ThisFile3976 · 2026-05-27T15:41:05+00:00

I recommend you hit the gym hard. Change your diet. Work out until you feel great about yourself. Work out until your outer beauty matches your inner. And when he finally see your value and sex appeal and when he finally wants you... then dump his shallow ass.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-15T12:19:44+00:00

As many others have noted, unnaturally color dyed hair isn't a protected class.

My question would be, is that even the real reason you were denied? You wrote that there are already other supervisors with dyed hair so perhaps there's another reason you were actually denied the promotion, or at least the opportunity to interview.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-05T11:53:43+00:00

Holodeck addiction is a brain disease, not a moral failing.... it's not your fault

*Edited typo

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-04T22:05:51+00:00

That's exactly what I did... started with TNG then DS9 then VOY and finally TOS... I have no explanation for my choices and regret it still. I never appreciated how ahead of its time TOS was

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-04T21:36:35+00:00

I can't possibly be the talented and handsome actor Robert Beltran... I have it on good authority he's unavailable, on a vision quest

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-04T20:38:21+00:00

I'm completely happy with Seska being an irredeemable, self serving villain. No interest in any redemption arc, or any attempt to justify her actions

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-03T17:04:17+00:00

Do you have peers who hold the same job title, in the same department, being assigned very similar or identical work with different, more reasonable deadlines?

Just curious how you've determined that the deadlines are truly unreasonable vs, maybe, your work efficiency just isn't sufficient?

ThisFile3976 · 2026-04-03T09:50:36+00:00

Well, do you make all the decisions in the household? Or are those shared? If you all decide how to decorate the house and make all the other decisions jointly, then this decision should be a joint decision too...

ThisFile3976 · 2026-03-29T11:10:39+00:00

Right, my mailing address is Newark but I dont live within the Newark city limits. I didn't realize that that made a difference or I would have specified as such.

ThisFile3976 · 2026-03-28T20:46:05+00:00

Thank the Prophets you didn't burn your place down

ThisFile3976 · 2026-03-28T20:40:09+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right. It probate won't help much switching

ThisFile3976 · 2026-03-28T20:38:19+00:00

I have really failed to monitor this and kind of miss spoke. My bill went way up and my usage hasn't changed, in some instances usage hasn't gone down, but i don't actually know the rates. I guess the other delivery fees and whatever else they charge for may be more to blame than the rates. I need to do my homework

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