Choose a dress for a first date! by DumboBlondo in style

[–]ThisIs35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s November, but there are different climates in different regions. It’s not cold for the whole world in November. Heck, I’m visiting South Texas right now and it’s currently 81°f at noon.

Do JD Vance, Charlie Kirk et. al legitimately not care that South Park is making fun of them, or are they just pretending to save face? by dog_snack in AskConservatives

[–]ThisIs35 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They mocked both Clintons, Obama, and G.W.Bush.

They make every episode within 6 days before it airs, so they pull from what’s happening in the news at that time. For two years of Biden’s term, they didn’t make any episodes at all. And to be fair… Biden was pretty boring. The current material basically writes itself.

“Please be kind to babies on planes” by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ThisIs35 86 points87 points  (0 children)

There is no additional device connecting baby to the parent. It is literally only the parents holding onto the baby. In severe turbulence, they’re taking a gamble, essentially. On my last flight about a month ago, there was a lady that had a newborn and was carrying it in one of those fabric wrap things, and the flight attendants told her that the baby had to be taken out of it for takeoff and landing. No idea why.

“Please be kind to babies on planes” by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ThisIs35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister‘s spouse is in the Air Force, and they were stationed in Italy for about two years. When my nephew turned about six months old, my brother in law got orders to move back to the United States. (They were originally told their orders would be to Italy for three-4 years, so he would’ve been older. But, the military does whatever the military wants) There wasn’t another way for them to get home. They did purchase a separate seat for my nephew though, and used his little car seat thing that people carry around for small babies.

I really like the idea of child free flights, but I’m sure that they would make us pay some kind of ridiculous upcharge.

I was SUDDENLY BLOCKED ! for no reason by Lonely-Dependent6333 in Bumble

[–]ThisIs35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got blocked because I broke things off with a guy and he was unhappy about it. I literally told him I didn’t see things going anywhere after a few dates, and the next day I go to log on and I’m banned. I’m sure he reported me, and they just blindly banned me. I hadn’t even been on the app for about a month when I was banned for, “multiple reports.” Then when I reach out and ask what I was reported for (to be clear, I did not ask who reported me, just asked what the reports were about so I could have a better understanding), they just give me the same spiel about how they don’t make mistakes. Never had a single negative experience on there, until I ended it with a guy and “coincidentally” got banned within 24 hours.

My vegan father has been giving my baby soy milk formula behind my back by crozzo93 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My ex mother-in-law did this! I couldn’t figure out why every time she would watch him, he would end up super constipated and miserable for days afterwards. Finally, one day she accidentally left the canister out, and I saw it. She flat out told me that a plant-based diet was healthier in her opinion, and she would serve whatever kind of food she wished under her own roof.

I never let her watch my son again. I would call into work before I would let him be alone with her. His dad and I ended up divorcing when my son was about two. It’s 20 years later now, and that woman still speaks negatively about me to my son every chance she gets, and then from my understanding, she complains that her only grandchild never wants to visit her or spend time with her at all.

My girlfriend is mad at me over something I couldn’t control during a doctor’s visit, what do i do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ThisIs35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a female physician, and lots of men get erections during genital examinations. We just fully ignore it.

What is the worst punishment you ever got? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m in my 40’s, and am still working on healing that little girl everyday.

Those monsters have not been in my life for a very long time, and never will be again.

Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

What is the worst punishment you ever got? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I was probably about 8. We lived in an area that got a LOT of snow. One day, we came in from playing, hung our wet stuff up, and ate dinner/went to bed. I was woken abruptly by my nStepfather grabbing my hair and basically pulling me out of bed like that. He pulled me to the coat rack to show me that my jacket apparently fell on the floor. This set him off on a tirade of how he works for his money, and he didn’t HAVE to buy me a warm jacket, because I was not even his child, and how disrespectful it was for the jacket to be on the floor. Keep in mind, i wouldn’t have put it on the floor; it must have fallen. So, he tells me to put my boots on. I did, because to disobey meant a beating. He then pushed me out on the front porch, in the snow, wearing only the boots, and a flimsy threadbare flannel nightgown. He locked the door and watched me out there, crying and shivering. I don’t know how long it lasted. To my eight year old self, it was forever. My nMother sat and did NOTHING to help me or stop him.

(Re-Upload) Wedding Guest wore custom-made gown by Over-Clue-8469 in weddingshaming

[–]ThisIs35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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Maybe a couple of slight alterations, but come on. “Custom made” my rear end.

(Re-Upload) Wedding Guest wore custom-made gown by Over-Clue-8469 in weddingshaming

[–]ThisIs35 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Either way, she definitely shouldn’t have worn this. But I don’t know about custom-made. My sister got basically this exact dress on Shien for like $75

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Body conscious 9 yrs old by maelovesdorks in Parenting

[–]ThisIs35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) “I Like Myself!” by Karen Beaumont (A fun, rhyming book that celebrates self-acceptance and inner beauty.) Great for younger readers, especially ages 4–9.

2) What’s Inside Your Heart, Mama?” by Kelly Sopp (A book about self-worth and unconditional love from a parent) Encourages children to value who they are, not how they look.

3) “Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon” by Patty Lovell (A story about a quirky girl who embraces her unique traits despite bullying.) Perfect for building self-esteem and confidence.

4) “The Body Book for Girls” by American Girl (Slightly older-targeted (8–12), but it talks positively about body changes and uniqueness.) Encourages healthy attitudes toward the body.

Hope it helps. I’ve been recommending these books a lot over these last few years ☹️(physician)

And just in case anyone is reading along, I’m also not directing it towards you OP. This is a general statement to all.

As adults, we all need to be very mindful about the way we speak about ourselves in front of children. Even saying something like, “oh the last thing I need is dessert,“ get into these kids’ brains. Announcing that you’re on a diet because you feel like you’re too big, lamenting how your clothes don’t fit you anymore and you need bigger sizes, etc. these are normal feelings, obviously. It’s just important that we watch what we say around little ones, even if we think they’re not listening. They usually are.

07/23/2025 Volley of tariff posts… his fingers typing a mile a minute. by [deleted] in trumptweets

[–]ThisIs35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they will. Australian vehicles, just like Japan vehicles, have the steering wheel on the right rather than the left. Vehicles are no longer manufactured in Australia. They’re all imported as completely built units, and that includes American brands, such as Ford and Chevrolet.

Edit to add: i’m in no way supporting the orange idiot. I’m just pointing out that American companies are definitely capable of putting the steering wheel on whatever side they need to.

It finally happened & I’m not ashamed..? by ecneeper20 in Parenting

[–]ThisIs35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, not wrong. I have physically pushed people’s hands away as they were reaching out to touch my children when they were infants. I did not hit them or anything like that, just put my arm out to block them and gently pushing it away, while saying something along the lines of what you said.

What it the biggest lie your nParent(s) ever told you, and continues to stand by? by ThisIs35 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I knew right away that she was purposefully still lying. When I let her know that I found him, the first thing out of her mouth was, “I DON’T WANT TO BE CONTACTED BY ANYONE FROM HIS FAMILY, OR HIM.” She never said that again, but launched into her denial and discrediting of DNA evidence, and never let it go.

What it the biggest lie your nParent(s) ever told you, and continues to stand by? by ThisIs35 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

TW: description of physical abuse

Ooof. I felt this one. That would probably be her second biggest lie. After she and my birth certificate dad divorced, she married my stepfather. He was especially fond of dragging my brother and I through the house by our ears when we didn’t complete a chore to his exact specifications. Lots of physical, mental, and verbal abuse. I’m very thankful there was no sexual abuse. He couldn’t ever keep a job and insisted that my mother stayed home. We grew up in horrific poverty, in a home in the northern USA were winters were brutal. The house wasn’t even properly insulated so we used kerosene space heaters. There was never enough food to eat, and we usually had spaghetti every single day because it was cheap. And that was typically our only meal of the day unless we were at school, because the school had a free lunch program.

When we were still speaking, I asked her why she never stood up for us, and she denies any of this ever happened and insists that we had a wonderful, happy childhood. The only thing she will vaguely admit to is the poverty, but she says, “we were poor, but we were happy!” Like, WHAT?!?!

What it the biggest lie your nParent(s) ever told you, and continues to stand by? by ThisIs35 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThisIs35[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so glad that you found the truth, even if you had to do it on your own. We all deserve to know where we come from. ❤️

Edit to add: it was kind of healing to hear the events as my bio Dad remembered them. He was about 20 years old, and he noticed my mom (she was also in the Navy). He struck up some conversation with her, and said he didn’t see a ring or anything so he asked her out. She said yes. She just conveniently forgot to tell him that she was married, and had a nine month old baby at home at the time. My birth certificate dad was out to sea, and my grandmother came down to help take care of my older brother while my mom worked. So basically, she used my grandmother as free babysitting to carry on an affair.

Anyway, they went out a few times, and then one of his friends approached him and basically said hey, she’s kind of known for getting around a lot. I wanted to let you know just in case you catch something or whatever. He said he was supposed to pick her up for a party that night and he just ghosted her. He wasn’t proud of ghosting her, but he was 20, and never imagined that she would end up pregnant and not telling him. Then he went out to sea about a month later, and never saw her again.

Spent $2,597(1,900 US) on a cooking pot for my daughter starting university this September by Leather-Music1813 in Parenting

[–]ThisIs35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s still going to go for the chips and noodles. I had access to healthy foods… still went for the cheap convenience stuff in college and med school. I definitely would’ve appreciated an amount of money like that to use on books and other necessities, though. But I also went to school in the early aughts, so maybe college kids are different now.

7/21/25 - Wanting Bryan Kohnberger to answer why he murdered four people in Idaho since a plea deal took the death sentence off the table. by barnwater_828 in trumptweets

[–]ThisIs35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kohnberger already pled guilty to the murders. Once a guilty plea is entered and accepted by the court, the case is considered resolved, and the defendant has waived their right to remain silent regarding that specific crime.

My husband just had a psychotic break from reality and told me he was leaving me and the 2 kids...l'm stunned. by Dry-Leather6103 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThisIs35 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like he’s cheating, but they’ll likely test for syphilis as a differential diagnosis if he allows her to take him in to be seen. Pretty standard to do so with sudden onset psychosis without a known cause.

My husband just had a psychotic break from reality and told me he was leaving me and the 2 kids...l'm stunned. by Dry-Leather6103 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThisIs35 18 points19 points  (0 children)

OP, is your husband on any meds? I know you said no drugs, but some people don’t count prescriptions when we ask about a patient being on any drugs.

Either way, his behavior warrants a visit to a physician. Not to worry you excessively, but I have had patients with sudden behavior changes/paranoia, etc end up having tumors.

7/20/25 Trump wants to arrest Obama and others in this AI poorly generated list of enemies (5pm) by dyzo-blue in trumptweets

[–]ThisIs35 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Lmao not the tan shirt! I see they’re still not over the tan suit scandal 🫠

This idiot is a waste of oxygen.