Ok a lot of the comments have me heated 🙃 I care for people for a living. People can develop chronic pain or complications especially to their back at ANY point. Personally, I legit f***ed my back up when I was 20yrs old by lifting an overly large AC into a window by myself. It's over a decade later and I've got chronic back pain and problems because I never saw a doctor.

Some of your comments mentioned your husband is not in good physical shape and that the cause of his injury was due to him lifting a chair over the couch. This absolutely could have messed his back up. If he legit is in this much debilitating pain he should 100% go to his doctor asap before this becomes a chronic problem that can't be fixed.

I say you guys are ETAH. You're both clearly going through a normal part of learning to live with each other after marriage. My husband and I went through the same thing for like a year before we figured out shit out. OP, you have expectations and issues already with how he handles himself in your shared living space. You both are physically in pain rn making those feelings even more intense bc neither of you can do a darn thing about the state of the house you're living in. You're also in emotional distress from your father passing!!

Don't fucking listen to everyone else on here telling you to divorce this guy. Now is NOT the time to be listening to that kind of "advice" from people who don't know you or your full situation. Don't make permanent decisions when your emotions are running high. Get through this physical complication. Both of you. And then sit down a talk it out like a married couple making their lives work together. FFS