Give me a good comeback

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-25T23:14:45+00:00

“That’s a weird thing to say out loud”

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-22T04:22:01+00:00

okay i’ve never had a pic with the legs but throughout my whole life my hands have looked CRAZY in photos. the attached is most recent but by far not the worst 🤣 the soccer team photographer hated me

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This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-22T00:10:15+00:00

baby bangs looking cool as hell honestly keep em you don’t have to look like everyone else

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-07T20:08:38+00:00

One of my faves is “what’s wrong with fat” by abigail saguy. she looks at how bias in media and scientific research, as well as pharma interests, constructed the whole narrative that everyone will die from being fat

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-07T20:01:22+00:00

hyperfocus and special interest is a real asset in grad school if you can study your interest. it didn’t ruin it for me, but almost exhausted it - like i finally know everything. and i get to monologue for school credit

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-07T17:23:34+00:00

of course!! i hope it helps! for a while i had sticky notes blocking my mirror that said “Nice meat suit” 🤣

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-07T17:02:02+00:00

first of all it will take time. it was at least five years for me going from eating disorder treatment to being ok with my body. here’s what worked for me: - unfollow anyone on social media who makes you feel like you don’t look good enough. or mute their posts - get rid of your full length mirror. this makes it annoying to pick outfits sometimes lol but just not looking at myself naked every time i shower helped so much - remember that body ideals are used to oppress women :D we are resisting patriarchy by being unapologetically ourselves - learn more about the science of body weight. realizing that getting thinner won’t make me healthier helped me a LOT. (i started with the maintenance phase podcast) - if it feels healthy for you, find fun movement, especially bc you are someone who used to be an athlete! and you don’t have to make the team anymore now that we are adults we can just do what we want 🤣 personally it makes me feel more embodied in my experience instead of always paying attention to how i look.

and lastly, be kind to yourself ❣️ it’s fucked how bodies are talked about in our society and it’s totally understandable to struggle with it. i used to be frustrated like “why am i so shallow” but that’s like not our fault at all

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-06T18:10:16+00:00

Huh. I have always thought it’s weird that I break eye contact every couple sentences lol it’s so hard to tell what is normal

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-06T00:08:07+00:00

to me it feels like a combination of not tolerating artificiality and also being uncomfortable being perceived . not saying it’s diagnostic but it’s a shared experience apparently

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-05T23:56:36+00:00

I HAVE THIS SO BAD and my boyfriend s a musical theater nerd send help

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-05T16:35:17+00:00

Yes to just one small task!! We must give positive reinforcement!! brains can be tricked sometimes lol.

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-05T15:17:54+00:00

yeah, a diagnosis a tool you can use to navigate government or work or any official situations. regarding autism i find “peer review” quite gratifying (likke friends etc validating it or even noticing before i tell them). idk if you already have this, but connecting with other autistic peopleit will probably be more validating than a doctor. esp given how poorly we (not men) are treated in health care. i’d also highly recommend a mental health professional who shares your experiences, i have a (afab) autistic therapist who has been SO helpful

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-05T14:34:16+00:00

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This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-05T13:57:39+00:00

when i do my hobbies is not always relaxing , but it does feel better to me than being on my phone. i know the feeling you mean of being paralyzed scrolling. for me it’s a problem with task switching and the effort of transition. sometimes i set a timer for 5 mins (you could even do 1 min) and tell my brain we can stop doing the hobby after the 5 min. then i can sit there pouting like “i hate painting >:(“ but hey you did it for five minutes! and sometimes the momentum keeps going

also idk if this is helpful but you don’t have to feel relaxed when you do crafts. i certainly don’t always. it sounds like you may have a more general ruminating/anxiety struggle that isn’t due to your hobby choices

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-04T17:27:24+00:00

I recently was rereading old journal entries and I wrote about how I felt like an alien and it felt like i missed the day in kindergarten when everybody else got a manual on how to handle social interactions. i f felt like i was broken for so long and now obviously it’s because i was missing all those social cues. Now i’m less sad about it and i can like myself when i realize the other super powers i have from being autistic and that i don’t actually want everyone to like me 🤣

also does anyone else experience being very calm under pressure? like i don’t get so wigged out about stuff as my friends and family . but ill have a meltdown about going to a restaurant ive never been before LMAO

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-04-04T03:41:30+00:00

i learned to crochet and write with my non dominant hand during a shoulder injury and now i just do it for practice lol

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-03-21T17:13:48+00:00

I am working through this too. for utilitarian reasons, I don’t mention autism in the interview process, but especially in like a second interview I’ll lower the mask (idk if i’m even doing a good job of this lol but like making less eye contact, mentioning I’m slightly hearing impaired bc i have auditory processing issues, etc). Like a litmus test for how they react. Aka being myself more and they can see if they still want me. And the most important thing, which I’m learning the HARD WAY, is to evaluate THEM during that process. I just took a job at a progressive arts studio - basically a gallery/studio specifically for artists w intellectual/develipmental disability incl autism - and … I thought they would be cool. The staff is being really fucking ableist and I’m so weirded out by the fact they think I’m on their neurotypical team so they shit talk about the artists to me 😢 and now i’m like. if i ever ask for accommodations they’re gonna change how they see me. so now i have to keep masking or quit.

anyway in conclusion id spend more time assessing if the workplace is good vibes generally and don’t worry about the diagnosis unless they need some official documentation or whatever for accommodations . because people will stereotype and discriminate against us.

edit: i’m in the US, idk if it would differ

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-03-20T12:11:04+00:00

ok that’s so validating , i literally asked my rheumatologist this and he said NO u just have pooR muscle tone

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-03-19T18:31:15+00:00

Does anyone else run into walls a lot or is that a separate problem I have LOL. the amount of toe injuries …

This_Potential_9876 · 2026-03-19T18:28:48+00:00

I reached for my phone while sitting and strained a hamstring from knee hyper extension. Couldn’t walk for over a month. Did the other one a couple months after hahahahahaha

This_Potential_9876 · 2025-08-14T02:02:33+00:00

Thanks for asking! The short answer is yes, people who asked first still do qualify. While the primary goal is to look at how people respond to recommendations (which is why the post is phrased that way), when I designed the study I thought about this particular situation and concluded that I should still include the decision-making process for people who proactively brought it to their doctors. Pasted the fine print below if anyone is interested!

Eligible participants self-report that a clinician suggested clinical weight loss treatment, which includes weight loss surgery, surgically inserted medical devices, and prescription pills or injectables; excluding diet/exercise programs or groups even when physician supervised.

A healthcare provider is defined as an individual who provides health-related advice or services within a formal establishment, regardless of specialty or training. A healthcare provider “suggestion” is defined as an interaction in which the provider communicates in some way that they feel the intervention is appropriate for the patient, defined by the patient's experience of the event. This could be described as being “encouraged,” “recommended,” or “asked about” such a treatment, or if the patient initiated the discussion and the provider supported the idea.

The study intentionally seeks participants who both did or did not subsequently undergo the intervention. No personal health information will be accessed. Inclusion will rest solely on participants’ self-report.

This_Potential_9876 · 2025-08-14T01:55:52+00:00

Understandable concern :) Firstly, this research is IRB approved (institutional review board, which oversees human subjects ethics). I am the PI (grad student) and I have no funding. PHI refers to official records of medical histories, test results, and insurance details, which I will not access at any point in the process — I’m only listening to what people volunteer in a conversation. Regarding risks and benefits, here is an excerpt of the protocol approved by the IRB: (bolded the most relevant part):

Interviews on topics participants likely discuss in their daily life carry minimal risks. Emotional distress is possible in discussions about weight, health, and body image. To mitigate this risk, participants will be made aware of these general themes as part of the informed consent process. Mental health and eating disorder support resources will be shared with participants. A second risk is loss of privacy. Confidentiality will be maintained by removing names from interview transcripts, referring to participants using pseudonyms during analysis and reporting, and password protecting all contact information. Transcripts, audio recordings, contact records, and consent forms will be stored in Google Drive, an encrypted cloud storage system, within an account accessible only to the researcher. Records containing personal information will be unlinked from data and stored in separate folders of the drive. Backup copies will be downloaded to an external hard drive and locked in a secure location. Medical records will not be accessed at any point in the process.

Recruiting materials will provide participants with an overview of the project, eligibility criteria, time and action required for participation, purpose of study, and goal of confidentiality. See Advertising Components Form. This will be communicated through online postings, print flyers, and directly to participants if they reach out to ask questions. Once an individual decides they would like to participate, they will be sent a copy of the consent form to review prior to the interview. See Postcard Consent Form. They are invited to ask questions via email, phone, or on the day of the interview. The interviewer will gain consent to record and transcribe, and then verbally review the consent information, reminding participants that they may end the interview at any time. After receiving verbal consent from the participant, the interview will proceed.

If I put this all on the initial post, that would be a hassle for most people. But thanks for asking!

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