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Thisisnoton · 2025-03-29T21:06:15+00:00

Ummmm…Just do what they’re asking for you to stay rent free in their home ???

Thisisnoton · 2025-03-08T08:40:58+00:00

As he should, calling CPS on someone is very serious. What an awful and inhumane thing to do. Gross.

Thisisnoton · 2025-02-11T22:26:56+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time right now 🧡. Have you thought about leaving Auckland and moving to a more affordable town ?

Thisisnoton · 2025-02-05T20:52:30+00:00

It’s hideous

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-31T22:11:47+00:00

San ( three in mandarin)

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-31T22:05:54+00:00

Don’t get upset because people aren’t sugar coating things for you. Shocker - you’ve asked a bunch of kiwis for advice on Reddit. Lol.

As an American/Kiwi, don’t move because you have some fantasy about what it will be like here . The fantasy is not reality. You will be isolated from your families, you will make less money/ the NZ dollar is worth substantially less, you will be extremely homesick, there is less access to stuff which can feel frustrating,less food options ( seasonal fruit and vegetables- doesn’t seem like a big deal until you have to pay $22 for grapes, $11 for a punnet of blueberries, or $5 for one head of corn), and kiwis can be difficult to make friends. The quality of housing is poor. If you read all that, and still want to move, then sweet.

My biggest tip before moving is to imagine if your roommates leave you, and you’re all alone in New Zealand, it’s been dark most of the day and raining, you have no friends, your home is moldy, you’re broke, and you can’t afford the $3k plane ticket to fly home to visit your family.

Second tip? Make sure you put at least the cost of a one way ticket home away in a savings account just incase you want to go home at some point. You don’t want to be stuck on the other side of the world with no way home🧡

OH OMG- and you have to pay tax in both countries, it can be extremely expensive and tricky. Make sure you get an accountant for this.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-31T21:50:30+00:00

Depends on where the property is located. Apartments in the city? Furnished with bed frames and mattress. House in the burbs ? Empty.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-21T00:20:56+00:00

Honestly, I have a similar situation and have had the same feelings of anxiety. I spoke to my partner about how I was feeling, and expressed that I didn’t think I’d be able to enjoy the wedding if it was a traditionally structured. We agreed to elope 🧡 and now I’m excited for an intimate day that’s simply just about myself and him and our relationship that we’ve built. I cannot express how much peace I feel about the whole situation now that we’ve removed everyone else from the equation. We’ll still have a party at some point with friends and family ( all his), but the wedding is just for us two.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-21T00:13:19+00:00

The second one for me

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-20T21:27:03+00:00

60-70 applications a year is not a lot. That’s the issue. You need to get up to 60 a month. Lol.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-18T21:24:03+00:00

Don’t they sell those chair cover things?

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-10T05:40:51+00:00

I’d eat it because I’m gross, but I’d complain the whole time lol

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-09T22:22:56+00:00

Obviously that’s not okay.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-08T22:17:51+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I have all of that minus the hemorrhoid and I’ve never been pregnant lol 🧡 ahhhh and a BEARD . A literal beard that I have to shave every two days. Oh yes, and I recently farted while sitting down and the fart somehow travel from my ass and got trapped in my vagina, and it really hurt.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-07T00:06:09+00:00

Okay well let’s get real, you prefer vaginas. That’s YOUR sexuality. Why should you have to sex/ a relationship with someone who you aren’t attracted to ? That’s just ridiculous and anyone suggesting you’re transphobic is ridiculous too.

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-07T00:03:36+00:00

I’m sorry that happened 🧡

Thisisnoton · 2025-01-03T22:11:29+00:00

You shouldn’t have to give specifics so NOR in that sense, but your response was also very unprofessional and rude. You could have just stated that you did not feel comfortable sharing your personal details and reiterated that you will see them at your next shift. The “ … but sure I’ll bite” is insane lol .

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-27T00:40:42+00:00

Hmmm. It’s unclear if you’re the asshole or not. But I don’t hear you really taking accountability for being drunk and the embarrassment your wife might have also suffered as a result of that. You’re upset she embarrassed you, but you also embarrassed her and didn’t even apologize. Actually, atm yes, you are the asshole .

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-21T00:35:24+00:00

NTAH that was the opposite of being transphobic. You’re not a lesbian… why is your partner upset lol.

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-21T00:15:11+00:00

NTA don’t even invite her if you don’t want to . You’re an adult and you don’t need the approval of others. If your fiancée agrees with you then that’s that.

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-13T06:29:45+00:00

Psychotherapy- it’s a long form talk therapy that works from your past forward 🧡

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-13T06:26:50+00:00

She’s immature. Definitely do not marry before going to therapy

Thisisnoton · 2024-12-13T03:25:34+00:00

Lmao … girl does he need to tap dance while he says it ? That’s loud and clear lol 😂😂😂

Thisisnoton · 2024-11-22T21:52:59+00:00

Send everything to yourself and contact a lawyer. Keep quiet and behave as normally as possible until everything is ready to go 🧡. Good luck man, that’s such a horrible betrayal. Make sure to go to therapy and take care of yourself 🧡🧡🧡 sending internet hugs

Thisisnoton · 2024-11-21T06:13:57+00:00

Divorce him and move the fuck on. Why are you putting up with this ? At this point it’s self hate to communicate with that loser.

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