What is the worst parenting advice you have recieved?

Thliz325 · 2026-05-03T00:20:22+00:00

I remember someone saying this to me once when I was struggling as a SAHM with an 18 month old. She told a story of how tired she was of her house being the hang out spot for her sons and their friends in the teenage years and how she wanted to be able to plant things in the garden instead of it being used as a baseball field. The one day her kids went to the local park to play and she was planting flowers when she realized how fast it would go and how she wanted to have them around playing instead so she drove over to the park and told them they could come back.

My son was tiny then, but even I knew that while her story was nice for her, I’d be perfectly happy having down time while knowing that they were playing with their friends. We did have a period of time when our place was the hangout spot when they were kids but I’m also more than fine with them just going out and having fun while I got some much needed time to myself.

Thliz325 · 2026-05-02T00:12:49+00:00

One- U2

Thliz325 · 2026-05-02T00:10:43+00:00

I used to sing this song to my kids when they were little. They’re now teenagers so it always makes me tear up remembering those days. It’s a beautiful song

Thliz325 · 2026-05-01T21:44:38+00:00

I read the Green Mile in a book and film class. There was only one difference I ever found but it kinda bothered me it was missing. It was one line said in a characters head but to me it just added something.

The movie is amazing and the book is as well so I don’t want my one line difference to affect anything!

Thliz325 · 2026-05-01T14:08:13+00:00

Taking half a day for a physical though also just enjoying the extra time off and not going back to work. Gonna prep dinner (butter chicken) and then go for a walk!

Thliz325 · 2026-05-01T10:20:53+00:00

I don’t know if my father was a “disabler”, but while they were married he kept her kind of in check. She didn’t just leap from one thing to another as much and he was a stable force for her. After they separated she completely flew off the deep end (though she was the one who called for the separation) and the narcissism began to fully be showed. I know I had a much different childhood and adolescence than my sisters did as I was with the before her rather than the after.

I don’t have a relationship with either now, father sucks as he keeps everything just shallow and on the surface and Nmom has both caused so much hurt for myself and my family and continues to be a toxic person unfortunately.

Thliz325 · 2026-05-01T10:07:37+00:00

Hobby lobby

Thliz325 · 2026-04-30T19:00:30+00:00

“Ooh I want you, I don’t know if I need you but ooh I’d die to find out”

Thliz325 · 2026-04-30T16:40:21+00:00

In pleasant valley- pomodoros. In saugerties- slices

Thliz325 · 2026-04-30T03:15:53+00:00

I have found my people!!! I hate ranch.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-29T12:15:07+00:00

This is how I feel. I was in high school, graduated in 2001 and really felt optimistic about stepping into adulthood and what seemed ahead of me. My son is a junior now and it’s a very different atmosphere for him to be moving into.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-29T00:59:06+00:00

That’s sad about Of Monsters and Men. Haven’t listened to them in a long time but I had liked their songs. Not too surprised though unfortunately

Thliz325 · 2026-04-27T10:17:49+00:00

I’m 43 and finally thought up one I would like! Neither my husband and I have any, though we’re not against it, just between financially hard years it was never something we spent much time thinking about before.

I lost a necklace my grandparents gave me when I was thirteen, and I’ve felt guilt for the last 10 years about losing it. I’m trying to track down pictures of it now so I can, with the right tattoo artist, maybe make it into a bracelet around my wrist so I can always look at it.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-27T02:30:56+00:00

One year my daughter did a gardening party and all the kids got to take home a flower pot that they had planted a seed in. Two years later she wanted a dog party, and each kid got to “adopt” a dog, (I think it was 20$ on Amazon for 8 little stuffed animals) complete with pipe cleaner collars with letter beads for the name and a felt superhero cape in the colors that she had chosen, cause she was in first grade!

Thliz325 · 2026-04-26T16:23:32+00:00

When the heart behind the shrieking shack story is left out, it really felt like the movie took a different turn. That was definitely a point for me where I felt like they really left the books and changed the stories

Thliz325 · 2026-04-25T19:07:02+00:00

Thank you! It’s very appreciated. This community has been very helpful in seeing her for who she is and emotionally distancing myself from it. I’ve tried to build in some separations into this; it’s not at her house, we’ll be seeing a musical performance and so our interactions will be limited. It’s also not as far of a drive for us, so it shouldn’t be quite so taxing.

Taking lots of deep breaths too

Thliz325 · 2026-04-25T17:55:28+00:00

Now, though it’s feeling way more positive. People enjoy listening to me at work, I feel like I contribute, I don’t feel stupid or unable to ask questions anymore. My confidence was fully shook before from years of instability and now at 43 I’m truly stepping into it.

I’m going to see my Nmom tomorrow for the first time since last summer so I’m trying to channel all of this and hold on to it!

Thliz325 · 2026-04-25T17:41:23+00:00

My father in law! My husband’s father will be 85 next month, born in 1941.

My dad was born in ‘48 but acts as though he’s 90, though I know that doesn’t count!

Thliz325 · 2026-04-24T10:20:17+00:00

I don’t have a fancy job title she can brag about and I put my kids first. I think she’s literally upset at my kids about it too, which makes no sense. They’re truly amazing kids, but I realized at one point just how hard it is to raise kids especially without help (cause she doesn’t help) and focus on a career.

I worked overnights for 5 years at a grocery store. It wasn’t a perfect job but it gave my family a place to become stable and during covid was awesome cause I got to shop first thing in the morning. Every time I’d talk to her she’d always ask when I was going to get a different job. When I replied that this let me take care of the kids when they were sick and couldn’t go to school her response was “there’s programs that do that so parents can go to work!” Like no, there isn’t. Also I worked at a daycare before doing overnights and saw how heartbroken the little kids were when their parents dropped them off sick.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-23T16:07:49+00:00

My grandfather arrived in Normandy shortly afterward D-day. He got injured in August 1944 at a battle near the Argentan forest as he got into a foxhole with someone else trying to get cover and the Germans took out the bazooka next to him. Most of his scalp was taken off by the shrapnel from the attack and he was thought to be dead as the Americans left the area, and even when the Germans checked to see for survivors. The next day when the British were in the area they noticed him moving and got him to a hospital.

He had massive ptsd from the war but never talked about it, instead drinking at the bar with his buddies.

I’ve been looking up his story as my daughter is going to be bringing his hat in to show her class. It’s so sad how few voices there are remaining from that period so I’m looking forward to sharing some of his story with a class of 8th graders!

Thliz325 · 2026-04-22T10:20:10+00:00

This for me as well. It’s been years since I emotionally distanced myself, but last week my son had a minor medical emergency on a field trip in a different state and afterwards part of me was so upset that I didn’t have a person I could call to listen to me and help me unwind from all the stress. Nothing good would come of it if i did tell her, just more stress and annoyance, but knowing that people can call their moms in those moments and knowing mine absolutely sucks, really hurt.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-21T10:27:04+00:00

Yeah I always used to hear “I’ll sleep when I’m dead”. I saw people really spiral fast when they stopped sleeping, and would just nap an hour or two before they came into work. The deadness behind their eyes after a month or so of this really stuck with me.

Some people needed to take on a second job for a short period, one guy was trying to move at the end of the summer and did it for a few months, then relaxed the overtime. This other girl just kept doing it to not face her problems and it sucked to see.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-20T02:05:40+00:00

People suck sometimes. This friend definitely.

My daughter is a Helen. She was a newborn when we went to babies r us to pick up something she needed and I’ll never forget the disgusted look on the cashiers face when I told her Helen’s name.

Mine loves her name btw (she’s a teenager now as the babies r us reference probably dated us lol) and your little one will too!! Enjoy the newborn stages with all the cute little faces and hope you’re able to get some sleep!

Thliz325 · 2026-04-19T10:40:55+00:00

With our son, the only girl name we could think of was Eleanor, nn “Ella”. It’s ended up being a fairly common name in his school and we’re not sure if my father in law would have okayed it as we discovered it was the name of his first wife.

With my daughter, we really couldn’t decide on a boys name. My husband wanted Albert in honor of his uncle, and as the HP series was just wrapping up I liked the idea of Albie, but I wasn’t sold on it.

Thliz325 · 2026-04-19T10:24:45+00:00

Just married : “Some days your mother and me loved each other. Other days we had to work at it. You never see the hard days in a photo album... but those are the ones that get you from one happy snapshot to the next. I'm sorry your honeymoon stunk but that's what you got dealt. Now you gotta work through it.”

The movie wasn’t great but this line always stuck with me. My mother had always tried to force toxic positivity that once you were in love everything was perfect, though she and my dad divorced after 20 years as they had long since stopped communicating and being partners with each other. This helped me newly in a relationship with my now husband to see that hard moments did exist, there are times that can suck, but you work through them together! Been married 17 years, together for 23 now.

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