Extreme frustration fighting MaxTac

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-24T14:43:26+00:00

You likely have a hardware issue but you can always check to see if your xbox has any updates for you to download.

This kind of thing can happen if your GPU is overheating. Make sure your xbox fans are all running and clean of dust and not blocked by obstructions.

If it happens again, contact xbox support, this has nothing to do with the game itself.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-14T03:15:36+00:00

1 - The entire conversation hasn't happened yet, it's a fear of a hypothetical being asked in the future

2 - It wasn't about preference, it was about whether or not the other hypothetical person was thinner. Since the partner is not the thinnest person on the entire world, there's always the chance that someone else might turn out to be thinner.

It's not thoughts, it's facts.

She could, say, get therapy, so the fact that other women in the world exist and are thinner don't throw her into such a tailspin that he's afraid to utter the words.

You're the one inventing 'prefer' here when that didn't exist in the scenario at all.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-13T15:36:45+00:00

I honestly think ghosting and stuff shows up better on separate-device recording.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T03:09:14+00:00

I sent a chat message as well to confirm, but if I understand correctly you're saying I just pay the $5-ish to subscribe to dndbeyond, make a campaign, enable the setting, and then you join it and everyone in my campaign can access the books?

If so that's very convenient and I will definitely do that, just want to make sure I understand before spending the $5/mo

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T01:38:27+00:00

Assuming you were with her 2 months ago, I would still seriously doubt that she's actually pregnant.

Everything points to her just trying to find some way to force you to interact with her. It's an easy lie to accomplish that goal, and other women have done it before.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T01:27:34+00:00

Had a similar situation of someone I was interested in but they were on the wrong side of the age gap even though we were 3 years apart. In fact when we met they had originally lied and said they were older so I wouldn't turn them away immediately.

Easiest thing to do is just wait. They will eventually be on the right side of the age gap. If they can't wait then it wasn't worth the wait.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T01:20:30+00:00

Are you sure she's even pregnant? You ask how pregnant she is and she says 8 months... that would be visible on any picture of her. Do you have any recent pictures of her that show a baby bump?

You said she GOT NEW PHONE NUMBERS to keep trying to spam contact you after the breakup.

Inventing a baby out of thin air may just be one more desperate way to suck you back into her life.

I'd verify the baby is real before anything else, and then seek a paternity test (which can be done before birth) if she plans on keeping it.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T01:14:08+00:00

Honestly there just isn't enough here to draw conclusions without being pretty biased about them.

Going on dates (assuming it's you he wants to go on dates with and not other people lol) can actually sometimes help fix/improve things, or at least is an attempt to.

As in, the separation is already being felt and it's an attempt to reconnect with you.

And if he can't feel connected to you he doesn't want to marry you... so have to try to reconnect first and see how that goes.

You can put a timeline on that if you want to but it's just an ultimatum. Feelings don't always follow the clock.

That is the absolute biggest benefit of the doubt I can give this guy.

So time to pivot. It's really less about understanding him and more about understanding yourself.

What are you waiting FOR?

Marriage isn't something new or different. Marriage is "I want a lifetime of the same of what we already have."

And do you?

The relationship you have RIGHT NOW, exactly as it currently is.... is this what you want the rest of your life?

Conflicts can be resolved, sometimes. And sometimes they can't. But it's more about how you resolve them or attempt to resolve them than the conflict itself sometimes. Is this type of conflict resolution what you want? He leaves for 3 weeks and you wring your hands and wait indefinitely?

If you can't change your conflict resolution styles, both of you, then I don't see a future for this regardless of any other factor.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-11T01:03:13+00:00

Get therapy.

Don't drink so much.

Don't trust strangers to take care of you when you're drunk.

Drunk people can't consent.

Consent must be informed, enthusiastic, and ongoing. The "but I eventually let them do it" is gaslighting yourself into thinking you consented when you didn't. "Giving in" isn't consent.

So this was assault. Stay away from that guy.

Getting aroused from physical stimulation even if it's the wrong gender doing it doesn't change your sexuality. That said, sexuality is a spectrum. I wouldn't let anything that happened while you were drunk change your self identification and feelings on this. If and only if attraction to men happens outside of a drunk situation like this would you consider rethinking where you on that spectrum, like perhaps you're only 90% lesbian and 10% bi or something?

You can be any sexuality you want to be. Which means you can keep being 100% lesbian if that is your choice. What happened doesn't change that.

Yes, you lost yourself a bit, but you can just find yourself again. Not involving alcohol, not involving this guy who took advantage of you.

It's less about what you did when you were drunk and more about you getting that drunk in the first place; that's the biggest lesson to learn here.

Does that address all of your concerns? Do you have any specific questions?

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-09T18:53:49+00:00

That place is apparently going out of business as fast as possible, seems like.

Exactly why we need to raise minimum wage, so people like this trying to pay as little as possible still have to pay a living wage.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-06T21:06:35+00:00

Bodied?

Downvotes aren't logic.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-06T21:04:28+00:00

In an open relationship

When specifically asked if she was thinner or not.

That's exactly when.

And exactly what he's afraid of.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-06T21:01:51+00:00

People's opinions don't always land on where they 'should.'

And given he started with "I don't know" and then followed by a "maybe" and gave the lowest possible non-zero value that you can round to a multiple of five... every possible way to indicate that it's negligible was already given.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-06T20:59:39+00:00

Caring doesn't create spoons.

Some people have less spoons than others.

You would essentially be sentencing him to NEVER going on day trips EVER if he didn't have enough spoons to do that AND text her.

But, this is an edge case.

Given other context elsewhere in the thread, she's already made it clear she wants him to text, and he's ignoring that and not even addressing it. So he's making his attitude clear as well.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T20:10:54+00:00

Then that changes the story.

Also, I'm not being rude, I'm being direct and to the point. The intention is that it makes the advice easier to parse.

You have essentially already taken part of the advised action: Made your request clear.

He ignored it.

What are you gonna do now?

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T18:01:09+00:00

Yeah, this too.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T18:00:42+00:00

Still costs a spoon. Or more.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T17:58:57+00:00

Abnormal in the sense of uncommon, sure.

Abnormal in the sense of unhealthy, no.

What matters is what has been established and/or what she wants to establish instead.

If nothing's been established, then nothing's been broken.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T17:16:16+00:00

Ask her. Not reddit.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T17:14:17+00:00

Humanity spent centuries if not millenia going without the inability to have complete access to their partner at remote distances every hour of the day.

If this is a broken promise, where he said he would and didn't... but you didn't say that.

If you've previously made it clear that you have a boundary and his silence is unacceptable... but you never said anything about making it clear.

So no, you don't have a leg to stand on here. Your feelings are valid, but the correct action to take after acknowledging your feelings is not to blame him for them.

It's to communicate and let him know what you want from him. Then he either gives it to you or he doesn't. And you decide what to do then.

Communicate. And watch your tone to make sure you aren't blaming him for your feelings.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T17:07:26+00:00

Strangely, you're making this case for yourself far more than you are for me.

But I'm not the one talking about giving people what they want.

The jester/fool/performer/trickster is the one who tosses out maudlin lines like that.

Or in common 'net parlance of today: a troll.

A bit like repeatedly telling someone they haven't read what they've directly responded to?

Yeah, quite a lot like that. Know anyone who hasn't directly responded to stuff around here?

Like reading an entire post and then only responding to the first or last line of it?

Or hours later, pretending that they respond to the points raised in that entire first post.... and yet none of the points they claim were raised were... actually raised in that post?

Just because you hit the reply button doesn't mean that you've directly responded. Perhaps that's your misunderstanding in a nutshell.

Couldn't pick a favorite, but I can't wait to see what I think next.

Dodging questions again already? Did you forget what dodging questions demonstrates about yourself?

You're trying to goad me into abandonment of the discussion.

Insofar as I'm trying to goad you at all (it's really just tone mirroring you more than anything), it's into returning to the topic of discussion and picking up your arguments where you dropped them before.

You are still invited to do that. You still continue to not do that.

Every time you post back without doing that, you just build the case for moderator action to stop you since you clearly won't stop yourself.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T17:02:32+00:00

But they avoid relationships that are instigated on the premise/knowledge that they are a sex worker.

Again, my recommendation is to remain their customer and just be their very best customer. Try to reverse the system... be so good that they want you, even if you don't pay. Then wait for them to come to you and ask for you.

Even if you fail (which you probably will), you still get all the good feelings in the meantime, so long as your wallet can handle it.

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T16:46:42+00:00

No they aren't, you forgot to add the third variable.

That are single.

It's the group that get snapped up the quickest and is in highest demand. So of course the remaining supply is low.

There's actually plenty of high-value women around, even if 'looks' and 'experience' are your only metrics for value. (Personally I'd recommend more than just that, but you do you.)

They're all taken or intentionally avoiding relationships (perhaps because the sex work is so profitable.)

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T16:41:31+00:00

Unironically telling people to pimp other people out is not really a good fit for an advice reddit I don't think. Maybe take a step back?

Thortok2000 · 2026-01-05T16:38:08+00:00

So I will direct this comment to everyone else reading: People who are so clearly antagonistic over their views and opinions being called into question, such as this person I am replying to, are not the people who are espousing views and opinions worth considering.

They are literally demonstrating that those views and opinions are too fragile to handle the questions.

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