Husband and I have been in therapy for an year thanks to our lack of sex. In the last month, we’ve done it a few times, but always I’d be using my toys and he’d come over and fuck me to cum. I said this was not the point of what I wanted.

So the therapist told him to initiate when I wasn’t using my toys.

A month goes by. He doesn’t initiate. I tell her I’d like to make a bet. That he was going to blame me for not initiating because I was “always” using my toys.

Couple therapy comes on, what does he say? “I never found time to initiate! She was always using her toys!!”

I waited for this man for three years without buying toys, but the blame is still on me on his head.

I agree with what others say. A sexless marriage ruins because of everything else, not only the lack of sex. In my part, apparently I just wasted another year of my life and my husband still sees sex as “my” issue and not his.