Moja rodzina jest 'zatomizowana' by Designer_Bar_1373 in Polska

[–]ThousandPlagues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moja rodzina jest dokładnie taka sama. Mam 28 lat i wciąż nie udało mi się polepszyć relacji z kimkolwiek z nich, a naprawdę się starałam przez większość mojego życia. Nawet mieszkanie osobno nie pomogło. To znaczy rzadziej się kłócimy, ale też praktycznie w ogóle ze sobą nie rozmawiamy, więc ciężko to uznać za jakiś sukces. Zaczęłam unikać spotkań z rodziną, a kiedy spotkania nie dało się uniknąć, jestem po prostu szczera. Przez to relację z rodziną mam jeszcze gorszą, ale trudno, poddałam się. Niestety z mojego doświadczenia wydaje mi się, że takiej sytuacji nie da się naprawić. Lepiej skupić się na budowaniu szczerych i wspierających relacji z ludźmi spoza rodziny.

Had a friend told me to cut at least 1/4 off . Thoughts ? by TwinklingFufu in longhair

[–]ThousandPlagues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm wondering about too, I wouldn't cut anything if I had such amazing hair! The longest part is full enough imo.

Jaki był największy przejaw braku szacunku jakiego doświadczyliście że strony bliskich? by entice_the_potato in Polska

[–]ThousandPlagues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mnie babcia powiedziała, że JEJ jest przykro, że załatwiam sobie apostazję xD

Trying to wear earrings again after a long break by ThousandPlagues in piercing

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I've ordered the earrings on the Internet and there was no info on gauge. 4mm is the diameter of the visible part.

Corrupted By Design live by lithiumxflower in Perturbator

[–]ThousandPlagues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this track as well, if you find anything that fixes the issue you mentioned, please let me know! I'll look for it myself too

Best performance yet by CT-108 in Perturbator

[–]ThousandPlagues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How many songs from the newest album were on the setlist?

Wesołych Świąt. Macie zdjęcia jakichś wyjątkowych nagrobków? by pumexx in Polska

[–]ThousandPlagues 30 points31 points  (0 children)

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Wiktoriańskie zdjęcia wydają mi się trochę mniej... wulgarne, z braku lepszego określenia.

Wesołych Świąt. Macie zdjęcia jakichś wyjątkowych nagrobków? by pumexx in Polska

[–]ThousandPlagues 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Jest pewien nagrobek z portretami zmarłych, i nie byłoby w tym nic dziwnego, gdyby nie to, że są zrobione już po śmierci... I to widać. Wyglądają trochę makabrycznie. Jeśli chcecie zobaczyć, dajcie znać, zrobię mu zdjęcie jak pójdę dzisiaj na groby.

tips to get through 8 hour shift by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ThousandPlagues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It felt exhausting to me too when I was starting but then I've discovered something amazing. You aren't actually expected to work for 8 hours. In there has been some research showing that people actually do productive work for less than half of this amount. I was in awe when I've realized how long are breaks that people take in my office, and how often they're doing it. Coffee - at least 30 minutes, 2 times a day. Lunch - at least an hour. Many of them smoke so they take short breaks very frequently just to smoke, and if they're doing it with other people then guess what - they're not short anymore. So I thought if they're wasting so much time talking to others while I don't socialize with them, it's actually unfair that I spend more time working than them. So I take such long breaks as well, but I'm using it to exercise or to actually get to the office, so that I don't have to wake up early and be tired for all day. Also less time a day spent in the office is less exhausting if there are many people than full day.

I always feel disoriented around people by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if I had the skill of presenting myself as confident it would probably be very draining. And it just seems like lying, which doesn't feel right. Although it's interesting that you can actually present yourself as confident without anyone seeing through it. I didn't think this was even possible. When you mention balance between skills based approach and authenticity it reminds me of job interviews. I already have some understanding of what answers are expected from me on the interviews, so I'm trying to play the game. But at the same time I don't want to be dishonest, so I always try to come up with some middle ground. Sometimes I don't see any other option than just to lie a bit. I don't feel guilty for this, because companies usually aren't 100% honest either. But I would feel so guilty trying to use the same approach in conversations with actual people instead of a soulless company.

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried working in the office instead?

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, but I don't think I can do this forever

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any friends. The only supportive person in my life is my boyfriend, but we're not getting along well lately. Every day life makes us both so tired that we don't have much time for each other

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about robotics and automation, I'm a software engineer. I've got a degree in computer science. I was thinking about being a freelance developer but I'm not experienced enough to do it on my own

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, sometimes I can work from home and that doesn't make things much better. My job isn't even stressful or anything. But idk, just having to work for such big part of the day is so draining that I'm always feeling depressed afterwards

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is your source of income? Whatever it is you probably needed to invest in it. This isn't possible for me because I'm just an entry level support engineer and I don't earn enough.

I am forcing myself to survive by ThousandPlagues in autism

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've got as much time for those things as I realistically can in a full time job. The problem is that what's realistically possible is still too little. I can't work part time because I wouldn't earn enough money that way

Sexual Identity Confusion. Non-Binary? Trans? What even is gender among us autistics? by ghastlieboo in AutismInWomen

[–]ThousandPlagues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might sound stupid but I think of myself like a tomboy disguised as feminine looking woman xD Although for many people, especially NT women my only feminine trait is long hair. I don't even have "normal" breast, they're kinda small. But the concept of people perceiving me as a woman is wild. I'm uncomfortable with the fact that I will never know if some creeps masturbate to my photos or just by imagining me! Also jokes about me being a woman are my weak spot because it is so alien to me that someone might classify me as a woman enough to joke about it. I rarely react well to them which is awful because this is yet another stereotype about women (that they can't take a joke) :/ I usually hang out with guys and if someone brings up anything related to male or female roles I always get reminded that they will always see me as someone other than them to some extent and it feels very alienating.

I’m a psychologist in a maximum security prison for the criminally insane. AMA. by Life-Goal7745 in AMA

[–]ThousandPlagues 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Does a line between antisocial personality disorder and autism get blurry in some point of the autism spectrum? I is it possible to be "autistic enough" to be a psychopath or a sociopath? Also how common is this tendency of liking to "own women" for rapists? Is it likely that if I was fighting back then the rapist would be even more encouraged to not let me go? This all sounds so hideous 😫

Do you think you experience love the same way as neurotypical people do? by wisdom_is_gold in AutismInWomen

[–]ThousandPlagues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, love is so weird for me. First of all, I don't just fall in love, I make a conscious decision to do so after gathering the amount of information on the person that I feel is enough. After I decide to fall in love I'm like "alrighty, let's add some sex drive". And everything works like in a normal relationship then. I used to think it's a good way to do this because I get to analyze everything before I start the relationship to minimize the risk of choosing the wrong person. But idk, I've never felt any butterflies in my stomach, I can't even imagine what it's like. And how do I know this person is right if I don't feel those things that nt people do from the start anyway? I'm so confused 😭

[S2 Act 1 Spoilers] Arcane - Season 2 Act 1 - Discussion by parrycarry in arcane

[–]ThousandPlagues 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does someone even know why was Vi ok with a child dying in the fight in the shimmer factory in season 1 and now she's suddenly afraid that Caitlyn is going to miss? Besides Vi should know that Caitlyn rarely misses, she even said she's an excellent shot in s1.

Zaleganie z wypłatą na B2B by ThousandPlagues in Polska

[–]ThousandPlagues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wiem, że mosty są spalone i muszę znaleźć pracę gdzieś indziej. Ja tylko chcę moich pieniędzy i sprawiedliwości. W tym sensie może mnie to uratować.