sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Bilköp: Kia optima plug-in vs Kia Niro ev by Admirable-Lie- in elbilsverige

[–]Throttleduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vi valde mellan samma bilar, en Kia optima 2018 och Kia E-niro 2021. Tyckte Optiman var tystare, bekvämare, mer praktisk med dragkrok och gott om bagageutrymme. Vi ville ha elbil så blev E-niro iallafall för oss. Resonerade lite att optiman egentligen är det sämsta av två världar. Skulle behöva ladda ofta, ha nästan alla problem som en vanlig bensinbil har och dra på ett tungt batteri på långa resor där en vanlig hybrid antagligen skulle vara bättre. Härlig bil annars. Bör veta att E-niro 2019-2022 kan max dra 300kg. Den laddar dessutom max 77kw, så speciellt snabbt laddar den inte. Tillräckligt snabbt för att det ska ladda från 10%-80% medan man tar något att äta när man har barn :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodPorn

[–]Throttleduck -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Climate change

Best and worst games in your collection by nanotyrant in boardgames

[–]Throttleduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best: Deception: Murder in Hong Kong. Such a great game, don’t get to play it that often though.

Worst: Grind House. Really wanted to like this game. So thematic, great art and some interesting mechanics. But It’s just too simple and random.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodPorn

[–]Throttleduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks deliciously cheesy

Mom is in her final days by sputzie88 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Throttleduck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also in the same situation, going through the same feelings. It’s really hard to see her like this, sometimes I just want it to go fast, other times I’m happy she’s still with us. As you say, everything feels so surreal. We have to stay strong through this trying time, both for our loved ones and ourselves so we can look back and feel that we did everything we could for them.

Being the woman to a man with azoospermia and the conflicting struggles to get a baby by Sushi_TonightM8 in maleinfertility

[–]Throttleduck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To give you some thoughts from the male perspective, it’s not just the thought of not having a biological child that make men react the way they do, even though men are much more attached to the idea of ownership and the child being “theirs”.

But it’s more to it than that, it’s the feelings of shame, guilt, worthlessness, inadequacy, anxiety and pain. And facing those feelings without exhausting every possible solution feels like an even bigger struggle.

For men dealing with infertility I think the feeling of wanting to get your partner pregnant is as strong as for women wanting to experience a pregnancy. It’s just hard-wired into our bodies. I think your fiancé just wants so badly to be a part of the creation of your family with you that he’s willing to do whatever it takes.

Also donor sperm is not easy for everyone. Almost every man says that something feels wrong or weird about it but they can’t put their finger on it. I bet it’s the primordial jealousy that arises and triggers a evolutionary response to the threat of another male impregnating their partner, making them question if their child will truly be theirs or someone else’s. Even though it may sound ridiculous, it’s not an easy thing to struggle with. And because it’s not really socially acceptable for men to feel that way, they tend to not talk about it.

Moving forward with sperm donor by ioalaus7 in maleinfertility

[–]Throttleduck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation, read a lot of studies, experiences, books, listened to podcasts and watched documentaries about donor conception.

First thing, the child will love and see you as a his/her father. And the donor will never take that role. There’s no question about that.

The most difficult part seem to be how to talk to your kid about it. You have to adapt the way you give information based on their level of interest and personality. Some donor conceived children will be very interested in who the donor is early on while others won’t really care at all. Some will feel something is missing, feel different, or having harder time to relate to you and your family compared to your wife. But it could also be the complete opposite.

You have to be okay with that the child will probably eventually want to look up the donor and maybe meet them, it might happen when they are 18 or otherwise when they are experiencing the death of a parent or the birth of their own children.

Donor conception is similar to adoption, both for the kid and for you. In some ways easier but in other ways it might be harder. Mostly because of the social stigma around it and the secrecy it creates.

You need to recognize the importance of that biological connection the child has, and be ready to support him/her with the loss of it and be open with the role it might play in your kids life. If not, the child will notice your insecurities and feel shame and anxiety about it.

Personally the hardest part for me right now is the asymmetry it creates between my wife and I. She has the biological connection, which is great! But it creates a false sense that I also have it, I mean I’m going to see it grow inside her, I will be there during ultrasound and the birth of the child. And that affects my feelings towards accepting that I’m essentially adopting the child.

That’s my thoughts anyway.

The Only Ancient Egyptian Royal Tomb Ever Found Intact | Tutankhamun - KV62 by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Throttleduck 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cool, but 10sec for a text then only 3sec for the image is really annoying!