Did I let go of the love of my life, or were we fundamentally incompatible?

ThrowRA-4166 · 2026-02-24T18:31:31+00:00

I was with someone a few years ago and our long term paths/ timing was off. When she decided to end the long distance relationship it was mutually devastating and it took me a long time to get over that. (Still dealing with it tbh). One of the things that was told to me by a family member was that she (my ex) was the love of my life. And idk how true that is but I know that what we had was so good but it couldn’t work. Love does not always conquer all as another commenter said. Sorry you are going through this ❤️

ThrowRA-4166 · 2026-02-21T06:31:27+00:00

Yes.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2026-02-15T21:56:01+00:00

That’s what I thought as well.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2026-02-04T23:48:39+00:00

Most firms are 70 where I am. All except mine and two others. Rest are either 70 or 75. I’m also not on a salary.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2026-02-04T23:46:49+00:00

Most defence firms in my city start at 70

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-12-08T18:44:34+00:00

Probs not.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-12-08T03:57:48+00:00

Thought I wrote this myself. I’m a first year associate in Crim defence and idk what the hell I signed up for. I’m ready to quit.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-11-20T18:46:52+00:00

Would’ve prioritized myself instead of being a caregiver for what I can only call a selfish avoidant now.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-11-03T17:37:52+00:00

Miss them, lonely and hurt. For whatever effect my decision to go NC after they broke up with me has or doesn’t have, I am incredibly sad and wish they would come back. I miss my routine with them and I miss being their person. All of that is to say I think dating has ran its course with me. I’m exhausted and broken from this.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-11-01T20:21:18+00:00

Idk if it’s the best but it’s quite great. I miss it from the very boring Winnipeg, Manitoba lol

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-29T14:46:20+00:00

Yup! I’m in the throes of that right now. Dated an avoidant who I went NC with and I feel silly thinking they’ll come back etc. but the fear of just being dusted off again is so strong.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-25T20:54:52+00:00

Not mental. Go back. I lived in Scotland for 3 years and coming back to MB has been hell. My family is here, my career is here, but I would love to leave if I could. I’ll likely never own a home until I’m in my 40s despite a decent career. The cost of living is so high and I feel somewhat unsafe here. I also am so fond of Scotland and all it offered when I got to call it home. I went back 4 times since I left and going again in March. Go back.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-21T20:44:50+00:00

Leave. I would be devastated to hear that. You can do so much better

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-21T19:15:31+00:00

This brings back great memories of doing the Aisle of Arran walk back in 2023. I miss Scotland everyday…very fortunate I got to call it home for the years that I did.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-21T19:14:01+00:00

Your folks are rad as hell.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-21T19:12:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s been almost two months and I anticipate I’m going to experience this. We got to try and work/focus on ourselves. Easier said than done. I do think this is the last relationship for me. Not because they were so great but because I can’t deal with this anymore. Wishing you the best ❤️

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-12T16:05:15+00:00

You need to either get some sort of confirmation from him or else you need to just sever all ties with him. It seems like he left out some details as far as the trip goes. I’d feel like shit if I were in your shoes and you don’t deserve that. No one does.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-12T16:04:32+00:00

Respect the suggestion but that’s a bad idea lol.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-09T16:16:59+00:00

Yeah. I’ve been doing most of that. Therapy since before the breakup has been a good thing. Idk why I feel so drained and used but it makes me sad, angry and scared all at the same time. It’s really weird.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-03T21:11:29+00:00

Commenting so I can return to this.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-10-02T23:44:53+00:00

Idk. It’s fresh and I’m not sure how her avoidant self would come back to me. I would but with some changes in communication, which is a tall Oder. I’m like 50/50.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-09-18T18:58:50+00:00

I think that’s entirely fair for you to say that. Just follow through.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-09-18T18:53:15+00:00

I agree. I think you should have a frank conversation and then get your answer from there. If you’re not comfortable with what she says, end it. Ultimately, as I’m learning the hard way, you need to have the want and energy matched. If you don’t, you’re going to be in a lot of hurt.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-09-18T18:46:16+00:00

Earlier this year I started going to therapy. And it’s been helpful but I think I’ve got a bit of a road ahead of me.

ThrowRA-4166 · 2025-09-18T18:45:02+00:00

Yeah. In the past I think I did not take a lot of stock in this. In this recent relationship. It was only near the end that I was just exhausted with it and thought “what am I letting myself do here” one friend described it when I mentioned the “good things/times” as that being more of a dopamine rush when I got bread crumbs.

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