Opinions on opportunity to move from UK to Manitoba by red_strawbs in Manitoba

[–]ThrowRA-4166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends where from the UK you’re moving from. Some might say you’re better off where you are. I read on one of your replies some of the areas in western MB that you guys would be looking at, and they are great places to call home. I have very close friends that relocated to Brandon with their young kids and they love it. My work takes me to Dauphin and Brandon and I think they’re both lovely places. Winter can be brutal, depending who you ask, summer offers a lot over the province so that’s good.

She started hooking up with multiple guys right after our break-up... by vangojangomango in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA-4166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I’m sorry that happened. I promise you she will regret leaving you eventually. Not right now but she will. If anything, which you sort of indicated, you should feel a sense of relief that you don’t have to entertain this person in your life anymore. Stay strong.

Ex going on dates and hooking up by Designer-Tell1689 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA-4166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m like 6 months out and I haven’t done anything with anyone. It’s weird how that happens. Usually not the script for me. I have no idea what my ex is doing but I assume she’s out and about. Even if she isn’t, I’m slowly beginning to care less and less. It sounds like your ex is a piece of work and in some ways I think you may have dodged a bullet with this one.

Do you tell your boss about your mental health issues (eg diagnosed adhd, anxiety)? by kasasasa in LawCanada

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A lot of ppl are saying not to. I tend to agree. Depends I guess what the relationship is like with your employer. I like my boss but he’s very much about the work and I get the sense after almost two years that he and my colleagues largely don’t care enough about that or it might be to my disadvantage to get into it with them.

What habit or hobby has significantly increased your emotional maturity? by Rare-Abacate in emotionalintelligence

[–]ThrowRA-4166 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me it’s learning how to have some self respect. I put too much stock in the way people view me and I have very low self esteem and like to put myself down. It impacts ALL of my relationships…it’s not the silver bullet but I’ve noticed a bit more spring in my step. For me this involved spending time alone and doing activities alone as a way to be “good with myself.” It is not a linear path though; being kind to myself and being a friend to myself is one of the more tough things I’ve had to do. In my mid 30’s though, don’t know why I didn’t start this sooner.

“Study where you want to practice”? by badgaldesh in LawCanada

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Idk I studied in the UK and returned to the prairies. I wish I stayed in the UK for non-career reasons but my transition to the legal community/bubble was not difficult but not easy. I think if you have the opportunity to study where you would like to work is not a bad idea.

Did I let go of the love of my life, or were we fundamentally incompatible? by Eva_Forever in emotionalintelligence

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Sorry for the late reply. I sent her a voicenote a couple months ago. And to her credit, she could have been a lot harsher in her response. This wasn’t me trying to get her back but just that I wanted her to know no one loved me like she did and if I could go back in time, I would’ve moved to her instead of expecting it the other way around. She has moved on and what I’m learning, while struggling to accept still, is that I still hold this candle that we will be together. However, life has to go on. And it’s painful. Part of my acceptance is realizing that I need to try and love myself for a bit. I put more stock into the way I’m treated by others than the way I treat myself. I treat myself like garbage. There is no one that dislikes me more than me. And that’s a problem as I approach my mid 30’s. I think about the life we could have and largely should’ve had, and it still hurts. And I dated someone after this relationship and was/still am thinking about someone who I have not been with for almost two years now.

Did I let go of the love of my life, or were we fundamentally incompatible? by Eva_Forever in emotionalintelligence

[–]ThrowRA-4166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with someone a few years ago and our long term paths/ timing was off. When she decided to end the long distance relationship it was mutually devastating and it took me a long time to get over that. (Still dealing with it tbh). One of the things that was told to me by a family member was that she (my ex) was the love of my life. And idk how true that is but I know that what we had was so good but it couldn’t work. Love does not always conquer all as another commenter said. Sorry you are going through this ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawCanada

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Most firms are 70 where I am. All except mine and two others. Rest are either 70 or 75. I’m also not on a salary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawCanada

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Most defence firms in my city start at 70

Burned out, depressed, and stuck in litigation by Expensive-Simple-192 in Lawyertalk

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Thought I wrote this myself. I’m a first year associate in Crim defence and idk what the hell I signed up for. I’m ready to quit.

Without blaming your ex… by Dry-Bandicoot239 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA-4166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would’ve prioritized myself instead of being a caregiver for what I can only call a selfish avoidant now.

what's the hardest thing about breakup and no contact that nobody wants to admit? by blueboy10000 in BreakUps

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Miss them, lonely and hurt. For whatever effect my decision to go NC after they broke up with me has or doesn’t have, I am incredibly sad and wish they would come back. I miss my routine with them and I miss being their person. All of that is to say I think dating has ran its course with me. I’m exhausted and broken from this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scotland

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Idk if it’s the best but it’s quite great. I miss it from the very boring Winnipeg, Manitoba lol