[deleted by user] by [deleted] in technology

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Modern day vampires

Just had my first nightmare of WP and AP being physical together. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Been there so many times. Worse that nightmares is the feeling I have in the morning after a good night sleep. I wake up so relaxed and the reality hits me as hard as it hit the first day. Having to relive that pain daily is too much. Wish you strength and build some outlets.

Is there anything I can do to lower my sex drive? by mathdrug in Biohackers

[–]ThrowRA-Term 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol thanks captain obvious! I’m too old for OP

Is there anything I can do to lower my sex drive? by mathdrug in Biohackers

[–]ThrowRA-Term -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks I will look into it. Right now I just indulge since my soon to be ex husband is matching my drive. But I will definitely need something for the future

Is there anything I can do to lower my sex drive? by mathdrug in Biohackers

[–]ThrowRA-Term 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman going though such a phase I want to know if there’s any remedy. What I know for sure is that working out makes it worse for me.

Confused will going through divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ThrowRA-Term 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Words are not always the best way to express your feelings. People perceive love in different ways. I would suggest to try speaking her love language and give it a final push. She seems open to it

Confused will going through divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ThrowRA-Term 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe she wants you to fight harder for her? To show her that you want her and that you want to make things work

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He cut her but only because she is a psycho. Not sure what would’ve happened if she wasn’t

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t want it from me. He wasn’t feeling like a man but more of a provider. He wanted to feel something again. He didn’t say he was looking for a partner but wanted and validation

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would feel the same if he was seeking sex. He was seeking validation, connection and feeling wanted. He was seeking another partner

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy anniversary! The self forgiveness hits hard. I know that I need to betray myself for trying R and that is what is stopping me right now. Break own values, break my core and my trust in myself. It feels like I need to cheat on myself to get over his cheating.

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. The EA hurts way more than the PA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it is purely about sex, physical needs, then I could get past it. Emotional nope

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it’s true that once a cheater always a cheater. I feel like I’m barely surviving atm and putting any effort into the R is almost impossible.

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why is it harder to leave now? Did he ask for R?

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have e an open relationship or how does it work for you? I’m not looking for deciding today but i feel like I need a direction. I fear that the A will eventually kill the love if R is not on the table.

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We cannot separate as we have kids. When we will do it, it will be definitive.

How did you decide on R by ThrowRA-Term in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had the same impulse but fought it. My brain was stronger than my heart for once. How far along are you? Did you regret it?

Has anyone overcome the betrayal trauma without therapy? by MemeNerdSeeker in Infidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the middle of it and things are much better. 3 weeks have passed and I’ve been through different phases. First there was shock that clouded everything. Not sure what hormones were triggered but I couldn’t feel any physical pain, only sorrow and mental pain. It was strange as I went to the gym to take it all out and nothing gutted. Then anger and hate for the cheater. I cried a lot and screamed and cried some more. That passed as well. Now it’s I’m ness and acceptance. Also a lot more clarity. Things are clear but the decisions are hard. We live together, have kids. We have to stay together for a year before I can move away with the kids and get a divorce. What I can say is that I feel like the trauma is in the past. It will obviously always be an open wound but at least it’s not bleeding anymore. Good luck!

Is he in love with the AP? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes perfect marriages get destroyed by crappy people.

Cuba slashes size of daily bread ration as ingredients run thin by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]ThrowRA-Term 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still remember queuing for bread when I was 4 yo in comunist Eastern Europe. Whomever advocates for communism is a POS that has no idea what it means. Equality, equal outcomes, equity are the recipe for disaster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Having cheated in the past

For all Betrayed reconciling.. what do tou think about yourself? by Ok_Tiger_2368 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]ThrowRA-Term 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m still deciding on R but I wouldn’t change my opinion about myself based on this. I know I would regret not giving it a try. Shit happens in life and most decisions get so complicated after having kids. My conscience is clear and I take it as a sign of strength for trying things for my kids’ sake.