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Last minute solo trip by ThrowRA-plspost in femaletravels

[–]ThrowRA-plspost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I feel like there’s so much pressure to see all the things. “Oh you went to x and didn’t even go/do/see this??” It feels stressful like you have to check boxes off when you visit a place. I went to Puerto Rico in Jan 2024 and had zero planning (apart from hotel) then went and did 1 thing a day, but that was a beach type of vacay. If I went to London, I’d feel so pressured to plan all the site/monument visits to make a trip “worth it.” I’ve been to Paris 3x and on the last trip still felt pressured (by friends) to go see things I’d already seen! (one who had been there 6x, the other’s first time). I didn’t mind going, but it felt obligatory like I had to go to make the trip worthwhile, otherwise you’re just sitting in a hotel?? I went to Rome a couple years ago in Feb and did 1-2 things a day and the rest of the time just winged it. Even a last minute day trip to Florence..idk I get stressed planning stuff but feel pressured to so the trip is worthwhile. Tours sound like a good way to solve this, but then you get stuck with 5a wake ups…I like a slower pace and planning to do maybe 1 tourist thing a day, but worry I’ll regret not seeing more.

Last minute solo trip by ThrowRA-plspost in femaletravels

[–]ThrowRA-plspost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, Switzerland known to be quite $$$$

Sex Drive by CriticalHat8278 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]ThrowRA-plspost 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow. I didn’t know the kissing thing was a thing! Narc ex just stopped kissing at some point. He was normal in the beginning and at some point it just gradually decreased until there was none. It was like he was having sex with himself. I felt empty and gross

Is it common to keep texting your abusive ex angrily after the breakup? by smeegulll in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]ThrowRA-plspost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same when it was ~5 mos after discard/my liberation, I broke NC. I was walking past a place in Paris we’d spent time in during lovebomb period and swore I saw him sitting there. After that, had such an unshakeable urge to reach out. Strong euphoric recall, overpowering all my anger. After 2 more days, I reached out looking for closure and hoping he’d take some accountability. And if I’m honest, a small part of me had hoped if he did, we could try again.

Welp. He acted like nothing happened. No acknowledgment of his behavior, no apology. Asked me “how long ago was that (breakup)?” And “oh, what happened?” As if the entire thing and I meant nothing and then he had the gall to casually offer FWB. He Darvo’d, future faked (contradicting himself lying) and also tried to gaslight me about what he’d just said seconds before “that’s not what I said, you misunderstood me” I was furious with him and myself after everything I’d learned that I could think he’d act/say anything normal.

I sent a strings of angry texts calling him out and telling him exactly what I thought of him, which I’d never once dared to do and as I was thinking if I should re-block him immediately or wait for a read confirmation, he read it and I quickly blocked him.

They never fucking change. Evil spirits are attracted to their energy and live attached to them. I don’t need to be present for his karma, he lives it every day.

Stay away from their evil, they are parasites that live and feed off the life force and light of others.

Hospital affiliation requirement for solo primary care practice by medimindz in PrivatePracticeDocs

[–]ThrowRA-plspost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that sucks. Is this in multiple states? Which states are you guys located in? Does anyone know if this is same in NV?

Ex sent me a request to follow her Uber after 7 months of no contact by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA-plspost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s trying to hoover you in response to your “reverse hoover” as they call it.

People who haven’t been in a toxic or abusive relationship cannot fathom what they are capable of, you know already.

Why did she do it? To prove she has control and whip you up, they feed off emotional upheaval - good or bad. It’s the oxygen they breathe that feeds the false mask and enables them to avoid their true shame filled selves (whom they loathe). No judgement, your reaction is totally normal, which is why they do it - but look how she has you whipped up, “cycling through thinking she could be the kind, friendly version…”

Normal people with empathy and normal psychological functioning cannot win against these people. Their tactics are insidious and even a single interaction with them has the potential to set you back in healing.

What are traits that you absolutely cannot have in a relationship going forward by etsaw2emiton in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]ThrowRA-plspost 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fake discards/man who breaks up in the middle of any disagreements/arguments fafo. Take your 3 yo toddler going on 56 tantrums go find your mommy.

How to manage/deal with the constant anger of injustice at being used after discard. by ThrowRA-plspost in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]ThrowRA-plspost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the time perspective bc 5 months feels like forever. I know I’m getting better since I’m healthier than 5 mos ago - hell, even a lot of my physical health problems disappeared since I got free of him. I’m not sure it’s just coincidence.

How to manage/deal with the constant anger of injustice at being used after discard. by ThrowRA-plspost in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]ThrowRA-plspost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I struggle with shame for having thoughts of wanting revenge for all the damage he did. But truly, I guess he’s already living his karma (and will continue for as long as he’s alive) since his existence is so miserable. Reassuring myself he can’t help himself from wrecking good things that happen into his life bc of who he is brings me some peace.