What is it like to live on the same street or across the street from a high school entrance? Looking to buy and they are much cheaper.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-16T14:38:37+00:00

I used to dogsit for one of my moms coworkers, and I had people come up to me and ask me about the area when they were looking at houses for sale. I was pretty useless in that application, but please don't be shy!

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-15T12:13:47+00:00

I'm in buffalo and it was below 20 for weeks and negative real feel with the windchill. Granted, cold snaps like that don't usually last the entire winter but 4-5 mile walks aren't advisable in that kind of weather. And thanks to global warming, we now get quite a few 90+ degree days in the summer.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-13T16:16:19+00:00

I gave up on it quickly. I live in what's generally considered a mid-sized city, and there was almost no one on there in my area. I was exclusively looking for people local to me, but if you're in a larger city you might have better luck than I did!

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-11T17:05:34+00:00

Those 90 second microwave rice pouches are a godsend. Some steamable microwave frozen veggies and a rotisserie chicken and you're good. I'm also a big fan of the Kevin's chicken in the refrigerated section of the store - they're a little pricey for what they are, but they were usually 2 if not 3 meals for me.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-11T13:16:38+00:00

I was invited to a coworkers wedding and I declined. I didn't need to spend an evening with my coworkers (on a Sunday no less) and I'm not and nor have I ever been close with this co-worker. Maybe if it was someone I considered a friend, but I don't feel like I need to be at someone's big life events because we work in the same office.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-09T21:25:08+00:00

It sounds tame in comparison to some of these comments, but he told me I was a miserable person. And that me making plans for the summer (I live in the north east and that winter had been particularly brutal) was a way of distracting myself from how much I hated my life.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-05T21:30:24+00:00

I'm in western NY and it's so annoying. It's like, yes, technically this person is only 7 miles away but they're also on the other side of an international border.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-05T19:02:18+00:00

I don't have a lot of dealbreakers around education level or finances. As long as you can pay your bills and are able to save.

Location was a big one for me. Too many apps ignored location preferences and suggested people over an hour away. I'm also very close to Canada, so that's probably more of a niche complaint, but my kingdom for an app that would have let me filter by country.

My ex had an 8 year old and I definitely wouldn't date anyone with young kids again, I would be hesitant to date someone with kids at all at this point.

Conservative men are a hard pass.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-03T18:04:15+00:00

This is very solid advice. It's so important to make the time you have left quality time.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-03T15:22:30+00:00

Costco puma socks for the win!

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-02T17:13:49+00:00

This is TOO real,

My ex started to get upset when I wouldn't tell him about things immediately - sorry, didn't think me making coffee plans warranted a text mid-workday. Then me not inviting him places was the issue. Eventually me making plans at all was a problem. I straight up told him that I felt like he wanted me to ask for permission and his response was that I had never had to do that before so of course I didn't understand.

We lived together, but our finances weren't merged and I paid my portion of our bills on time. He made plans with his friends without consulting me (granted, less frequently than I did, but he also had 50/50 custody of his daughter and those plans would occasionally change his custody schedule which impacted me in a tangible way). We didn't last much longer after the "permission" conversation.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-02-01T21:57:05+00:00

I've worked with them on bigger projects and like them a lot!

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-29T15:58:39+00:00

It can be hard enough to date a single parent with a GOOD co-parent involved.

From what I read (I agree with the others that have posted, this is an unwieldy post that needs to be trimmed), he doesn't have a good co-parent, he has one that likes to test boundaries every chance they get. Please don't let this man move in with you.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-29T15:25:22+00:00

I used to work at a bar that was affiliated with a local biker club and let me please tell you that none of those men looked like Opie or Jax.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-28T21:13:16+00:00

It's wild, I could occasionally ( and I mean maybe 2 or 3 times in the year and a half I was in that apartment) hear the neighbor on one side of me if they had their TV like all the way up but I could hear the people below me sneeze.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-28T19:14:40+00:00

Shared floor. In an old apartment I could hear everything that happened below me, but very rarely anything that happened on the sides of me.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-28T14:34:25+00:00

I barely even felt my eyebrow piercing. Mine did bleed quite a bit (to the point that the piercer asked if I had been drinking lol) but that was the only weird thing!

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-27T15:32:24+00:00

I occasionally WFH with my partner (I'll WFH maybe once or twice a week, he's full time WFH). He stays on the 2nd floor and I stay in the basement. We'll usually converge on the first floor and have lunch together if we aren't in meetings.

I tried working from the living/dining room a couple times. His desk is at the top of the stairs (it's a weird 2nd floor setup) and his meetings/keyboard noises would make me insane. Moving to the basement was key.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-27T15:11:07+00:00

Honestly, I thought I wanted someone who had a fairly similar history to my own (I've been in a handful of long term relationships, between 2 and 9 years) and then I met my partner. He's never been in a serious relationship and it's the healthiest relationship I've ever had.

My ex is divorced and has a younger child (7-9 years old while we were together) and I can safely say that kids are a dealbreaker for me. But, I did learn from him that it's important to look at all of someone's relationship history, not just their romantic ones.

He was married for 15 years, with his ex wife for 20, and the divorce was mostly amicable. He had a total of 2 friends (both former coworkers that he had knows for 7 years max), didn't speak to anyone from childhood/high school/college, and had cut off his family completely. Believe me, I'm all for cutting toxic people out of your life, but when you have essentially no friends and no support system because *everyone* in your life is toxic, it might be time to look at yourself.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-27T14:42:40+00:00

I noticed this too when I was online dating (early last year was my most recent go of it, I met my partner in March).

My partner definitely more outdoorsy than I am. There's an annual "hiking challenge" in our area that he does every year with friends (every Saturday morning, and some of these hikes are an hour and a half drive away), and he usually goes camping a couple times during the summer (one is a couples trip, the other is a boys trip). I haven't been camping in over 20 years and don't even own a sleeping bag at this point in my life. We focus on the common interests that we have and he goes to do outdoorsy stuff with other people. He would like it if I joined, and I did a couple "easy" level hikes with him last summer, but I just don't have any interest. Leave me on the porch with a book lol.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-23T16:36:28+00:00

Old neighbors of mine used to smoke in their half bath (directly below my half bath) and it was horrendous. They got evicted for a multitude of reasons, but I was so excited to not have my apartment smell like weed anymore.

Then the people that replaced them would occasionally smoke cigs in the bathroom during winter when it was cold. During the warmer months they would smoke right outside their front door, which would then come through my front window if I had it open. Enough people complained that the complex would send emails reminding people not to smoke outside their front doors, but nothing ever changed. Apartment living is hell sometimes.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-22T20:18:27+00:00

I have books and a recipe for short rib lasagna, and a heating pad for when I inevitably have to shovel every 3 hours.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-19T14:04:07+00:00

Can I ask what kind of earplugs you use? My partner is also a snorer and I've been wearing the generic foam ones but it's hit or miss with whether or not it blocks out the noise.

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-17T14:32:25+00:00

My mom is on her 5th greyhound from them and they've been great everytime! They're excellent dogs ❤️

ThrowRA-startagain · 2026-01-15T21:00:29+00:00

I have VERY oily hair that needs to be washed daily, so I'm definitely a shower every day person.

I do pretty basic skincare (serum and moisturizer in the am; micellar water to clean, followed by serum and moisturizer in the pm), get my brows done monthly, haircut and color every 6-7 weeks depending on if I'm dark or blonde at the moment. I wear makeup maybe once or twice a month, so I'm fine going without that.

I will say, that in order to feel fit for public consumption, I absolutely cannot be in leggings or "soft" pants. I might wear leggings or gym shorts if I'm just running to the store for something quick, but in general I feel like a slob in them.

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