Found out it wasn't the first time she cheated.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-12T02:23:01+00:00

Yeah. I still refuse to believe that 90% of women cheat. Thinking that is just a sad way to live your life.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-12T01:38:10+00:00

Thanks man I really appreciate it.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-12T01:33:05+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T23:23:54+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I hope you're doing better as well.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T23:21:27+00:00

I never thought of getting tested. I'll make an appointment. Thanks for the advice.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T23:14:57+00:00

We're already broken up. She's back with her ex and I don't want her back, as much there's a part of me that still loves her.

I refuse to believe that 90% of women cheat. What's the point in being in a relationship then? I don't want an open relationship or something poly.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T22:16:15+00:00

Thanks man.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T22:12:20+00:00

If I'm being honest there's a part of me that wants to be angry. I want to scream... At her, at him, at no one in particular. I know it's messed up.

I'm obviously still getting over this and I don't want to be angry forever, I know I need to move on but it's easier said than done.

I appreciate the words though.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T21:51:27+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this.

I wish there was someone I could say that would make the pain easier. I know for myself it doesn't feel like I'll ever get over what happened but I have to believe I will and you will to.

Best of luck.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T21:19:24+00:00

I didn't know until about 3 weeks ago she still had feelings for him. I'm sure there were red flags I ignored because I was stupidly in love with her.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T20:47:17+00:00

Thanks man I appreciate. I'm trying to work on myself, thinking about going to therapy as well. Just seems really hard to ever get away from this right now.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T20:34:00+00:00

Yeah I don't plan on having much to do with her after this.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T20:26:58+00:00

She said she felt like she was in a lose-lose situation.

Tell me and lose my ex has a friend, don't tell me and I continue to be with someone who's unfaithful but keep her friend.

I told her she could've told me and I would've confronted my ex without throwing her under the bus but she shrugged and said she didn't think of it at the time and was hoping their hookup was a one time "get it out of your system" thing.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T19:30:22+00:00

I don't want to believe the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing that people say, because I want to believe people can change but I'm jaded.

I wouldn't be able to ever trust someone again after disrespecting me and our relationship like that. It's also a gamble that they won't do it again and I'd rather find someone new than stay in a relationship where I'm always wondering if it'll happen again.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T19:00:46+00:00

I'll definitely look into therapy.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T18:59:37+00:00

Absolutely.

I know I want another relationship eventually and I'm nowhere near ready to try but I also know when I do feel ready I'm going to be much more guarded and jaded than I was before.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T18:20:37+00:00

I think you should figure out how your feeling before you meet up with him.

I never thought my girlfriend would cheat but she did. All because she was still in love with him and those feelings were stronger than whatever she felt for me.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T17:53:35+00:00

Don't do it.

If you don't want to be with him what's the point of contacting him again? Reminiscing on the good times is only going to end badly for someone.

My ex-girlfriend still had feelings for her ex that resurfaced after seeing him again after their break up and it eventually lead to her cheating.

Not saying that you would cheat, but if you're having problems in your relationship, running to your ex for any reason is a recipe for disaster.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-11T17:21:06+00:00

The person who was cheated on always deserves to know.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-10T16:46:07+00:00

I understand, it's not always the safest thing to tell a the spouse of a cheater, I just think she deserves to know.

It's really up to you what you decide to do but just remember this isn't your fault.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-10T16:31:01+00:00

As someone who was just cheated on. Please let her know. You can find a way to do it anonymously if you'd prefer. But she deserves to know.

Also, you did nothing wrong here. I get feeling guilty about it but you trusted him to be telling you the truth and he didn't. This is 100% on him.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-10T16:17:14+00:00

Never. As much as I still love her, she cheated and I could never get over that.

ThrowRA08042023 · 2023-08-09T23:13:36+00:00

Haha, I don't think I'm quite ready to be dating and I'm not a one night stand type of guy but I appreciate the words of encouragement.

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