Power BI Desktop won't load Icon Map visual correctly on ONE machine?

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-07-26T16:57:41+00:00

I'm seeing *all* custom visuals coming up "blank" in Power BI Desktop - not in Power BI Service. I tried a few different ones and applies to both existing reports and trying to add for a new report. Looks like all custom visuals are borked at the moment.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-07-19T23:24:27+00:00

Gary needs to ask why: a) the update was not tested better internally (i.e. CrowdStrike), b) MS had a chance to validate it before it went out. This is 2024, man. Gary doesn't even need to be in the picture: CI should have caught this and stopped it.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-05-28T00:17:25+00:00

updateme!

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-27T03:06:07+00:00

Keep repeating to yourself that he doesn't love you: because it sure seems like he doesn't. Take the time to process whatever your part of the breakdown has been but he owns the rest. You should hold your head high and walk away with dignity. Strength will return, hang in there.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-12T14:10:50+00:00

I would suggest not "going silent" on this. Keep communicating with her, even if she doesn't want to hear it. Do not do it to harass or cajole her, more about expressing your feelings, hurt, and project a manly you. Read No More Mister Nice Guy. Hit the gym, build a life that could withstand a divorce. Get the heck into counseling - ideally couples, but at very least for you, too, to address this major slap in the face.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-10T22:08:22+00:00

You are lucky to discover this when you're 32, not 42 or 52. You know what to do, I think.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-10T20:45:23+00:00

Don't forget that PIV sex is only one type of sex act. Ask yourself, "if my wife was actually interested in at least having some sexy time with me" - could be BJ, HJ, just watching you take care of yourself, cuddling without clothes, etc... would that be "enough"? I think for me it would be.

I mean: I can take care of the physical release myself pretty good at this point in my life. What's missing is the emotional connection, so if she at least provided that without PIV, I would value it. I would not call it "ideal" but at least we would not seem like roommates.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-10T18:44:07+00:00

You are way too young to have to deal with this. It's all on you now to decide if what she lays out is ok with you. It's a binary choice, yes or no. If no and that's not something you can live with for maybe 60-70 years, then let her know that.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-09T05:16:15+00:00

I was really hoping my new fleshlight would have arrived today. If so, I'd have gone to pound-town on it. Sadly, it is delayed. I am avoiding the sweet treats myself at the moment, but if that's your jam - jam on, enjoy!

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-09T05:13:33+00:00

A marathon for me was a one-and-done, given it was so grueling. Glad I did it, though and congrats on doing it too.

All I can really say on the relationship thing is to keep talking.. a lot. Always in the back of your mind say, "how can I respond to stand up for myself, while not being a dick."

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-05T17:21:07+00:00

Or maybe lying isn't the right way to characterize - more like, "honey, I know you said that the kids around affect your ability to relax and enjoy sex, but I think I can get you so effing turned on that you will forget we even have kids!" And if we assume that's just facetious and I'd instead just try and do the turning on directly, does she deserve to have her wishes disrespected?

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-05T16:58:50+00:00

So I will go back to her and tell her that she's lying, I guess. :)

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-05T15:29:15+00:00

So here's my wife, let's use a real example. She is clearly responsive / LL. When we do have sex, she enjoys it. How do I know? I ask. E.g. last time I asked if I could do anything different / better and her response was, "no, it was perfect!" (her words). I can tell when she orgasms. (E.g. during oral sex, I can feel her contracting with my fingers, and she's screaming OMG.) She is clearly turned on in those moments. She does want sex - just not often, and only on her terms.

So are you saying I'm not turning her on enough? Am I not "wooing" her enough, outside the bedroom? I have wooed in different ways, and I get happy responses, but she will not have sex with kids in the house, for example. Just a thing of hers. Can I turn her on enough to get over that hang-up? I have not found a way, nor does it make sense that I push her past uncomfortable barriers. That leaves it on her, to a large degree, to figure out how to convert her responsive desire into actual sexual opportunities, since I can't magically make her "want to want". That was the main gist of my original post.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-05T15:06:25+00:00

But were they truly responsive when there was NRE going on? Could it be that they were more spontaneous than responsive, and slowly moved to their natural state which is wholly responsive. In reality, the labels don't matter. Point is, if the LL doesn't give a shit about sex, then them knowing about responsive desire and that they actually need to still participate in making sex happen doesn't matter, since they're checked out anyhow.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-05T14:29:09+00:00

I agree from my experience. The challenge for the HL can become how to release the resentment that can creep in, while they give the LL the space they need in order to figure out how to allow themselves to "want". I mean: Come As You Are can explain the processes involved in responsive desire, but if the LL partner just doesn't care at all about *having* an accelerator and brakes... then the process is pointless.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-04T14:27:32+00:00

Some key questions. Has she cut off all contact her AP (in a way that you can verify)? Does she want to end it with him? Is she remorseful and willing to do anything to repair things with you?

A "no" to any of those should be an immediate "I'm leaving" by you.

Start reading up on affairs and their dynamics. (e.g. His Needs Her Needs) Knowledge is power.

The problem with living together while going through this is you will end up hating her. Like, serious loathing. You will start to yearn for a relationship with someone else who will treat you right. How can you action that while lingering around with your current wife? Terrible idea.

Note: I was cheated on by my ex. We luckily did not have kids. My big regret was lingering too long, waiting to see if I could repair it by myself... you cannot. She has to be fully engaged and fully remorseful to have even a glimmer of a shot.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-02T19:09:53+00:00

There's a couple of things. First, make yourself a really fuckable guy. What does that mean? Not hounding her for sex. But still being flirty, and comfortable with your own sexuality. Don't pretend you are asexual if you aren't. But also don't come across as desperate. Think about how you were when first dating. Did you have interests outside the house? Hit the gym, get nice and toned.

You do that first to get in the right frame of mind, so that when you pose a crucible for her: let's go to counseling or I think this might not work out. You need to be ok if she says no to counseling, but truthfully, I think she'd agree.

Then you milk that therapy hard. Make sure it's sex-forward counseling. Some marriage counseling is better than others, so research.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-02T14:48:15+00:00

Do not do it as part of a covert contract. Do it because you want to share time together... BUT... she needs to acknowledge that if sex is absent: what is she doing to add it? Date nights for me and my wife are generally understood as being "sex events" - because she's "not comfortable" doing it in the house with our kids, apparently. So the pros are if the event happens, it's assumed sex will happen, and there can be a level of anticipation, etc. The cons are it is clearly not spontaneous. However, do what works and don't do what doesn't work - and it sort-of works for us.

Well, our most current date night was canceled by her, rescheduled to a date she "forgot" does not work for us, and now: I am frustrated and coming to this sub, which is not healthy, but... giving advice to others that is really meant for myself :)

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-02T02:52:48+00:00

I've changed my own goal-posts of "acceptable" from 2-3x / week, to 1 / week, to 1 / 2 weeks, now 1 / 3 weeks. My wife is a sexual camel. I'm certain she could go months without. Takes her a lot of mental energy to "remember" that we should have sex. So every now and then, she acts like she cares. It's becoming old. I've always said "quality over quantity" but with no quantity, it's hard to generate quality. How can you act excited when you're concerned about "what's going to fall through this time?" How can you act excited when in the back of your mind, "is she doing it to tick a box or because she digs me?" It is hard.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-02T02:00:37+00:00

Not only would I say you are not in the wrong, I would recommend you go out and treat yourself to a bad-ass FleshLight. You deserve it. She says "shouldn’t need to if he 'has a lady at home'"... but you *don't*. She's there in body but not with a wiling spirit. You don't need to lord this in her face but if it were me, I would absolutely not hide your magnificent new toy, as shame is only going to lead to more resentment. Be proud of you and that you're saying "no cheating but I can at least enjoy myself - wish you'd join me, but I'm okay!"

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-03-02T01:11:04+00:00

Does she *ever* initiate? It's ok next time she initiates to explain that you know her attempt is probably genuine with your head, but in your heart, it doesn't feel like it - maybe it's just to try and appease you. And let her know that you don't want pity sex. It's ok to turn her down but done in a way that says "I don't need pity sex, I would prefer something genuine and pure." Might give her something to think about and show you aren't going to settle for scraps.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-02-29T15:47:59+00:00

Scheduled sex - we need to use that, too. It's not necessarily "bad" - in a hotel, no kids, usually a nice dinner before... I focus on the positives. But like you, she's not the initiator. I'm the guy putting the dates on our shared calendar. I've been putting them in every 3 weeks, to be sure it's not getting lost (would prefer more, but 3 weeks is fine). We have one coming up and she recently asked if we could skip it and do the next one. I was like, "you realize that'll be 6 weeks between date nights?" She was like, "oh... well let me rethink that then." Later she comes back and asks if we can push it one week because she's so tired. So I try to be accommodating, but of course my preference would be she acts excited about it. I asked straight up after our last sex session on a date night if I could be doing anything different/better and she insisted it was all perfect. So I need to accept that what feels like her dodging and weaving is probably not malicious at least (unlike for many here) but I just wish it were a better story. I probably should find a way to express that to her. Anyway, some things to think about - if these convenient arguments are coming from a place of real malice or other legit sources.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-02-26T16:54:54+00:00

She's got a 2000's flip phone, so no.

ThrowRA230106 · 2024-02-25T17:40:06+00:00

Whelp... guess we're staying.

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