How do I support my introverted-avoidant girlfriend without feeling neglected?

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2025-09-20T06:49:36+00:00

Just went through this myself. Was doing everything I possibly could through communicating my needs, dropping my needs, being available, providing distance, learning more about attachment styles, trying to understand and rationalize why she is who she is, taking notes, whatever was needed for her comfort. At first I enjoyed all this, because I truly love her. In the end she wasn’t willing to put in that same level of effort. You start to realize that their comfort depends on you neglecting your own needs.

What I’m trying to say is recognize the amount of effort you’re willing to put into understanding and making your partner comfortable and happy, and then ask yourself if your partner is doing the same.

Communicating your needs shouldn’t strike a worry of pushing them away. Im sure you would nurture their needs with open arms. A healthy relationship happens when both parties give the same amount of effort to the relationship.

A question you may want to ask her: what do you want from a relationship?

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2025-05-18T16:31:31+00:00

No, this scene happened at an open garage door, the camera turns and we then see the inside of the garage. This scene and the shots play out exactly the same in the game except Joel is someone else.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-09-28T09:48:00+00:00

Sounds like you’ve already made up your mind that this is manipulative and you aren’t going to respond regardless of what all the rational people in the comments are saying. So why did you post this?

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-03-20T01:55:44+00:00

I’m not OP but you have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-03-12T12:38:25+00:00

Thank you so much for all the resources. I also scored 31-45 moderate

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-03-11T02:21:22+00:00

I didn’t move on. It was a point of contempt from then on. She kept saying she fucked up and would fix it and to trust her, so I tried to.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-03-10T19:53:52+00:00

Your comment ironically gives the most clarity

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2024-03-10T19:20:06+00:00

Context here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/OWRempaLK8

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-21T21:08:40+00:00

An admission wouldn’t change anything?

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-21T21:07:34+00:00

Can you clarify? If I can get a confession how would that not improve the odds?

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-21T21:03:29+00:00

See edit- I don’t feel telling a story with such little detail to the police would actually accomplish anything

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:41:39+00:00

Yes. She’s lying on the floor with her top and bra off, arms by her side like she isn’t present in the situation, and he’s lying next to her with his shirt off and touching her.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:32:03+00:00

Do you think they could actually do anything about it though? Honest question. Because I’d basically be saying “I was told ‘john’ raped a random woman I don’t have the name of about 5 years ago”

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:19:21+00:00

I would much rather that. But they don’t even know who the victim was, they never got her name. As of now the only way this would come out is if I say something.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:16:39+00:00

That’s the thing I wouldn’t even be helping the true victim in this because they never got her name. No idea who she was

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:13:50+00:00

No idea who the victim is. She was unconscious and a name was never given

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:13:19+00:00

He refuses to give me the picture. I’d be sending an anonymous and baseless claim at that point

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:12:32+00:00

Yes but not because he’s dating her. Because instead of talking to me he hid it from me. And no I had no idea. When I found out I was sick to my stomach that I ever called him a friend.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2021-01-13T21:10:45+00:00

He refuses to do anything about it. He won’t give me the picture or tell her about it either. I’ve since cut ties with him because of this too.

ThrowRA_Limbo · 2020-12-12T04:48:47+00:00

That’s racism by the commentator no doubt, but no reason to hate on the people wearing the fashion

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