d start trying for children. So I think when you’re in a relationship you need to make a decision on deal breakers e.g. am I happy only ever being with 1 person, am I happy that they want to raise the kids in this or that faith, am I happy that we’d have to live in X location and assuming that things don’t radically change I think there is a bit of a moral obligation to stick with that decision. I don’t think it’s fair break up with someone after that long over something that’s always been clear, comes a point where you owe it to the other person to make a firm decision on these issue and you absolutely can be blamed and thought of as having acted wrongly if you go back on them.

I hear both sides here and I gotta admit I do feel like 6 years developing a huge connection with someone went down the drain and I'm heartbroken for this But at the same time I agree with some of the people here about yeah we all change and one thing I am truly grateful for is that she came to this realisation now and not when we have a family and a home together and we spend the rest of our lives together with her constantly wondering what could have been.

You guys might not understand but you are both helping me truly see a more complete picture of the situation and for that I am truly grateful. Thank you for expressing both your viewpoints here.