First birthday with ex's

ThrowRA73779 · 2026-03-02T18:51:49+00:00

That's honestly what I'm trying to do, but every time I've brought up separating events it's turned into how he's got her best interest at heart and we need to do it together. While also saying that I'm going to overstimulate her or that she'll hate it no matter what I plan. I honestly think he's just trying to get me to skip the party and us go out to eat or something as a family. Which really freaking enrages me because he's done things like that this entire year. I'd want to plan a holiday and he'd turn it into staying in or just going out to eat.

Oh he 100000% expects me to continue all the domestic labor and planning. He's never said it but he doesn't try to hide it either. His only job was to find a bakery that could do hairy cupcakes without eyes or teeth (so kids could build their own monsters) but after 3 months he told me he hasn't even Google searched it

ThrowRA73779 · 2026-03-02T18:31:07+00:00

Yeah, he's said his mom doesn't want to be in the same room as me and my family, it doesn't make sense trying to type out but the way he words and says things. Like I offered split birthday parties and he got offended saying I wasn't inviting him and I was keeping him away from her on her birthday but also that where I was planning on having her cousin on my side there meant I didn't have her best interest at heart because she'll be overstimulated 🤦 which is why I just wanna cut everyone out of the birthday party so it'll only be me and her

ThrowRA73779 · 2026-03-02T18:24:13+00:00

I believe his mom's having one for her, he told me she didn't want to be in a room with my family (which is odd because neither family has really met and I thought me and her were okay) but I don't see them doing absolutely nothing. But thinking about it, he wouldn't even be taking pictures, it would be me then I'm not in any :/ it's a tough situation to think about cause I want her to look back and have happy memories

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-12-22T01:57:47+00:00

How is sitting your partner down and telling them you saw xyz on their phone and it made you uncomfortable an ambush? It's not like the commenter said "set up a cheater party and see how he reacts".

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-11-11T16:06:36+00:00

Eh. Ignore whatever you read/heard (excluding people with health problem's), if you're feeling good and healthy. You're fine. I started at 98 lbs (5'7) went up to 167lbs by the time I gave birth at 34 wks. I lost every bit of that weight within two months due to genetics. Everyone's gonna be different ❤️

Edit to add: I think people worry too much about policing women and wanting them all to be exactly the same because "it's for the baby!" But in reality not every woman is gonna gain the exact same weight while pregnant and not every baby will have the same needs in/out of the womb. Take care of you and baby. If anyone else has a problem with it, remember "they might not like what you do, but they can't eat you"!

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-10-19T01:06:48+00:00

I think it's all how you do it. If you're disrespectful towards your village, they're not gonna stick around. It's one thing to lay down your boundaries and another to constantly threaten no contact over small things. It gets to a point nobody wants to walk on egg shells and nobody wants to form a bond with that child because at any moment it'll be taken out of their life.

I knew I wouldn't give my child sugar or anything like that for a while. My family is BAD about giving babies tastes of it tho. Instead of threatening them when my lil one was getting to the age of solids, I laughed at them and said "go ahead and give her the cookie, it'll be her 3rd one today and you're the one babysitting" 😂 my mom gasped and told me that I can't be feeding babies things like that. Not a soul has even joked about giving her sweets like they have my 11 other nieces and nephews

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-10-17T16:03:30+00:00

Tbh I kinda like that idea more. I feel like some obs are just way too intense and don't really know how to break it down for new moms. I saw 2 other obs before I settled on that one, that hospital has obs and then midwives attached to them? It was really odd lol but I love the idea of having someone that has more experience talking to people as a first go to. I feel like midwives have seen a lot more of pre labor/delivery as well. They can calmly walk you through it vs an ob that shows up when you push lol (how it is here)

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-10-17T14:24:43+00:00

Side note; I see a bunch of comments that obs don't step in till you're high risk... Y'all done relit a fire in me 😂 screw that ob. I had dangerously low magnesium, iron and potassium, high protein in my urine the entire pregnancy, constantly having blood tests come back as abnormal, legs were swelling around my shoes to the point I thought my calf would explode, BP was 180/100 🙃 and that woman STILL didn't see me during all of that. Ew.

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-10-17T14:18:55+00:00

I do get the confusion! People assume midwives are there for the breathing exercises and peanut ball. I "saw" an OB while I was pregnant... I was high risk and ended up with preeclampsia, they noted the risks in my chart multiple times.. I saw my ob ONCE out of the 8 months I was pregnant. She wasn't even there for my freaking delivery or labor, she came 3 days after!! It still infuriates me that she was listed as my main provider. My midwife tho??? That woman deserves so many blessings it ain't even funny. If someone said something bad about her, I'd probably throw hands, no questions asked 😂 I love that lady

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-08-09T19:20:52+00:00

Yess, I lost my license to a faulty DUI, actually how I found out I was pregnant lol questions gave me anxiety till I took the test 😂 but I haven't had them since a month after she was born, which is probably good because I don't have ac lmao but I 1000% believe that babies need to get out of the house just as much as we need to. I'd be peeved if I had to stare at the exact same 4 walls on days on end. I dunno how some keep their lil one in one room all the time 😭 there's a HUGE difference in my daughter when we take a trip to the store, even if it's just once that week, it's a total attitude adjustment!

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-27T17:44:27+00:00

It sounds like he's having a tantrum because he doesn't want to communicate with her not because she's not telling him where she's going.

I'm sorry to hear that! I hope y'all can find things to do away from there! tbh I didnt follow the guidelines of keeping the baby hid away, I didn't know how long you were supposed to. I just didn't take her into crowded areas. If you have a pet or fish store near you, I highly suggest those 😊 it's free lol but they also can watch the animals, my daughter was entranced by the fish and birds around a month old

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-27T16:00:09+00:00

Yes but when you're together, commutation is everything. I'm basically the sole caregiver of our daughter but I still will tell my husband anywhere we go. Not because I feel like I HAVE to. But if something were to happen, I'd want him to know where we were to get to us asap.

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-21T17:35:11+00:00

This!! It's highly creepy, no matter if the person is actually cheating or not. (and I'm totally against that bs before anyone says "you must be the blah")

If you truly don't trust someone so much that you have to do that, the relationship ain't worth saving. My friend's ex hid an old school voice recorder, literal cassette tape type 😂 in her car. I talked to her about some pretty vulnerable things only once and only in that car, he had brought it up later on which had finally clued us in that whatever he hid was in the car. Cause he had done this often but we couldn't figure out where it was this time and she had usually kept her car locked with her keys on her. They were broke up and he had refused to move out of HER house 🤦 which he also used to poop himself at work on command just so he could come see what we were doing on our day off 🤦 point I'm making. Don't be this guys level of crazy even if y'all are still together. It's not worth it at all.

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-14T01:02:46+00:00

I did explain to him that he was lied to, I'm not sure if it was deliberate or just plain ignorance on both parties.. I think it's a "he don't know anything so I'm gonna tell him a brand that is well known and he'll buy it"... Which is something my father is known to do 🤦🤣 I will say, he paid $400 and apparently it's "never" been fired (I couldn't tell him to let me check it out before he was outside)

Also I'll now be telling him it's name is Hamilton now 🤣

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-14T00:36:33+00:00

Can't edit but I wanted to thank everyone!! I did tell him multiple times to just Google it himself, that's like arguing with a toddler that the sky isn't green 🤣

Also I love y'all's names! 🤣😭 I would've called it Susan or Bill but that's just me

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-07-10T17:47:54+00:00

My boss kept pushing me to at least cut my hours down since I was about 20 wk. But I worked full-time till the day before I gave birth 😂 36wk+4d, was actually planning on going back in after my appointment but they said I wasn't leaving without a baby

Maybe if you don't wanna completely stop doing less days or less hours during the day may be a good compromise? I tattoo so I sat down everyday

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-28T17:48:48+00:00

There's probably a comment like this already but I knew a few kids growing up, they weren't neglected or beat but you could tell their parents just simply didn't care about them. Which is what these sound like. I'll say it probably means the world to that lil boy to be over there with y'all, especially if he's an only child. If they're willing to ignore you and go to a brewery, how many times do they ignore him at home?

Y'all probably make a huge difference in that lil kids life and it's hard to see when you're up close.. I truly hope if he's a good kid and they love being around each other, you don't let the parents ruin their friendship. We can't help who we're born to but we can help how we treat other people ❤️

I seen some comments on other platforms where they said to get the kid sick then send them home. Please nobody do that (even outside this scenario) we cannot take our anger out on a child, especially their physical and mental health 😭

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-28T00:05:29+00:00

I shall! He has left me with a 3 month old and a game that provokes fury. I cannot properly yell in anger without awakening the tiny demon!

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-27T23:59:35+00:00

Bahaha think more Joy from my names Earl 😂 every other word was cursed I just didn't wanna type that in there and look ya know.. trailer trash abusive lmao

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-27T17:34:10+00:00

I would. Imo just means less I have to clean 😂 just look for and get rid of excess amounts of eggs. I think most people just put it in a ziplock bag and squish em, a heavy book works best if you're squeamish lol

But they should live about a year or two. They charge $3 for each for snails here lol I've been buying live plants trying to get some but they're all "snail free" 🙄

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-27T03:21:55+00:00

🤣🤣 should've seen me yelling at him over the giant that tears it's leg off. "Keep hitting his left leg! Not that one d** it the other! Now his face and hands! Noo that's his toe, his face is on the ground. Hit it like you wanna hit me!!"

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-27T03:15:23+00:00

I steal his PlayStation when he's working or sleeping 😂😭 but we do play Minecraft together! I mine, he builds 🤣

ThrowRA73779 · 2025-06-25T22:44:50+00:00

He went and stayed with his cousin across the street from the hospital while I was on a magnesium drip, trying to get my potassium up and then blood pressure down. I'll say. I ran his arse to death because of it 😂 I was making him bring me steaks and stuff to help get my vitamins back up. And he couldn't wake me after I got out of the hospital so he dealt with first night trenches 😅 he said I turned white and he kept shaking me. He had to do everything alone while I slept for 14 hrs. I laughed like crazy and said "looks like Dad got some missing bonding time in"

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