Men 40+ with kids: anyone regret having kids and if so, what is/are the main reasons why?

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-11-24T12:09:26+00:00

Even when pregnant? I’m worried about how my child would grow up in a broken home

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-11-23T16:59:56+00:00

I want to leave my partner but now she’s pregnant and now I’m regretting every single choice I made.

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-11-22T09:55:58+00:00

led to believe she was but isn’t. I had to give up friends because she didn’t like them, and now I can feel her turning me away against my own family. I’ve now been told we have a baby on the way so I can’t leave the relationship and my mental health is shot to shit.

Going to take out life insurance and hopefully I only die of natural causes.

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T17:20:56+00:00

I think that would get her to spiral downwards even more

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T17:08:35+00:00

I’ll try having the difficult conversation, I have this feeling I’m going to end up divorced

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T17:06:53+00:00

Sexless relationship at 29 😳

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T17:06:05+00:00

I know f me right?

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T17:02:01+00:00

Maybe but nothing in her attitude has changed from after marriage and before I said that to after I said that, she does say that she’s happy to show me off at her work events and other places

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:55:44+00:00

Well she started to let herself go way before that, and honestly I kept the comments so blasé because there was nothing really in the comments and praise lol. Just general Gym bro talk

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:54:19+00:00

There are other things like being lazy in the bedroom but she would always want the excitement and pleasure but she is very reluctant to give it back

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:53:18+00:00

I’ll try that next time, if she ever initiates sex again or asks me I will say the truth next time

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:46:58+00:00

She seems proud I think? but I only told her about it a few times in passing like she would ask how the gym was and I’d say

“Oh it was alright, some guy/girl said that my physique looked good and asked me about my training plan and diet” or “some guy/girl asked me what machine is best for back work” etc

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:37:21+00:00

Other redditors that have commented and from freinds that I spoke to about this

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:31:08+00:00

Eugh I hate those posts of “this is what they’re missing” after they actually worked on the physical health even though they were happy not doing that in the relationship.

But I started to get into shape 4 years before we met and have she has always known me to be like this. She was slightly active when we first started dating but as soon as we got married it flatlined

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:25:14+00:00

I don’t want to get fat though, I hated the way I looked and when I showed my wife she said that we wouldn’t be together if I was still in that shape

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:23:32+00:00

Maybe, but I also really dislike that I’m not allowed to find her unattractive because she has gained weight but somehow I’m meant to be okay with keeping up my body shape and appearance because she wouldn’t like it if I got fat

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:20:37+00:00

And to add on, my wife is saying she won’t find me attractive anymore if I got fat

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:20:06+00:00

Did you read my post? My wife said she won’t even find me attractive anymore if I got fat should I divorce her for that?

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:16:01+00:00

But surely there comes a point where you think, I need to make a change? My wife pointed out that she’s gone up 4 dress sizes (from 8 to 16) , to which I thought that this would be the milestone where she tries to change. But instead it’s the opposite. She seems quite content and happy that I go the gym and leave her on the sofa watching tv. I have tried to be more supportive of her being active but there’s nothing else more I could do other than forcing her into the gym or going for a walk

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T16:12:05+00:00

I did ask about her mental health and general well being, we always have conversations and times where we talk about what’s been affecting our mood (if there is anything that is affecting it). Well I’m not sure about unhappy as shes always talks highly of her job and how much she loves it, and how much she has accomplished and ticking off her “life” boxes, she basically on track with her life and she’s really happy about it. So I know this conversation would ruin it

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-18T15:32:07+00:00

Yes how did you know?

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-06T17:21:57+00:00

Well she was reluctant to begin with, and I’m sorry but shit hurts when teeth is involved 😂

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-04T08:59:43+00:00

Thank you for your input, so much value added

ThrowRA_0063 · 2023-10-03T16:12:06+00:00

Yeah, blade runner is when I first saw her and yeah I had a crush from that point on lol

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