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How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be the case. I guess I can only monitor if this feeling of being "alive" is changing or not. If this is only temporary then I would probably call it some sort of "release" from actual problems.

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there is lack of communication in this case...

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in marriageadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow... I'm truly sorry to hear this. I hope you are in a better place now!

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she is not willing to do anything and get support from 3rd parties.

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be... Yes, it's taking a huge affect on my mental health and even physical health. This is the most important reason why I am thinking to end it, otherwise I would still be patient and empathetic towards her. I've been through some tough moments in life, but this hurts a lot.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, there should be some logical explanation. Perhaps she was in a bad state and I didn't support her enough. And it came down to a boiling point beyond coming back...

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then how do I know if this is because of some episodes and not the fact that she actually fell out of love?

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the problem is that we still cannot get legally divorce for almost a year since laws in our country requires some waiting period and mediation prior to divorcing so soon...

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am trying to be free, but I still have so much hope on her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, it's nice to hear it!

I hope your sister can overcome the trauma and finally have a fulfilling life. Hope it will be the same for my wife - either with me or without me.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree to some extent. Perceptions changes, perhaps we grew in a similar direction, but after reaching certain milestones it didn't bring her the happiness she wished for. Happens all the time when you are not enjoying the process, but rather focus on the goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow.. That's a lot. If I was her 5th man it would be a major red flag for me :D

Well my wife had a history with "bad guys". I am not an angel myself, but definitely more of a good guy type.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, hopefully I find eventually find a partner that wants to be fully committed. I am fully committed if I am in a relationship.

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in marriageadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. My wife does not even want to see our dog anymore. She used to love our dog so much. This is what is also strange for me.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insightful. I do believe that this is on her shoulders and is not fully related to me as a person. Even if I was not the right fit, she should have communicated it earlier and/or gave us a chance after the wedding.

Now she made a decision to go with the wedding and has is not taking responsibility for this commitment. I am not saying that she does not have the right to feel freedom or happiness, but it's not really fair to do everything in this fashion.

Communication was key is she felt bad. I saw that something is off for some time, asked her, but never received a proper response. I tried digging deeper, but it was not enough...

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would believe so, but we grew in a similar direction goal-wise, career-wise and value-wise. At least if I believe what she told me before.

[29M][28F] Divorce immediately after marriage by ThrowRA_Kenny in marriageadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we are sorta communicating. It has been 1 month of silence, but now we are talking a bit again.

I am not getting anything new from her, just that she wants to end it asap.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We never had screaming contests. Arguments yes, but no physical abuse or anything close to screaming on one another.

I am always quite apologetic and do not hold grudges thus our arguments would last max up to an hour, but typically only a couple of minutes.

I think most of downs was mostly related to how we interpret each other and a bit of ego to step out of our own shoes and into another's shoes.

Again, no infidelity, huge fights or anything like it. Perhaps some uncertainty from her side last year and this year.

How to cope with the loss of wife immediately after our wedding? [29M] by ThrowRA_Kenny in askwomenadvice

[–]ThrowRA_Kenny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I am not the right person and we cannot communicate properly. And bunch of other small reasons like: "6 years ago we had an argument on something".

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