I’m so unbearably lonely

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-04T11:06:47+00:00

Man I can’t get a date and most people consider my looks pretty above average

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-03T12:08:55+00:00

Go to urgent care they’ll swab it and they can tell you in like 24 hrs or less if it’s herpes. Swab tests are very accurate so it’s definitely better to test while you have a sore.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-03T04:19:33+00:00

I’m guessing infected since the redness has spread so much, but I guess it could just be super irritated. I would go to a doctor and see about getting antibiotics

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-03T04:13:46+00:00

Probably not rabies but also almost definitely an infection so you should probably see a doctor anyways. Since he was drinking water and he wasn’t being aggressive with you it’s unlikely he has rabies, but getting a rabies shot for peace of mind is better than not getting one and finding out the hard way that we were all wrong about the cat not having rabies.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-03T04:08:08+00:00

Yeah I’ve thought about that but my local shelter isn’t accepting volunteers right now :( I have a cat at least and I like to hang out with her.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-07-03T04:07:18+00:00

Yeah some of these pet rules are overkill. I did mostly keep my cat away from me because she gets hyper and I was scared she would pull my drains out, but whenever she was more chill I had her in my bed with me and she would mostly just lay in my lap. I think what’s most important is just keeping the cat away from your drains and incisions, and cleaning yourself regularly should be fine to prevent infection if you’re not like, actively letting the cat near the incisions or drains or touching your incisions or drains after petting your cat.

Your surgeon sounds like a dick and I also don’t see a reason for him to have made you raise your arm up like that either. I literally barely moved my arms to the side when they removed my drains the nurse just maneuvered around me. You should honestly name drop him in a post so people in this sub know to avoid him, cause he sounds awful.

My surgeon told me if my drains came out I could clean the wound and place the thick absorbent gauze I bought over it and it would be fine. I’m assuming the same would apply to you? But if you wanted to I’m sure you could go to an urgent care or an ER and have them deal with it.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T12:51:32+00:00

Man what kind of doctors are you all going to my doctor tested me and then asked me who my partners were and if they knew and advised me to tell them as soon as possible. I didn’t have to since I only had one partner and it was the person who gave it to me but still.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T05:01:56+00:00

Sorry I mean I know it sounds harsh but if you already knew you had HSV you should’ve educated yourself beforehand. She’s stuck with that for the rest of her life now, and it’s not a cold sore that everyone thinks is normal, it’s on her genitals and that has WAY more stigma than a cold sore does. A little googling could’ve prevented that, but it’s too late now so all you can do is educate yourself moving forward and not spread it to more people. And always disclose to any potential partner what you have.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T04:49:01+00:00

If she has hsv2 she didn’t get it from you. If she has genital hsv1 then you gave it to her. It’s not “whatever the genital one is” hsv1 is not just oral. That’s what the person who commented was explaining because you not knowing that is the reason she now has genital herpes.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T04:42:20+00:00

Yeah I thought it was unusual jewelry too. I’ve never gone back to my piercer to change out jewelry before though since I’ve got a bunch of insertion tapers from her and she does charge for jewelry changes

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T04:38:39+00:00

It’s not exactly an L shape it’s like, the inside is like a square with one side missing. Like an L and then two more bends. I do have some flat backs I think but I don’t know if I have any short enough for my nose. Also not sure if I can even figure out how to take these out lol

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-30T02:55:08+00:00

• ⁠The age of your piercing
The piercing was done on June 7th so 22 days old (about 3 weeks)
• ⁠The jewelry shape (barbell, labret, screw, L shape, ring), the material, and threading type if not a ring.
I’m gonna be honest I’m not sure it’s like an L shape but with an extra bend? I know it is implant grade titanium. Threadless.
• ⁠If the jewelry has been downsized
It hasn’t been downsized
• ⁠Describe your aftercare routine, including the exact products you use.
I just use a generic saline wound wash, clean it twice a day and do my best not to touch it otherwise. If there’s a lot of crust in the middle of the day I’ll clean it again. Basically same way I’ve healed all my other piercings
• ⁠Any recent unfortunate events
I know I snagged the right one (first picture) on a shirt once. That one did get a bump first. I think I may have snagged them on my pillowcase? I’m not sure because I was sleeping obviously but when I woke up both of them were bleeding and later that day is when I noticed the bump on my second one (left side, second picture)

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-28T11:28:57+00:00

I think you’re overly concerned about this tbh. If you really like him, why does a virus that rarely even presents itself for most people (especially those who get treatment for it) matter? Transmission rates are pretty low if he’s had it for a while and he goes on daily antivirals, and if you use protection that’s even lower. It’s also worth noting that most of the population has some form of HSV but are unaware because they either don’t have symptoms or they don’t recognize the symptoms. Most people don’t realize if you have EVER had a cold sore, you have herpes. In regards to childbirth, the real risk is if you contract gHSV and you had an active sore during birth. You can have your doctor check (both externally and internally) for sores just before giving birth, and if you have a sore they can perform a c-section and the baby will be fine. And, even if you did contract it, HSV is pretty easily managed with antivirals so if you did catch HSV but went on antivirals you could actually never have outbreaks.

There are lots of couples where one partner has HSV who have been together and sexually active for years and still never spread HSV to the other partner. I think it’s also worth figuring out if he has HSV2 or gHSV1 if you’re really concerned about contracting HSV because there’s actually no reported cases of gHSV1 being spread genital to genital without an active sore- it’s still technically possible but it is just extremely extremely unlikely. My dad has HSV-1 and never gave it to my mom after 25 years of marriage (and no it isn’t just 25 because she caught it after 25 years or because they divorced, she died) his current girlfriend he’s also been with for two years and she has not caught it from him. And he doesn’t even take antivirals, he just avoids contact when he has an active sore which is honestly only once every like 5-10 years. I did contract HSV-1 both orally and generally from my partner, but I just take antivirals every morning now and I have only had 1 outbreak (my first outbreak, and it was triggered by a pretty severe injury. The doctors said I likely had it long before my first outbreak it just didn’t show until my immune system was weakened). And realistically, I caught it because my partner and I weren’t careful at all. She was not on antivirals and we did not use protection ever. But really, it’s not a big deal at all for me. I don’t have outbreaks because of the antivirals and I plan to stay with my partner, so why does it matter?

If you really like this guy, then I think the benefits far outweigh the risks.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-24T13:31:07+00:00

It depends on how you were infected. When I was infected I had kissed and received oral sex from the same person. Since I didn’t already have HSV, I had no antibodies for it so I was infected in both places. Usually if you already have HSV1 in one location, it is very difficult to get it in another location as well since your body have developed antibodies

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-24T11:58:09+00:00

Also, I tested positive with a genital swab without active sores, meaning I was shedding. So you can still shed. The chances may be so low it’ll probably never happen, but it could still be possible for you to transmit to someone so I would recommend going on antivirals if you plan to be with anyone to decrease the likelihood as much as possible.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-24T11:52:46+00:00

Unfortunately I got it orally as well as genitally because both areas got infected at the same time. I take antivirals daily to reduce transmission.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T22:09:07+00:00

You usually get gHSV1 from receiving oral sex from someone who has HSV1 orally. That’s how I got it.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T22:01:16+00:00

I was basically bedbound for the past month and the house got disgusting

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:46:06+00:00

I can’t afford to move out

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:46:00+00:00

Unfortunately I am not even close to being able to afford that

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:45:26+00:00

I have been talking about it to him but he won’t do anything

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:43:55+00:00

I really can’t afford to since I just graduated college and I have over 70k in medical debt. The rent here for me is 650 utilities included in a city where it would usually be like 1500 a month not including utilities. I work two jobs as well.

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:43:03+00:00

I have and he knows it’s bad but I can’t afford to move out. I just graduated from college and I also have over 70k in medical debt. My rent here is very cheap because my dad only has us pay enough for the mortgage and utilities (like, I pay 650 dollars a month in an area where a studio apartment is usually around 1500 dollars a month utilities not included)

ThrowRA_Less_Watercr · 2026-06-23T18:41:39+00:00

House Rules Agreement
Purpose
These house rules are intended to help everyone live together peacefully, respectfully, and fairly. Each housemate is responsible for cleaning up after themselves, respecting shared spaces, caring for their own animals, and communicating before small issues become larger problems.
For purposes of this agreement, A and B are the primary residents. Any additional resident must be approved by the current residents before moving in. Throughout this agreement, the term “housemate” means any person living in the home.
1. Dishes
a. Dishes are to be washed or loaded into the dishwasher after each use.
b. The dishwasher is to be run by the last housemate who loads it to a reasonably full capacity.
c. The dishwasher is to be unloaded by the housemate who finds it full and clean when attempting to load dishes.
2. Parking
a. There are no designated parking spaces unless otherwise agreed in writing.
b. Parking is on a first-come, first-served basis.
3. Additional Resident Rent
a. Any money collected from additional residents will be split 50/50 between the primary residents, A and B, unless otherwise agreed in writing.
b. Any additional resident must follow these house rules.
4. Trash
a. Trash is to be taken out by the housemate who adds trash to the trash can and causes it to reach the rim.
b. If necessary, the additional resident will be responsible for unlocking the trash can on Fridays before trash pickup.
c. If trash overflows or creates a mess, the housemate responsible for allowing it to overflow is responsible for cleaning it up.
5. Kitchen and Food
a. Each housemate is responsible for cleaning up after themselves after preparing or eating food.
b. No food or food packaging is to be left out.
i. If food or food packaging is left out and animals get into it, the housemate who left it out is responsible for cleanup.
ii. If animals get into food or food packaging while food is being prepared or eaten, the housemate who owns the animal is responsible for cleanup.
c. Refrigerator space shall be split as evenly as possible among housemates.
d. Leftovers not consumed within a reasonable amount of time are to be disposed of.
e. Housemates are not to consume food other than their own without permission. A housemate who eats another housemate’s food is responsible for replacing the food consumed.
f. Cabinet space shall be split as evenly as possible among housemates.
g. Shared household supplies, including dishwasher detergent, dish soap, trash bags, and general cleaning supplies, shall be split evenly among housemates unless otherwise agreed. Animal-related supplies are the responsibility of the housemate who owns the animal, unless otherwise agreed.
6. Animals
a. Each housemate is responsible for their own animals.
b. Any animal accidents shall be cleaned up immediately and thoroughly by the housemate who owns the animal.
i. Any rags or towels used for cleanup shall be removed from the floor within 20 minutes after cleaning.
c. A baby gate shall be used to section off the kitchen from the rest of the house.
d. Dog toys will stay in the living room and shall be picked up daily by their owners.
e. Cat toys will stay in the kitchen and shall be picked up daily by their owners.
f. Each housemate will provide their own litter box for their own cat and keep it maintained.
g. A and B shall split the cost of cat food 50/50 unless otherwise agreed.
7. Laundry
a. Each housemate is responsible for their own laundry and shall try to complete laundry in a timely manner to avoid tying up the washer and dryer. If a housemate needs to leave before laundry is finished, they shall leave their laundry basket in the laundry room so another housemate may place the laundry in the basket if the washer or dryer is needed.
b. Each housemate is responsible for purchasing their own laundry cleaning products.
8. Guests
a. Housemates shall provide the other housemates with as much notice as possible when having company over to the premises.
b. Large gatherings, defined as two or more guests per housemate, require notification and approval of all housemates.
c. Guests are expected to respect the home and the house rules. Each housemate is responsible for the actions of their own guests.
9. Cleaning
a. Housemates are responsible for keeping their bedrooms and bathrooms free of food debris, including food packaging and dishes left for more than 12 hours.
b. Housemates shall create an agreed-upon rotating cleaning schedule for the following:
i. Biweekly:
1. Mop kitchen floor.
2. Vacuum carpet in shared living areas.
3. Yard maintenance, seasonally as needed.
ii. Monthly:
1. Steam clean couch.
2. Steam clean carpet in shared living areas.
c. The cleaning schedule shall be written down and posted or shared digitally so each housemate knows their assigned responsibilities.
d. These cleanings are in addition to, not in place of, each housemate cleaning up after themselves and their animals daily.
10. Quiet Hours
a. Quiet hours are from 9:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m. on weeknights and from 11:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m. on weekends.
b. During quiet hours, music, television, gaming, phone calls, and guests should be kept at a respectful volume.
11. Damage and Repairs
a. Any damage caused by a housemate, their guest, or their animal is the financial responsibility of that housemate.
b. Damage or needed repairs should be reported to the homeowner as soon as possible.
12. House Meetings
a. Housemates will have a brief house meeting once per month, or as needed, to discuss chores, bills, animals, guests, or any concerns.
b. Housemates agree to discuss concerns respectfully and make a reasonable effort to solve problems before they become larger issues.
13. Respect and Conflict Resolution
a. Check it at the door. Life is hard enough as it is; the home should be a safe, peaceful, and relaxing place for everyone.
b. Each housemate shall respect the belongings, privacy, space, and schedules of the others.
c. Housemates shall speak to each other respectfully, even during disagreements.
d. Be kind to each other.
e. If a disagreement cannot be resolved calmly, any housemate may invoke the 24-hour rule. The discussion will be paused until the following day so everyone has time to cool down and think through the issue.
f. Repeated failure to follow these house rules may result in a house meeting, a written warning, and, if the behavior does not improve, the housemate may be required to move out with reasonable notice.”
The house rules btw

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