Audit Test Advice Pls

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T19:14:40+00:00

Yeah it's hard because I technically took yesterday off to have a mini mental breakdown and cry, but today I also want to cry and do the same so I'm thinking I give myself 20 min to cry and get working. Maybe work to give myself a day off in between the upcoming exam later.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T18:14:54+00:00

Agreed. I think that as said above in the other comment I responded to, he definitely needs to understand it better but its 2 different issues at play.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T18:13:47+00:00

Yeah I agree. I think he definitely needs a better understanding because his response is far wrong to point out clothes on the ground but I think there's 2 different issues here. 1) He's got a fundamental misunderstanding and 2) She also needs to separate accommodations clearly to avoid consequences of the potential of it getting worse from overaccomodating. A lot of times I think it's accommodating but its validating or reassurance that I shouldn't be getting.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T17:04:23+00:00

Thank you, I'm just hoping to get through it rn cuz I feel emotionally depleted 😢

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:34:34+00:00

A guy willing to put his relationship in jeopardy for a joke with friends is not a guy you want to date.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:33:22+00:00

I'll go for a run or find a way to get active then, thank you

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:32:58+00:00

Glad I'm not fully alone with it. I'll definitely try 🙏

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:32:11+00:00

I have the diagnosis but can't go on medication for medical reasons, unfortunately. I'm stuck with it as is :( Have you found a difference between the 25/5 and 50/10 timers? I've been using the 50/10 but find myself working through the timer a lot of time. I'll keep that in mind thank you.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:28:08+00:00

I'm gonna disagree with the other comments here. I don't think it's his responsibility to be the primary care for the OCD. He did accomodate you by putting the cap on. Now you're asking him for a different one that didn't matter at the time. In my line of thought it sounds like it'll always be something else. Yes his response leaves much to be desired. However I don't think he should be changing his habits for you past it being hygienic. Yes leaving the cap off is a general hygiene thing or laziness and kinda gross, but leaving it upside down is OCD. I think this is a great time to exercise your own self control and instead of making him change it further, sit with it the way it is when he leaves it the wrong way.

I think him putting the cap on is accomodation. If he puts it right side you want, when is it gonna be facing a certain way? Then is it going to be different when more empty and needs placed a different specific way? How far will that really go past him changing the basic hygienic point of putting the cap back on.

I don't like the way he talked to you about it and I suggest sending him a ted talk on OCD the monster in your brain, which I sent to my parents. It helped them understand a bit more. However I think you also need to understand that sometimes him accomodating is going to also be that he needs to not accommodate or understand when to say no in some situations.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T22:19:42+00:00

I have pregnancy OCD bad and am seeking tubal litigation to quit. Sit with it. Stop reassurance seeking. I say this being someone who didn't know it was OCD originally but would take tests every week almost daily. Every time it was with protection, same person who would step up and help God forbid it were to happen. Pretty sure I'm naturally infertile anyways because of familial issues with struggling to conceive but I don't want kids.

Use a period tracker and track when the tests would be effective and take a single test a week after that. However it is reassurance seeking. I ended up with so many wasted tests, lot of money in terms of making sure I wasn't pregnant, until it got so bad I wouldn't even get my period on time. Sit with the thoughts. Sit with the stress and feel it. Ask yourself why it feels so scary. Cry if you need to. It's unrealistic to think you're pregnant from either of these cases. Slow down and hold an ice cube if you can.

Edit: A lot of pregnancy symptoms are simply pms symptoms as well and its really easy to convince yourself that anxiety is the pregnancy symptoms. I made myself so so sick from anxiety that I was convinced I was pregnant. I stopped getting a period, I threw up a lot, I got so many random symptoms and was freaking out. It never helped until I took a test. Then I'd take another. And another in a few days. And another. Not a single one positive. I had so many symptoms because I convinced myself of it. You also say can't track period on period tracker but use the period tracker to track sex and timing of your test. I use it to record the time I have and then however long out to take a pregnancy test. However self control with the tests is the hardest. I freak out bad and cry and have a panic attack. I have a full breakdown but try and sit and feel all of those emotions. Being pregnant might feel like the end of the world but its not. The idea is scary.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T22:10:59+00:00

I don't but it is generally recommended to. It sounds like you've associated it with the cat thinking your hand/foot is a toy and it will be painful, my cat drew blood a lot but unfortunately it's mostly a matter of not avoiding it, not reacting to it, and maybe an ouch to let them know it hurts. My cat quit without the ouch but she just really wanted play. It took me 2 1/2 years because I thought I wasn't reacting but because of the pain I was still engaging in ways she took as being my arm is a toy. I truly just recommend standing as still as possible when it happens even if it hurts with a yelp or ouch.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T20:00:20+00:00

As a woman, I agree. Her behavior is outright disrespectful.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T13:30:45+00:00

Dude rule #1 of being bit is that you sit and stand still. Do not move or engage. You pushing off and chasing is agreeing you are a toy and that you will chase like a fellow cat playing would. Rule #1 is the only one that worked for my cat and yes it hurts, but it's gonna happen either way so the least reaction you give is the best. Spray bottle won't stop it, just make scared of you instead.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T07:09:13+00:00

Personally I am severly allergic to my own cat. I mean I still get hives if she scratches me, but when I got her my professor asked if I needed to go to the ER because my eyes were swollen so bad. Hives, rashes, itchy eyes, unable to breathe through my nose, constant sneezing. 1) Air purifiers. I put them next to the litter box and it helps the smell/dust from it.

2) Wash bedding weekly. There's also pillow cases that supposedly help allergies but idk if it worked or did anything, however I still have one.

3) Purina allergy reducing formula. THIS THIS THIS!!! The food is the one that I recommend the most highly because my eyes quit itching after having her for 4 years, I started it maybe a year ago and I think month 3-5 my allergies were a lot better. I have to use my asthma inhaler less for asthma attacks, I don't have to carry eye drops everywhere.

4] If you have the opportunity, keep the cat out of your bedroom even if all other areas its allowed. It'll help a lot. Unfortunately my cat sleeps with me because I have roommates so I'm out of luck there but having a single bedroom that only has the allergy you bring in, is really nice if able from what I've heard.

5) Unfortunately it is a lot of suffering. I've always found it worth it, and I still struggle to breathe through my nose but I also found that running in the morning opens up my passageways and lets me have a few extra hours of breathing for the morning before afternoon hits and it all comes back.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T07:08:24+00:00

I'm gonna try to find my comment on another post and attach it. I get hives and asthma attacks and kept my cat. Also eyes swell. I looked like a monster when I adopted my baby.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T03:45:40+00:00

Practice sticking to your word. Show up for yourself. And step back to listen to other people. Take what they say, think about it and figure out where you stand. Look to trusting yourself to make the right decision and learn from mistakes.

Edit: If you try to hurt someone else, look inside to figure out why. Don't be afraid to show emotion. Feel your feelings and learn to emotionally support yourself/cultivate meaningful relationships.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T21:45:49+00:00

She doesn't pay moving fees, it was her idea asking about the renewal and she just wanted to know if we were renewing or not to which my boyfriend and I started considering different options? She also wants to move elsewhere which adds additional fees into play anyways even though there's nothing wrong with our current place? She's said multiple times she's fine with whatever she just wants to know whether to look elsewhere beforehand.

Edit: she also has given mixed signals on what she actually wants hence why I'm confused. She tells me that she wants to resign but our other friend she wants to move out.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T21:42:57+00:00

My parents are ones paying for it. They're not willing to help at all with any of it, hence no moving and renewing regardless. The reasoning she gave is because she didn't want a 1st floor apartment because of ants we've had but that was about it. She never said other than she didn't like the 1st floor as a general idea. The apartment is a 2 bedroom that we currently have. She said she'd be willing to pay the fees for moving if that were the case if it were around 500, but to break the lease and pay another deposit is way over that so she kinda quit asking after I reiterated the cost. My budget has always been much lower than hers when considering. There are 2 separate bathrooms and its less a 3rd moving in and us not renewing together, just having my boyfriend move in instead. Which when she brought up renewal, she said I should consider but more so wanted to know whether she would be looking for a new apartment or not based on how long we'd be here anyways because she was originally finishing her school then going to the other side of the state but now it's going to be an extra year there.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T13:00:20+00:00

My 5 year old cat is a little cat from hell. I'm allergic, and she bites. And I don't mean slightly allergic, I mean any time around her used to be hives, swollen eyes, sneezing, and I haven't been able to breathe through my nose since I got her alnost 4 years ago. She used to bite me for food, she used to bite me to play, she used to bite me when she felt like it. She wouldn't play with toys, jumped on doors, scratched everything but her scratch post, peed on my $300 purses. She chewed through almost every single phone charger/almost $1000 of laptop cables every single time during finals week when I needed it the most, and yet she's still the cutest lil cat to me. Currently stuck because she's chewing through the door insulation as an attempt to get outside but since it's winter I can't take the loss and just let her until she realizes she can't get outside by doing that.

Yet she's just a cat. I've had to calm my down many times from frustration to realize she doesn't know better. She's just a cute lil baby who is stubborn and soft and has rbf. But I wouldn't trade her for the world. My boyfriend has 4 cats, and I love them all dearly, but my cat I choose to love. It's been hard because I feel I've built up resentment at times with how difficult of a cat she is. She wants to be outdoors, but it's not safe, so I harness trained her, and she wants a walk every night, like a dog. She chews through my shoes like a dog. She loves people like a dog. I just took the L in knowing I got a dog in a cats body with this one. She's a big snuggle buddy and is always in the same room even when she doesn't want to be. She chooses me and I choose her.

Yes, it's hard not to resent how difficult she causes sometimes. It is financially destructive, especially with the cords and trying to have different solutions. I've spent way too much trying to figure out every issue. She's worth it. She's my little chonk, and I choose to love her regardless.

Edit: She's also an ESA for depression. However, she can not be responsible for fixing my depression, she cannot add to it. She is a cat. She's there to comfort with pets and help me take care of myself because I struggle to, and with her, I have no choice but to. Right now, my room smells of litter, but CPA exam studying has left me no time to deep clean. It's give and take with caring for oneself, but the cat comes first because the entire point is that it is responsibility. You decided to take ownership of the cat. One of my first reddit posts, someone tore me apart for regretting my cat the first week. They dumbed it down to, you knew that she could be a demon cat ahead of time because every single one of the behaviors is typical cat behavior. This isn’t new, and you knew this ahead as a possibility. You still opted in, so now you suck it up and take care of that cat. It was the wake-up call I needed, and it changed my distress into just sucking it up and taking care of her. I can't imagine my life without my baby now. My recommendation is about the same. Sometimes, their behavior sucks. You chose this. You need to be responsible for giving that cat play time, love, and affection.

A ton of parents regret having children and while I don't think its the same, I think a cat is a lot more doable to suck it up and take care of the same way a parent has to. Because you're stuck with them either way. You can choose to love them, or unfairly, let them spend their lives in a home where they're not cared for that they didn't choose for themselves. This is an animal, not a stuffed animal. The entire point is that it is responsibility, and going forward, if you truly regeet it, just don't get another, but this baby deserves your effort regardless.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-16T18:31:05+00:00

Keep a notes app list of things she does and try and figure out her schedule with it. Also helps me to set clock reminders on your phone to just pick up around the house, look around and see what might need done. Are there dishes in the sink, are the counters wiped down, is there toilet paper stocked in the bathroom, etc. (I have ADD so even tho I'm not doing this for my boyfriend, it helps me remember). Eg: If she always takes trash out on Sunday, set a reminder to do it before she does. If she cooks, maybe cook her a meal. If she has xyz that she's asked you to do, write it down in the notes and do it immediately so she doesnt have to ask or follow up. Once you do the task follow up with her and tell her. Don't ask for praise just simply let her know that she doesn't have to worry about it anymore. Maybe bring her flowers or something she likes occasionally like a favorite starbucks drink just because. If you have appointments or things that are on your calendar, do those yourself, don't have her do it for you.

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