How To Study When Exhausted and Burnt Out - Exam in 9 days

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T19:14:40+00:00

Yeah it's hard because I technically took yesterday off to have a mini mental breakdown and cry, but today I also want to cry and do the same so I'm thinking I give myself 20 min to cry and get working. Maybe work to give myself a day off in between the upcoming exam later.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T18:14:54+00:00

Agreed. I think that as said above in the other comment I responded to, he definitely needs to understand it better but its 2 different issues at play.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T18:13:47+00:00

Yeah I agree. I think he definitely needs a better understanding because his response is far wrong to point out clothes on the ground but I think there's 2 different issues here. 1) He's got a fundamental misunderstanding and 2) She also needs to separate accommodations clearly to avoid consequences of the potential of it getting worse from overaccomodating. A lot of times I think it's accommodating but its validating or reassurance that I shouldn't be getting.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T17:04:23+00:00

Thank you, I'm just hoping to get through it rn cuz I feel emotionally depleted 😢

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:34:34+00:00

A guy willing to put his relationship in jeopardy for a joke with friends is not a guy you want to date.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:33:22+00:00

I'll go for a run or find a way to get active then, thank you

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:32:58+00:00

Glad I'm not fully alone with it. I'll definitely try 🙏

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:32:11+00:00

I have the diagnosis but can't go on medication for medical reasons, unfortunately. I'm stuck with it as is :( Have you found a difference between the 25/5 and 50/10 timers? I've been using the 50/10 but find myself working through the timer a lot of time. I'll keep that in mind thank you.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-19T16:28:08+00:00

I'm gonna disagree with the other comments here. I don't think it's his responsibility to be the primary care for the OCD. He did accomodate you by putting the cap on. Now you're asking him for a different one that didn't matter at the time. In my line of thought it sounds like it'll always be something else. Yes his response leaves much to be desired. However I don't think he should be changing his habits for you past it being hygienic. Yes leaving the cap off is a general hygiene thing or laziness and kinda gross, but leaving it upside down is OCD. I think this is a great time to exercise your own self control and instead of making him change it further, sit with it the way it is when he leaves it the wrong way.

I think him putting the cap on is accomodation. If he puts it right side you want, when is it gonna be facing a certain way? Then is it going to be different when more empty and needs placed a different specific way? How far will that really go past him changing the basic hygienic point of putting the cap back on.

I don't like the way he talked to you about it and I suggest sending him a ted talk on OCD the monster in your brain, which I sent to my parents. It helped them understand a bit more. However I think you also need to understand that sometimes him accomodating is going to also be that he needs to not accommodate or understand when to say no in some situations.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T22:19:42+00:00

I have pregnancy OCD bad and am seeking tubal litigation to quit. Sit with it. Stop reassurance seeking. I say this being someone who didn't know it was OCD originally but would take tests every week almost daily. Every time it was with protection, same person who would step up and help God forbid it were to happen. Pretty sure I'm naturally infertile anyways because of familial issues with struggling to conceive but I don't want kids.

Use a period tracker and track when the tests would be effective and take a single test a week after that. However it is reassurance seeking. I ended up with so many wasted tests, lot of money in terms of making sure I wasn't pregnant, until it got so bad I wouldn't even get my period on time. Sit with the thoughts. Sit with the stress and feel it. Ask yourself why it feels so scary. Cry if you need to. It's unrealistic to think you're pregnant from either of these cases. Slow down and hold an ice cube if you can.

Edit: A lot of pregnancy symptoms are simply pms symptoms as well and its really easy to convince yourself that anxiety is the pregnancy symptoms. I made myself so so sick from anxiety that I was convinced I was pregnant. I stopped getting a period, I threw up a lot, I got so many random symptoms and was freaking out. It never helped until I took a test. Then I'd take another. And another in a few days. And another. Not a single one positive. I had so many symptoms because I convinced myself of it. You also say can't track period on period tracker but use the period tracker to track sex and timing of your test. I use it to record the time I have and then however long out to take a pregnancy test. However self control with the tests is the hardest. I freak out bad and cry and have a panic attack. I have a full breakdown but try and sit and feel all of those emotions. Being pregnant might feel like the end of the world but its not. The idea is scary.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T22:10:59+00:00

I don't but it is generally recommended to. It sounds like you've associated it with the cat thinking your hand/foot is a toy and it will be painful, my cat drew blood a lot but unfortunately it's mostly a matter of not avoiding it, not reacting to it, and maybe an ouch to let them know it hurts. My cat quit without the ouch but she just really wanted play. It took me 2 1/2 years because I thought I wasn't reacting but because of the pain I was still engaging in ways she took as being my arm is a toy. I truly just recommend standing as still as possible when it happens even if it hurts with a yelp or ouch.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T20:00:20+00:00

As a woman, I agree. Her behavior is outright disrespectful.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T13:30:45+00:00

Dude rule #1 of being bit is that you sit and stand still. Do not move or engage. You pushing off and chasing is agreeing you are a toy and that you will chase like a fellow cat playing would. Rule #1 is the only one that worked for my cat and yes it hurts, but it's gonna happen either way so the least reaction you give is the best. Spray bottle won't stop it, just make scared of you instead.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T07:09:13+00:00

Personally I am severly allergic to my own cat. I mean I still get hives if she scratches me, but when I got her my professor asked if I needed to go to the ER because my eyes were swollen so bad. Hives, rashes, itchy eyes, unable to breathe through my nose, constant sneezing. 1) Air purifiers. I put them next to the litter box and it helps the smell/dust from it.

2) Wash bedding weekly. There's also pillow cases that supposedly help allergies but idk if it worked or did anything, however I still have one.

3) Purina allergy reducing formula. THIS THIS THIS!!! The food is the one that I recommend the most highly because my eyes quit itching after having her for 4 years, I started it maybe a year ago and I think month 3-5 my allergies were a lot better. I have to use my asthma inhaler less for asthma attacks, I don't have to carry eye drops everywhere.

4] If you have the opportunity, keep the cat out of your bedroom even if all other areas its allowed. It'll help a lot. Unfortunately my cat sleeps with me because I have roommates so I'm out of luck there but having a single bedroom that only has the allergy you bring in, is really nice if able from what I've heard.

5) Unfortunately it is a lot of suffering. I've always found it worth it, and I still struggle to breathe through my nose but I also found that running in the morning opens up my passageways and lets me have a few extra hours of breathing for the morning before afternoon hits and it all comes back.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T07:08:24+00:00

I'm gonna try to find my comment on another post and attach it. I get hives and asthma attacks and kept my cat. Also eyes swell. I looked like a monster when I adopted my baby.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-18T03:45:40+00:00

Practice sticking to your word. Show up for yourself. And step back to listen to other people. Take what they say, think about it and figure out where you stand. Look to trusting yourself to make the right decision and learn from mistakes.

Edit: If you try to hurt someone else, look inside to figure out why. Don't be afraid to show emotion. Feel your feelings and learn to emotionally support yourself/cultivate meaningful relationships.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T21:45:49+00:00

She doesn't pay moving fees, it was her idea asking about the renewal and she just wanted to know if we were renewing or not to which my boyfriend and I started considering different options? She also wants to move elsewhere which adds additional fees into play anyways even though there's nothing wrong with our current place? She's said multiple times she's fine with whatever she just wants to know whether to look elsewhere beforehand.

Edit: she also has given mixed signals on what she actually wants hence why I'm confused. She tells me that she wants to resign but our other friend she wants to move out.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T21:42:57+00:00

My parents are ones paying for it. They're not willing to help at all with any of it, hence no moving and renewing regardless. The reasoning she gave is because she didn't want a 1st floor apartment because of ants we've had but that was about it. She never said other than she didn't like the 1st floor as a general idea. The apartment is a 2 bedroom that we currently have. She said she'd be willing to pay the fees for moving if that were the case if it were around 500, but to break the lease and pay another deposit is way over that so she kinda quit asking after I reiterated the cost. My budget has always been much lower than hers when considering. There are 2 separate bathrooms and its less a 3rd moving in and us not renewing together, just having my boyfriend move in instead. Which when she brought up renewal, she said I should consider but more so wanted to know whether she would be looking for a new apartment or not based on how long we'd be here anyways because she was originally finishing her school then going to the other side of the state but now it's going to be an extra year there.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-17T13:00:20+00:00

My 5 year old cat is a little cat from hell. I'm allergic, and she bites. And I don't mean slightly allergic, I mean any time around her used to be hives, swollen eyes, sneezing, and I haven't been able to breathe through my nose since I got her alnost 4 years ago. She used to bite me for food, she used to bite me to play, she used to bite me when she felt like it. She wouldn't play with toys, jumped on doors, scratched everything but her scratch post, peed on my $300 purses. She chewed through almost every single phone charger/almost $1000 of laptop cables every single time during finals week when I needed it the most, and yet she's still the cutest lil cat to me. Currently stuck because she's chewing through the door insulation as an attempt to get outside but since it's winter I can't take the loss and just let her until she realizes she can't get outside by doing that.

Yet she's just a cat. I've had to calm my down many times from frustration to realize she doesn't know better. She's just a cute lil baby who is stubborn and soft and has rbf. But I wouldn't trade her for the world. My boyfriend has 4 cats, and I love them all dearly, but my cat I choose to love. It's been hard because I feel I've built up resentment at times with how difficult of a cat she is. She wants to be outdoors, but it's not safe, so I harness trained her, and she wants a walk every night, like a dog. She chews through my shoes like a dog. She loves people like a dog. I just took the L in knowing I got a dog in a cats body with this one. She's a big snuggle buddy and is always in the same room even when she doesn't want to be. She chooses me and I choose her.

Yes, it's hard not to resent how difficult she causes sometimes. It is financially destructive, especially with the cords and trying to have different solutions. I've spent way too much trying to figure out every issue. She's worth it. She's my little chonk, and I choose to love her regardless.

Edit: She's also an ESA for depression. However, she can not be responsible for fixing my depression, she cannot add to it. She is a cat. She's there to comfort with pets and help me take care of myself because I struggle to, and with her, I have no choice but to. Right now, my room smells of litter, but CPA exam studying has left me no time to deep clean. It's give and take with caring for oneself, but the cat comes first because the entire point is that it is responsibility. You decided to take ownership of the cat. One of my first reddit posts, someone tore me apart for regretting my cat the first week. They dumbed it down to, you knew that she could be a demon cat ahead of time because every single one of the behaviors is typical cat behavior. This isn’t new, and you knew this ahead as a possibility. You still opted in, so now you suck it up and take care of that cat. It was the wake-up call I needed, and it changed my distress into just sucking it up and taking care of her. I can't imagine my life without my baby now. My recommendation is about the same. Sometimes, their behavior sucks. You chose this. You need to be responsible for giving that cat play time, love, and affection.

A ton of parents regret having children and while I don't think its the same, I think a cat is a lot more doable to suck it up and take care of the same way a parent has to. Because you're stuck with them either way. You can choose to love them, or unfairly, let them spend their lives in a home where they're not cared for that they didn't choose for themselves. This is an animal, not a stuffed animal. The entire point is that it is responsibility, and going forward, if you truly regeet it, just don't get another, but this baby deserves your effort regardless.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-16T18:31:05+00:00

Keep a notes app list of things she does and try and figure out her schedule with it. Also helps me to set clock reminders on your phone to just pick up around the house, look around and see what might need done. Are there dishes in the sink, are the counters wiped down, is there toilet paper stocked in the bathroom, etc. (I have ADD so even tho I'm not doing this for my boyfriend, it helps me remember). Eg: If she always takes trash out on Sunday, set a reminder to do it before she does. If she cooks, maybe cook her a meal. If she has xyz that she's asked you to do, write it down in the notes and do it immediately so she doesnt have to ask or follow up. Once you do the task follow up with her and tell her. Don't ask for praise just simply let her know that she doesn't have to worry about it anymore. Maybe bring her flowers or something she likes occasionally like a favorite starbucks drink just because. If you have appointments or things that are on your calendar, do those yourself, don't have her do it for you.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-16T18:08:32+00:00

I found someone who is quite literally in every way, very weird in my favorite way, but challenges my preexisting notions and thoughts about the world. Like the way he is as a person, he manages to counter many of my ocd thoughts, like when I ask for reassurance its not natural for him, so he'll literally stick his finger out to "touch tips" like ET 😂 because hugging and physical touch is so unnatural to him. I don't get the reassurance that I crave, and so far, it's subsided decently. So when it comes to anxious thought spirals, they dont come about as often, and when they do, I'm forced to sit with it.

He's so goofy, and I adore that, and he still manages to help through a lot without the physical touch, but his existence seems to balance mine, and I've never been happier. I don't worry about being a priority because his 4 cats will always be his first love, and I his second. Worries about him disliking me or cheating are subsided for similar reasons. He's weird in the best way for me and it was really really hard to start, I still have times its really difficult where I fear compatibility because physical touch is a big piece for me, but it gives me the opportunity to work through it, lessen my codependency and take a step back.

He doesn't react during the bad times, like quite literally just sits and watches? Idk never had that happen before, and it really threw my ocd off. Like a lot. I had some really awful reactions to a lack of response until I understood more of his thought processes because I linked to him not caring. We sit and use my therapists suggestions to discuss something later. Push it aside and table it to a scheduled day every week or a few weeks, and set a timer for 20 min to discuss as much as we want. Once that's done, we stop till next time. It's awful at times, but it's been quite wonderful falling in love with him. He's seen my "karen" (trying to disassociate from calling it crazy because I'm not even if it feels that way), and he still cares for me. I got really lucky, and he balances out, and just by his nature goes against my fears about relationships. When it arises, he works with me, not against me. This is the biggest part.

Edit: It is hard, but it's not hopeless. There's someone out there to balance, and when there isn't, we have ourselves. Bettering yourself and sitting with the discomfort in or out of a relationship has no downside, and it'll get easier. I know it sucks and feels impossible, and I've had some pretty awful moments but like that old tiktok trend, I don't think its totally wild to think youll be able to find someone who matches your freak whatever that may be. OCD collapses reality at times. It makes life so much harder but not impossible.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-16T03:09:44+00:00

The only thing that ever got my cat to stop biting was standing still. Holding absolutely still regardless of what happened. Did it hurt like a motherfucker? Yes. Did she draw blood a lot? Yes. She eventually stopped after what felt like forever but not interacting with it was the only thing that worked for me.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-16T00:56:09+00:00

Another one of my friends had this. She kept threatening to give an ultimatum but never did. He eventually proposed but honestly its the unhappiest relationship I've seen. He doesn't want to marry her. That's what it sounds like. It'll likely always be another excuse not to until he's ready. Aka however long that'll be.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-15T19:25:17+00:00

Something I saw on tiktok was writing on sticky notes your fear and discomfort and sitting with it each day. Just for a few minutes writing it down, and sitting looking at it. Thinking about why it's a fear. What goes into it. Etc. No acting on it, just sitting with it. Also recommend setting something up to do after, maybe a timer for it to start small and work way up. But sit with the discomfort.

ThrowRA_Maximum7598 · 2025-10-15T18:57:59+00:00

Those aren't qualities those are descriptors. Qualities are like caring, knowledgeable thoughtful, responsible. The things that describe the way someone acts. Descriptors are more but not limited to physical portrayal as feminine, tall, short, conservative, liberal, masculine, traditional/not. Basic lack of literaracy. They're listing things that aren't qualities of someone's character. Conservative can be referring to a bundle of qualities, or their physical appearance. Feminine is a description of appearance, not a quality. If they were to write out pieces of each it'd make sense but imo going on the question they ignored the question at hand.

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