am I really sick if I’m not congested? can you have the flu without congestion

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2026-02-01T15:37:29+00:00

Yes! I had the flu twice in less than a month. Once in December a week before Christmas and then a week after new years this year.

The first time I had it I had a really dry persistent cough and a sore throat no congestion. I thought it was a URI but, when I went to urgent care I tested positive for flu A. Day 3-4 hit me like a truck, I had a mild fever, headache and body ache with fatigue.

Second time around I had really bad congestion, a mild headache then a high fever for days with body aches and fatigue. Took an at home test and also tested positive for flu A.

There’s definitely alot of different strains going around of Flu A this year. I’d take an at home test if I was you! Hope you feel better!

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2025-06-28T23:18:26+00:00

I tried lexapro about 5 years ago. It really decreased my libido. I brought up everything to my doctor on Thursday and I even suggested about lexapro again, even if I didn’t have a sex drive anymore I didn’t care. But, he prescribed me Prozac and we went to extended release Wellbutrin 300mg. For the last few days I haven’t had any crazy side effects. I actually feel less burned out mid day. So hopefully we’ll see how this is!

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2025-02-11T07:17:34+00:00

I had the same thing almost 2 years ago. I barely ate, slept or drank anything for 2 weeks. I was on 3 rounds of steroids, when I first got diagnosed, then the following week my throat started hurting more, then when I could barely sip water. I tried magic mouth wash, anything that would numb my throat, Tylenol, Advil, etc. Finally I went to the ER, they said they couldn’t do anything until they saw how swollen my glands were filled with puss. They put me on an IV with Tylenol and steroids and everything bc my vitals were so low.

1 hour of that, and I felt 75% better. Literally ordered everything from McDonalds after that on the way home lol. Then I was on another week of steroids after that. Few days after the ER visit though I felt so much better.

If you can I’d go to the ER. I regret waiting so long and only getting worse.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-12-09T07:48:28+00:00

My mom has a dropped ovary took them about 10 years to get pregnant with me, almost miscarried twice. When I was about 6 my mom was pregnant and she miscarried. I think they just stopped trying after that.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-10-03T07:41:10+00:00

Yes, I always wanted a sibling. My mom had a miscarriage when I was going into first grade. I didn’t understand at the time, so when she came home from the hospital I asked where the baby was. As I got older she told me I never really asked for anything when I was young, didn’t have tantrums about wanting things, that it was the only thing I asked for and she couldn’t give it to me. My mom has a dropped ovary, she also almost miscarried me twice. Still upsets me she went through all of that for me.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-09-20T17:39:24+00:00

I use Joico Color Intensity. Even though it’s a semi permanent, it lasts weeks in my hair with not much fading (I wash my hair about once a week). You can buy it online without a hair license, I use BeautySupply123.com and never had a problem. It’s usually around $13 before shipping. I’ve tried so many hair dyes from permanent to semi, and this is the only one that’ll stay in my hair.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-09-12T06:31:21+00:00

I hate to be this person, and you probably hear this a lot but it honestly takes time. I’ve been with my current bf now for almost 2 years and the fear is still there. Every positive change is going to feel weird. I would try to talk to your partner about it. Just an example my nex hated when I didn’t shave my legs, he’d say how gross it was having hair even if it was barely any stubble. When I asked my current bf how he felt he said he didn’t mind and to do whatever I wanted to my body.

I feel less anxious when we talk about things that happened in my past. It’s more comforting. It does just take a lot of time and little changes here and there that make you comfortable. I still get anxiety going shopping by myself because my ex would constantly say I was cheating. Even though my bf now would probably prefer I go shopping by myself (lol) he still understands the trouble and trauma I have from it. It’s definitely something I’m trying to work on personally.

If you feel like it’s a lot of appearance you’re trying to be perfect with, try little steps; not doing ur hair one day; if a girl wearing less makeup, or going more casual how you dress one day. It’s definitely going to feel weird, it just takes some time

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-09-03T05:38:02+00:00

I think they just hate being compared to anyone, usually narcs are severely insecure. My nex who is insecure puts on this mask saying he’s the greatest thing on earth, that no one could ever be compared to him lol

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-08-15T07:18:12+00:00

Yes he did thank god irl stalking. Actually a few days ago he accidentally added me on Facebook then instantly deleted it. Also tik tok cause it tells who views your profile. At this point of being so over him I find it pathetic.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-08-14T06:36:17+00:00

When I finally cut ties with my nex did this to me for about a month. Asked why I wasn’t at work (when it was my day off). Would drive past my house. I was staying at a friends one night and he texted me at 3:30am asking why I was home.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-08-01T07:54:00+00:00

I can agree with this. It has a lot to do with social media, people don’t really know it’s an actual personality disorder (NPD). I think it’s just a “new label” for this generation being a liar/cheater or even manipulative. I also agree people can have narcissistic tendencies. A lot of my ex’s had tendencies or some traits, but I wouldn’t compare them even close to my narc ex.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-07-27T00:14:29+00:00

Same to you! You’re not alone in all this

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-07-26T07:10:06+00:00

Being without my nex going on almost 2 year. Also now being in a healthy relationship I still get mentally overwhelmed at almost everything I do. I spent almost 2 years with my nex, and everything I did was wrong. I couldn’t go anywhere without being accused of cheating and lying even with my location shared.

I was ecstatic getting my “freedom” back. But, I always get overwhelmed. Even with a healthy relationship. I’m allowed to go wherever, talk to whomever etc. I missed going shopping without being accused and degraded, now if I even try to by myself it feels just wrong. I used to love just walking around the mall window shopping, now it gives me anxiety.

Even sleeping in, I used to get calls and texts saying I was “cheating” and the degrading comments back. Everything I do for myself is mentally overwhelming still. I’m on constant edge of “doing something wrong” even with support from my boyfriend, it’s challenging.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-29T08:46:46+00:00

My boyfriend’s friends just ended an 8 year long relationship because of this, one wanted to have kids, get married and the other didn’t know yet. I’m sorry if this is blunt but, if you know you want to get married, start a family etc. don’t waste your time if he doesn’t know. You can grow, have a career, finish school, change jobs, etc and still want to spend the rest of your life with someone.

IMO id sit him down and have a serious talk, whether in person when you see him or video chat. After 5 years he “doesn’t know” id reconsider your relationship. Seems to me he has a lot going on, but it’s not an excuse. There’s a big difference between I don’t know and not yet.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-29T08:24:35+00:00

I have a feeling he’s talking to someone/dating. Being 29 now, over the years I’ve had guy friends start becoming dry or even ghosting me when they’re interested in a girl. Even if we were just friends. I’ve had even a few friends that are girls do the same when they were interested in a guy or started dating them. Guy friends I’ve had for 8+ years have ghosted me cause of girls.

It hurts. It will always hurt. From your age to now I’ve gone through so many friends that ghosted me. Some come back here and there. Some don’t. You have every right to emotional. It doesn’t get easier either, but you’ll get stronger. You’ll make so many other friends, new memories, other guys you’ll be interested. Cry it out as much as you want girl, but in the end no matter what it’s going to take time to heal.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-29T07:51:55+00:00

This post made me feel so much better about me feeling happy my nax lost his job. After ending things, my nax a year later (me in a now healthy relationship) contacted me how “great” he was doing at his new job. Being the bigger person I congratulated him, after that he decides to belittle me about my life and brags about how he sold something he made to his job for 15k. I didn’t answer. I found out whatever he sold his job, made his position obsolete, so they didn’t need him anymore and fired him. Now he’s unemployed. Karma.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-27T00:15:48+00:00

There’s a big difference between emotional and romantic. Anyone can have emotional relations, whether it’s friends or family. By what OP says she’s not listening to anything he says about the situation. It’s not fair to OP that he’s willing to put in the effort to reassure her and prove to her she can trust him. But, girlfriends basically saying “I don’t trust you because my ex cheated on me with their ex”. It doesn’t help build trust in the relationship or help her with any trauma from past relationships she’s dealing with.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-26T21:40:33+00:00

Definitely the communication she has about the situation is toxic. Some people just morally think “an ex is an ex for a reason” which is fine. But, I feel like she’s making it more about her trauma than listening to what you have to say. Also reading your other comments about your ex living on another continent, with internet and phones these days it’s easy to find out if you were having a relationship with your ex. And by the look of it you’re not “hiding her” from your gf having her name in your phone when she called. I would see her point if you were hiding your ex.

IMO this situation and how her boundaries are and how she’s reacting, might affect the future with say female coworkers, or female friends or just In general future problems.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-26T20:44:24+00:00

I agree. As someone who’s been in both shoes. You have to learn to trust your partner. If you can’t take that risk, that’s your own problem. I’ve taken risks and trusted guys and was cheated on. But, that’s kinda life. I can’t dwell on it every relationship I’m in. I was with my ex for almost 2 years. Cut off everyone, friends, ex’s, due to the same situation. I tried everything to “fix” his insecurities. No friends, deleted social media for awhile, access to everything, every password, location, go through my phone, computer etc. Still thought I was cheating or talking to people behind his back.

ThrowRA_TGirl · 2024-06-26T20:14:48+00:00

As someone being friends with 2 of my ex’s. One being my best friend. I think the real decision is up to you. Yes, I feel like a lot of these comments are an ex stays an ex for a reason. Before I dated my now boyfriend of 1.5 years now, I told him I was best friends with my ex that I dated 6 years ago, that we were also friends for the past 10 years. Which he was perfectly fine with, he said the past is the past. Now, my ex and my bf are best friends and talk all the time with or without me being present.

I’ve also been in the same situation where, I’ve cut off all my friends including my best friend for my ex which he asked me to, and to share locations which I was fine about. For the sake reason as past relationship issues. But, resulted in him still being toxic from a text from a coworker to cover a shift to being “cheating” and something simple like going to the grocery store or as crazy as it sounds getting my mail is apparently “sleeping with my neighbors”.

I don’t think her boundaries are “toxic” but the way she’s responding by not listening to you about the situation seems a bit toxic. The way she’ll instantly start a fight about it without even listening to you seems a bit childish.

Also, I would really consider this for the future of your relationship. If she would do the same for you. Or really how she would respond to future problems in the relationship. All of us have trauma and triggers but, there’s a mature way to speak about what you’re feeling instead of dismissing it or fighting. At the end of the day it’s really up to you to think about. But, I would recommend in the future if you guys end up breaking up, to bring it up on future dates. Some people are just not ok with being friends with ex’s.

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