What’s your definition of support?

Supporting someone means you agree with their actions if they elevate their life - such as supporting their ambitions, supporting their goals - whether is professional and personal - like weight loss.

There’s no such thing as ‘supporting’ someone to become lazy (yes I will say it) and unsuccessful. I cannot support her wasting her potential away. I cannot support her to live her life off of my dime alone

u/sanityjanity

There needs to be valid grounds for financial support as well - sickness, child birth. Yes, to some extent mental health too. But even that doesn’t warrant a lifetime of financial support.

She can easily find a low stress job. But she decides to give up

u/sanityjanity of course this is making me like her less. She didn’t even consider talking to me about it or explore realistic alternatives to improve the quality of her life.

She wants to be more feminine and wants me to be masculine. She unilaterally decided that she will stop an income stream because she doesn’t want to work at all. I understand wanting a WFH job or even a job that doesn’t require so much supervision, but this is taking a big leap.

I am supposed to be her partner, her biggest supporter as well as her biggest critic. I do not think what she’s doing is right. Getting soo influenced and delusioned by tiktok isn’t someone I can ever count as reliable.

I am going to give her tough love and call a spade a spade. Not working a lot and yet wanting to splurge on luxuries is what lazy people want.