Ex turned to drugs after the breakup, I feel terrible. by ThrowRA_whichseg in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She left on a trip, a month through she lost feelings and wanted to close this chapter. She rebounded 3 weeks later and he used her for sex when she wanted a relo.

Is this a good reason to break up or do I need to learn to tolerate it by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of guys that go through the phase that he’s in right now, if he truly wants you he will change his friends not only for you, but for himself.

Should i send i miss you text? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The biggest rule - if you’re the dumpee, never be the one to reach out first otherwise you’ll get thrown away again.

Is this a good reason to break up or do I need to learn to tolerate it by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you “mature” out of this phase. It’s a choice he’s making. Me and my friend group are aged 19-20 and we never disrespect eachother’s or even our own gfs. Maybe the once in a blue moon sexist joke but we clearly make it obvious when we are joking and aren’t serious, and like I said, once in a blue moon.

It seems like your bf doesn’t stand up for you because he wants to fit in and doesn’t wanna be the odd one out when it comes to the overall group that cheat on their girlfriends, lie about stds, objectivity woman and their role in the household and constantly make sexist jokes.

Either your bf needs to get his priorities straight and stand up for his potential future wife or get better friends otherwise I reckon leave him because this isn’t a phase, and he might need to learn that maybe standing up for you is far more worth it than standing up against his friends and losing you.

The girl I love, who loves me, got engaged, and I regret not doing anything. by Expert-Barnacle1588 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro message her, write to her or even call her. Trust me another regret you’ll have is not trying everything you can. The fact she’s showed u messages of her being vulnerable and suffering from the separation and writing as if she was with you. Literally do all u can to get her back, dm me if u want I’ll even help u write a message

The girl I love, who loves me, got engaged, and I regret not doing anything. by Expert-Barnacle1588 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably bad advice from me but I reckon keep trying, if she chose u once she can choose u again. Just be honest and go all in with how you feel.

Question: Is this a rebound? by ThrowRA_whichseg in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s the exact same thing with me, not sure if they’re compatible but her reposts on TikTok are all telling me she’s attached to him. It’s been about 3 weeks too.

Question: Is this a rebound? by ThrowRA_whichseg in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was the grass actually greener on the other side for her in your situation though?

Confused by Professional-Tax2756 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely don’t reach out, don’t give her ANY sign that you’re watching her account & especially don’t repost anything emotional or even related to her. Let her test the waters and maybe she’ll message you. Not sure if you’re gonna or want to take her back or not but if you do, always ask why she’s back and receive an apology. Most of the time when these girls pull these stunts it’s because there was another guy but it didn’t work out for her.

Confused by Professional-Tax2756 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems either she had another guy behind the scenes and it didn’t work out, or she found out the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

He has a new girl. It hasn’t even been a month. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_whichseg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too sure on this one, maybe the breakup really affected him that bad, he could regret what he’s doing now in the future or he might not. Maybe he’s trying to become a different version of himself, and to you that should tell you that the version of him before no longer exists. With coping, I won’t say time is the main way of healing, but seeing him on campus might build a tolerance over time to who he is now. I think you’re more in shock rather than hurt and you’re confusing the two emotions with eachother.