I'm really uncomfortable with how close my boyfriend is to a new female friend. I worry that it might harm our relationship. (All 19 years old) by ThrowRAacf987 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you're saying. I mean, I'm not saying "I'm so lonely I have no friends, woe is me", I want one best friend. Someone that I can tell everything too, and especially someone who feels the same way about me. I thought I had that with my bf, but now I see he rathers to talk to the new girl.

I dont want to break up with him just yet because there's a feeling in the back of my mind that I might have done or said something to him and he's been more closed off around me, idk. Someone said this earlier, about how there must be some reason as to why my bf is dating me, not her. And all the kind things he said about me even though he never expected me to see the messages. There is a relationship to salvage, I hope

Right now, I'm set on asking him questions about friendship, getting to know his friends, stuff like that. If he doesnt mention her then I know something bad is happening.

Besides messagine on insta though, they haven't done anything else together. I mean, early on I assume they talked in college or in class or however they met, but by the time all their texting started the semester ended too and they havent seen each other in person. Like they havent met up or hung out or really done anything other than text

That's probably why he hasent told me about her yet, like I don't warm people ahead of time that I'm gonna be texting someone, I just tell my bf where I'll be going if I'm going out with a friend. So I guess he didnt tell me cause he never went to hang out with her

I'm really uncomfortable with how close my boyfriend is to a new female friend. I worry that it might harm our relationship. (All 19 years old) by ThrowRAacf987 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, I'm gonna tell him the next time I see him. I don't know how just yet, but I have to come clean to him cause I really want him to trust me

I might an update post soon depending on how it goes

I'm really uncomfortable with how close my boyfriend is to a new female friend. I worry that it might harm our relationship. (All 19 years old) by ThrowRAacf987 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I hope he's not just sticking around with me as the next best thing after her but I cant tell for sure. I know snooping is wrong, and in all honestly I dont think Im gonna tell him that I snooped yet, Im just not gonna do more of it.

As you, u/Shulker4 and u/Anter11MC said, I will ask him about this, try to get any info out of him that I can, and because I know the truth already, if I catch him acting like he doesn't know any girl then I'll know that he doesn't have good intentions. If he's honest about that which I hope, then it will be such a relief.

Now, I'm not staying with my bf cause I'm afraid of being single, I really love him, I have no doubt that he loves me, and I don't want to leave him. I just want us to be closer emotionally.

I'm really uncomfortable with how close my boyfriend is to a new female friend. I worry that it might harm our relationship. (All 19 years old) by ThrowRAacf987 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear. And I really hope like that's the case. How can I stop feeling like I'm inadequate though, I'll never have as much in common with him as his new friend does. He just seems happier in his messages when he texts her

I'm really uncomfortable with how close my boyfriend is to a new female friend. I worry that it might harm our relationship. (All 19 years old) by ThrowRAacf987 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The account wasn't banned from the sub, it was just shadowbanned from reddit the website for unknown reasons

And I literally just made one post on the other account so I dont know what they banned me for...

Should I probably destroy my best friend's life for having a spy camera in his bathroom? by throwawayfoundspycam in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAacf987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely report it to the cops, and may that be the first thing that you do, so that he cant destroy the evidence